My poor dad

My sympathies - take care of yourself.

I'm so very sorry.

Thinking of you and your mum

Thinking of you and your family OP

So very sorry OP, I'm glad it was peaceful, thinking of you and your mum x

So sorry for the loss of your lovely dad

This exact same thing happened with my Nanna although a bit older.

Aged 90, no serious health concerns, gone home, got about perfectly well, went on holidays alone etc etc. She was tending to her tomato plants in her garden one morning and fell hitting her head on the concrete path. After two weeks in hospital with bleeds on the brain, she passed away.

You have my absolute sympathy OP. Xx

So sorry for your loss OP. So sad for you all. Look after yourself and each day at a time.

@Ladyofthelake53 omg I'm so sorry reading this. It upset me, a complete stranger so I can only imagine how tough it's been for you all. Sending you a big virtual hug my lovely. RIP to your dad xxx

Been through same with OH. It is so hard and my heart is with you. x

I'm so sorry xx

Oh OP I am so sorry 😞

oh so v sorry for your loss . xx

I'm so sorry 😞

How awful OP, I don't know what to say other than I am so sorry for you and your family. Your poor Dad :-( life can be so cruel at times. Look after yourself 💐

I lost my dad last year. He'd had 2 strokes many years apart. The second one wasn't even that bad, but in hospital he caught flu and got pneumonia and was a shell of himself. He went back home with carers coming in and my mum helping but it was too much and so went into a care home. This was during Covid so visits limited. He was OK but then deteriorated quite rapidly and was put on palliative care. Then end of life. Luckily the rules had changed slightly so we were able to be with him. Say what you need to say to him, they say hearing is the last sense to go.

This is awful. I'm so sorry. Sending so much sympathy.

It helped us to realise that dying is a process - my Mum had medication withdrawn and carers brought in mid December, but she didn't pass for six weeks. She was at home with us, and had us all around her, with grandchildren coming and going. Several times we were told she'd wouldn't get through the weekend, but she always was stubborn!

She didn't eat and barely drank for a month, but was comfortable and enjoyed spending time with her loved ones. When she wasn't sleeping, she was still able to give us some of our most touching moments. I remember her stroking DS's face when he said he was going to have to go back to work in London, and telling him she loved him. He never saw her again.

I send you my deepest sympathy, and hope that your memories will give you strength as you grieve.

Bless you. It’s hard. I think the comfort I’d find is that he’s enjoyed a long , healthy life until now and he sounds like a wonderful man. I think I’d be grateful he went from fine to end of life so quickly. My worse nightmare is needing to be looked after . It’s painful for you but he’s just in a lovely dopey sleep and they’ll make sure he’s comfortable . Just lost the grandmother who raised me , she rode her bike to the supermarket and mowed her lawn 2 days before a massive aneurism took her . She was 88 fit as a fiddle and then gone . She’d have wished for nothing else.
take care of yourself and take your time to process it all.

I'm so sorry op, what a horrible shock.
It may not be much consolation but my father passed 10 years after he had a severe stroke which left a lot of damage, and I wish he had gone immediately as he had no quality of life. Hopefully he's passing quickly and comfortably. Although I understand that doesn't help with the shock and loss you will all be feeling.
Big hugs to you and your mother x

I lost my wonderful dad In Sept after a massive stroke.
Id just woken up in America in the first day of our holiday and we got the call.
we booked flights and flew home the next day and I was able to stay with him until he passed away 9 days later.

Unfortunately, my mum is in a care home with dementia and in all honesty, dealing with her is worse than losing my dad.
The road is going to be bumpy and sad but take each day as it comes.
Sending lots of love x

Yes. My dad, 79, had a stroke abroad . We medivacced him home when he was fit enough but the next six weeks were a rollercoaster and he then had another stroke. The decision was made to withdraw medication and they told us it would be a matter of hours. He lasted five days, which was torture for my poor mother. My sisters live abroad and one flew back and forth several times, and they both came back and were able to say good bye.
The hospital was brilliant. He was a doctor and they treated him and my mother with the upmost respect. We were allowed to see him at any time, my sister stayed overnight.
Before he died, and when he was in neuro intensive care (so you couldn't stay overnight there) there was one night I went back to the hospital after my children were in bed. I talked to him for about an hour, about how much I loved him, that we would take care of my mother, that I was very happy in my marriage. I have no idea if he heard any of it, but it meant I felt that I had said everything I needed to.
I also lost my husband suddenly when he was 51 about nine months after my father passed.