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Discharging mum from rehabilitation

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Katyy · 22/05/2022 08:03

Hi. Mum 90 lives alone in a first floor flat.She has poor mobility due to falling and breaking her hip 3 years ago. This is her 3rd fall, this time she’s fallen down her stairs, she has a stairlift, we don’t know how she fell because she loses consciousness before she falls due to a drop in BP. She had a small brain haemorrhage and cuts and bruises which all seem okay now.
She’s currently in a rehabilitation centre. I spoke with the social worker on Friday, and she seems to think she should return home, because that’s what she wants, and there’s nothing else she can do.
I’m so scared of her coming home, she is showing some signs of dementia which I told the SW about. It’ll only be a matter of time before she’s back in hospital. She has carers 3 times a day, but as I told the SW that still leaves 22 hours alone. Is there anything I should, or can do next ? Thank you.

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mdh2020 · 22/05/2022 08:49

Social services see care home as last resort because of the funding. If your mother can afford to pay herself (or you can) then you should start pursuing this. Eventually the hospital will refuse to discharge her to home. My DM has carers 4 times a day but has started falling, of course not when they are there. We are now having a social services assessment with a view to moving her into a home. This is of course not what any of us want but it is inevitable. We are all in our 70s and there are only so many times we can be called out in the middle of the night, She has an emergency cord and a button round her neck. I thought that meant that someone would go round. Apparently it means that they call me to go round. Last time she fell and was in pain there was a 90 minute wait for an ambulance and we were told they would’ phone and assess the situation first’.

KangarooKenny · 22/05/2022 08:38

You need to tell the SW that you cannot provide any care for your DM, and let her fail. It’s the only way if you think she should be in a care home.