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Catastrophe - mum has discharged herself

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Hembria · 07/06/2022 20:39

My dm has been in hospital for about 5 weeks recovering from a lower leg amputation. The hospital discharged her to a nursing home, as they felt she lacked capacity to go home and it wouldn't be safe for her because she gets very confused and incontinent during evenings and nights.
Whist in the nursing home an OT tried to do a capacity assessment on her but said she was too sarcastic for them to complete it but they felt she didn't have capacity and should stay longer term in a home.
Today she discharged herself and the nursing home let her leave even though there is nothing in place for her at home. No toilet she can access, no bed she can access, nor a package of care 😨. The home didn't tell me she had left, i found out because the prosthetic limb service were trying to track her down so phoned me.
She is now sat in her wheelchair, which she is going to have to sleep in, with nowhere to go to the toilet. My dad is very frail, so I'm praying he doesn't try and help her up the stairs.
How the hell does this situation happen? How the hell do I fix it?

I'm lost for words.

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cultkid · 07/06/2022 20:54

Bring her to a&e

Does she have a uti ?

User0610134049 · 07/06/2022 20:52

Oh dear sorry to hear this. This should not have happened as if she was deemed to lack capacity to make a decision to leave then she should not have been allowed to do so. So that in itself should be followed up and reported to the adult social care team/CQC.

but now she is where she is, I agree you need to either persuade her to go back, at least for a period of time pending further assessment of her capacity and best interests/DOLS, and/or get urgent help from the Adult Social Care team covering her home address. Or if she’s only recently out of hospital back to the team in the hospital that arranged her discharge.

you could also get the GP and district nurses on board and explain the situation.

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Hembria · 07/06/2022 20:51

Thank you for responding @NwNmOldFace I will go and have a look for their number now.

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NwNmOldFace · 07/06/2022 20:42

First port of call phone your Mum's local adult social care team - Google the town name and adult social care, there will either be an out of hours phone number or a general number and when you call that it will direct you. Explain everything you've said here and that your Dad can't cope with her alone. You are unable to help and so they need to put emergency plans in place. Also make sure they know what the home has done; this is a significant safeguarding issue.

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