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Can fil be forced into a care home?

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emilyofnewmoon · 18/05/2022 22:53

Fil has Parkinson and dementia and has been in hospital for 3 months following a fall at home. He falls constantly and mil was at her wits end looking after him before he was admitted (she is not in best of health either)
They want to discharge him shortly and he has refused to go into a care home. Mil has refused to have him home as she can no longer cope. He is deemed to have capacity at present so can he be forced into a care home if mil refuses to look after him?

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emilyofnewmoon · 18/05/2022 23:09

This is what I feared. She can't and won't look after him again and he can't look after himself. Awful situation for them both. Not sure how it's going to be resolved.

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exexpat · 18/05/2022 23:09

If MiL refuses to look after him and he refuses to go into a care home, would the solution be to have outside carers come in to look after him? They can't just discharge him with no care plan if he is assessed as needing one, and they can't force his wife to provide the care, but if he is co-owner/renter of the home, I don't think she can stop him coming back. If she really doesn't want to get involved, can she go and stay elsewhere for a while to make it clear that she refuses to step in?

lisavanderpumpscloset · 18/05/2022 23:08

Could you request a care package / respite to help your mil?

jimboandthejetset · 18/05/2022 23:04

If he has capacity to make the decision to return home then no he can't be forced to move into a care home.