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Elderly parents

Full knee joint replacement(s) at age 90

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Dreikanter · 17/10/2022 14:32

Has anyone had experience of an elderly parent having full joint replacements on one or both knees? My DM has decided that she wants both knees done at the same time and has now found a private surgeon that says he can do this (first surgeon she contacted wouldn't operate).

I'm concerned that she has underestimated the recovery and rehab necessary; she's on her own and plans to go to a convalescent home for a fortnight after discharge, and then go back to her own home. Both my DSis and I live a number of hours away and wouldn't be able to spend long periods of time staying with her. She has little muscle mass and hasn't been able to walk very far for a number of years, and I also suspect just won't want to do the physio.

She wants to rush into getting it done next month. My DSis and I have tried discussing the practicalities but she won't listen. She has had both hips replaced but was in her early 70s then and had my dad around to help (a lot).

Any advice / experience would be really useful.

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justforthisnow · 18/10/2022 21:06

Surely any comorbidities (the very best 90 year old will have at least a few) and the pre op anaesthesia assessment will outrule such a big elective surgery?

Dreikanter · 18/10/2022 21:02

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 18/10/2022 20:57

DH is a hip and knee surgeon. Her age wouldn’t prevent him operating, that would be down to any other comorbidities and how well she is in her health; but he would go through the pros and cons very thoroughly. He would NEVER EVER do both knees at once (he wouldn’t do bilateral hips either) and most decent consultants would say the same whatever your age, it’s really not the done thing anymore ~ yes, sometimes others would and IMO that’s around time and shunting people through quicker.

It should be noted that 1 in 10 patients who have a new knee are disappointed and that 10% continue to have ongoing pain.

And booking care for a good 6weeks post op is the best idea~Most patients only stay in 2-3nights post op.

Whatever happens, she will have a thorough assessment pre-operatively, and she should see OT and physio which should help. Good luck.

That’s really helpful - thank you.

A 6 week care stay sounds much more sensible.

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 18/10/2022 20:57

red4321 · 18/10/2022 20:48

That's interesting. I'm contemplating it for my next hip replacement as I felt dreadful for a week after the general. But I gather it's a pretty brutal operation - were you aware of any of it?

Not a thing. You just choose how zonked you want to be and I chose fully. You wake up like you've been asleep. None of that awful after general wooziness. That's what I hate.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 18/10/2022 20:57

DH is a hip and knee surgeon. Her age wouldn’t prevent him operating, that would be down to any other comorbidities and how well she is in her health; but he would go through the pros and cons very thoroughly. He would NEVER EVER do both knees at once (he wouldn’t do bilateral hips either) and most decent consultants would say the same whatever your age, it’s really not the done thing anymore ~ yes, sometimes others would and IMO that’s around time and shunting people through quicker.

It should be noted that 1 in 10 patients who have a new knee are disappointed and that 10% continue to have ongoing pain.

And booking care for a good 6weeks post op is the best idea~Most patients only stay in 2-3nights post op.

Whatever happens, she will have a thorough assessment pre-operatively, and she should see OT and physio which should help. Good luck.

DrawingPins · 18/10/2022 20:54

If she has one done, watch her like a hawk and if it hurts at all try to take her back to the original surgeon.

My DGM (89) had one done, all the physio, was walking really well for about six months. Then it started hurting — doctors said it was just the new knee settling, then bursitis, then septic arthritis. Turns out that her kneecap (they don't give you a new kneecap) had broken in two. She had to have it removed and has never managed to walk well since. It's such a shame.

The surgeon said if they'd caught it earlier they'd have tried to wire it (?), put her on bed rest, and then done the other knee so there wasn't as much pressure on the "good" leg.

So to me, both at once actually sounds quite good to avoid that (although I'm obviously not a doctor). I suspect recovery would be pretty awful though.

red4321 · 18/10/2022 20:48

That's interesting. I'm contemplating it for my next hip replacement as I felt dreadful for a week after the general. But I gather it's a pretty brutal operation - were you aware of any of it?

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 18/10/2022 20:43

red4321 · 18/10/2022 20:42

Thanks for that - the only thing DM had told me is that it would be done under epidural and not involve a general.

That could be the case. I was offered that for my hip replacement and I think the anaesthetist referenced something about being appropriate for older patients with heart issues. I chose the general anaesthetic but I think you can have the epidural plus sedation if you need it.

I had spinal block and sedation for both my hip and knee. I'd choose it again for my next hip. I hate having general

red4321 · 18/10/2022 20:42

Thanks for that - the only thing DM had told me is that it would be done under epidural and not involve a general.

That could be the case. I was offered that for my hip replacement and I think the anaesthetist referenced something about being appropriate for older patients with heart issues. I chose the general anaesthetic but I think you can have the epidural plus sedation if you need it.

CormoranStrike · 18/10/2022 20:13

I didn’t have a new replacement but a knee rebuilt. I was 40 - I totally underestimated the pain, was not allowed to weight bear for six weeks and recuperation took months.

id be worried, sadly, that your mum might never get out of that care home again.

bellocchild · 18/10/2022 20:11

I have to say that my two surgeries were NOT excruciating and that pain relief was on offer if I did. My problem was balance and that has been difficult. I'm still using a stick 18 months later. I think this would be a very ill-advised procedure for someone of 90.

urgen · 18/10/2022 19:37

I have two very elderly parents one in a care home.

I hope I am allowed to say I am heartily sick of older people deciding they will do what they want and stuff the consequences . After all they think they have you to pick up the pieces if the worst happens but of course they believe it won’t (at 90 plus).

You want to say OK do what you wish but don’t coming running to me if it goes wrong but they know and you know there you will be picking up the pieces again and again..

Dreikanter · 18/10/2022 19:08

@Greybeardy Thanks for that - the only thing DM had told me is that it would be done under epidural and not involve a general. One of my concerns is that she seems to know very little about the whole thing - proposed op, immediate recovery period and longer term rehab.

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Greybeardy · 18/10/2022 18:11

Has surgeon 2 spoken to his regular anaesthetist about her? At age 90, even with no major comorbidities, a single joint replacement is major surgery and comes with some risk. I would strongly suggest exploring whether there is an anaesthetic consultant pre-op clinic where they’ll be able to consider any other medical problems she has and give a better impression of her overall risk of morbidity and mortality if she proceeds.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 18/10/2022 16:24

Dreikanter · 17/10/2022 21:54

I’ve heard from a friend (fit, mid sixties) that it’s excruciating for the first few days. Hope you recover quickly.

It's a lot more than a few days. I had to live with my nan for a week as I couldn't manage my stairs

jazzybelle · 18/10/2022 14:38

Dreikanter · 17/10/2022 21:54

I’ve heard from a friend (fit, mid sixties) that it’s excruciating for the first few days. Hope you recover quickly.

Thank you. My op was a few years ago now. It's excruciating for much longer than a few days. Removing the staples was painful. The numbness from the nerves is also painful and continues for a long time. Sleeping is very difficult because of the pain and getting comfortable in bed. I had every painkiller offered.

geraniumsandsunshine · 17/10/2022 22:42

She'll never walk again if she does this

Dreikanter · 17/10/2022 21:54

jazzybelle · 17/10/2022 21:33

I've had just one knee done. The pain is excruciating and full recovery takes at least 18 months.

I’ve heard from a friend (fit, mid sixties) that it’s excruciating for the first few days. Hope you recover quickly.

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EmmaH2022 · 17/10/2022 21:50

jazzybelle · 17/10/2022 21:33

I've had just one knee done. The pain is excruciating and full recovery takes at least 18 months.

I feel for you.

what does "full recovery" mean? would something like jogging be okay?

jazzybelle · 17/10/2022 21:33

I've had just one knee done. The pain is excruciating and full recovery takes at least 18 months.

bellocchild · 17/10/2022 21:27

I am in my 70s and had both knees done six months apart. There were no issues with the TKRs but my lack of proprioception balance is still very difficult.

CandyLeBonBon · 17/10/2022 21:06

That's really interesting @Fivehares and @FixTheBone

FixTheBone · 17/10/2022 21:05

Bilateral joint replacements are much more common in private care systems as you halve some of the ancillary costs.

India in particular, I know it happens pretty frequently, the UK less so, I only did bilaterals twice in my training, so less than 1% of all joint replacements.

Fivehares · 17/10/2022 20:49

My friend turned 70 in September and has just had both knees 2 weeks ago today . In the states . He lost a lot of weight before the surgery , attended the gym 6 days a week in preparation for the last year to build muscle . He was discharged to a centre for physio for 2 weeks but they let him home as they trusted him to do the exercises and also his gym trainer is assisting him . He is in lots of pain . He iced his knees through the day . But he is determined to get walking and back to fitness . The work and effort he put in is phenomenal. The surgeon he used seldom does 2 knees together only on a rare occasion where he feels the candidate can withstand it .

Dreikanter · 17/10/2022 20:35

DeeCeeCherry · 17/10/2022 19:21

It's best she gets just 1 knee done at a rime. Its not actually unusual for a 90 yr old to have this operation.

The Hospital will do a care plan with her before shes discharged anyway, and thats what you need to be looking into when the time comes.

DM had same done at 82, her knee issues were impacting negatively, so painful, and operation has given her a far better quality of life.

As an adult whos lived life I think your DM knows what she wants, and you should support her decision. As well as look up information about operation; it comes across as if you dont know elderly people do have knee replacement operations.

I should think the surgeon will advise against having both done at same time if its not feasible

I know that some 90 year olds get knee replacements done, thank you. I’ve read plenty of papers on the topic.

It’s a private op so I have no idea if there will be any kind of care plan - there wasn’t when my DH had a private hip arthroscopy other than a couple of follow up hospital appointments and physio.

My concern is that the first surgeon flatly refused to operate at all, and this second one apparently will operate but my DM is hazy on the details. I have no idea what has been discussed and what she has said about her home circumstances. She didn’t take up my DSis’s offer to take her to the last consultation on a ridiculous pretext, which has set alarm bells ringing for me.

It’s hard to “support her decision” when I’m 4 hours away and getting minimal information from an unreliable source, yet me and/or my sister will be expected to drop everything to manage the fallout as a result of her decision.

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CandyLeBonBon · 17/10/2022 20:23

Thanks @FannyCann - I'm quite a way along the process tbh - I am under a surgeon now and we've agreed to go for it at the beginning of 2023 so all being well I should have the op by late summer - I'm a single parent so making sure I've got care in place is vital - even though they're teens, they don't cope well if I'm out of action!!

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