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My poor dad

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Ladyofthelake53 · 04/11/2022 08:19

My dear dad is 79, fit and healthy for his age doesn't smoke or drink much, active all his life was an excellent squash player up til his 60s.

He had a fall in the bathroom Tuesday and was rushed to hospital. He has has a bleed on the brain, stroke.

Was talking but incoherent when we got to the hospital CT scan showed quite a big bleed thsts not operable but they were hopeful the brainnwoukd reabsorb the blood none of his limbs were paralysed.

He took a turn for the worse Wednesday and has had another bleed they've said there's no hope. They've withdrawn everything and he is on morphine, so we are waiting for him to pass.

It's like torture seeing him laying there slowly dying no water nothing I can't bear it. Trying to be strong for my poor mum. Theyve been together 55 years.

Anyone else here been through this please share
Thank you

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Harebrain · 04/11/2022 08:40

💐 sending my best wishes (didn’t want to read and run)

Usou · 04/11/2022 08:39

Sending you strength and hope.

My mum had a bad stroke at 58 which left her wheelchair-bound until she died 11 years later. My dad had a mild stroke a couple of years before he died at 82 which made his life considerably more difficult.

Although it probably doesn't feel like it at the moment, your dad has done very well right up until recently. You will probably appreciate this when you see others struggle with dementia etc. I feel strongly that we all have to go when it's our time. If it's your dad's time now, surround him and your mum with help and love. Sometimes in life we just have to find the strength and step up to the plate. It sounds like you are doing this admirably - you'll be alright, so hugs and best wishes from somebody who's been there.

bloodywitchescat · 04/11/2022 08:33

It's awful but as his body shuts down he won't be hungry or thirsty and the staff will keep him comfortable. I am so sorry

User57713 · 04/11/2022 08:30

I'm sorry. This part is so hard. It was expected for us, dmil had been sick for a long time.

The suddenness of it for you makes it even worse.

piglet81 · 04/11/2022 08:26

I am so sorry. Thinking of you and your family and sending you strength to get through this awful time Flowers

stayathomegardener · 04/11/2022 08:25

Poor you and poor him.

Dreadful situation x

MyLovelyPen · 04/11/2022 08:21

2 years ago with my dad - it was awful. Covid meant we couldn’t be with him.

I’m so sorry it’s happening for you - I hope the end is not too drawn out x

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