I am currently trying to move forward with my partner of 5 years. We want to buy a house together but it means he will have to leave his mother who is in her late seventies. My fiancé has always lived with this mother, his dad died many years ago and they clung to each other at the time.
Moving forward is proving to be very difficult, future MIL will not make any decisions about her future, she has very few friends or family, but a partner she stays with once a week. She doesn’t do her own shopping, although is capable and only ever goes out with my fiancé. We will only be living about 30 miles away and will always help her out and visit but she just keeps crying all the time as she believes she is going to lose her son, she doesn’t want anything to change. This situation has gone on for a long time and we are no further moving forward.
Any advice would be helpful as to what we could do to make the situation easier. I have only met her twice, but I’ve tried so hard to make her feel included, but she won’t let me in!