Sorry if this is long but need to get it all out..
Dad has dementia and lives with my brother. He was doing what he could to care for dad, getting him up giving breakfast, plating up tea in the fridge. Then helping with bedtime routine when he got in from work.
A few weeks ago dad stopped heating his dinner up or making cups of tea for himself. I went round to heat it up on one day because I was able to get a lift, and was going to leave at 2 to get back for my kids. But things were bad. My dad kept soiling himself and saying he needed to pee but not passing anything.
I called an ambulance in pure desperation Hoping they would take dad in and we could go about getting the care he needs. I called for an assessment and was told it would take weeks. ,
They wouldn't take him but the following day a district nurse came round, my brother had left him in bed and he had soiled himself. They called an ambulance and he ended up in hospital.
They agreed that it wasn't safe at home and they would sort out a care package.
After about 2 weeks one came into place. They called me to say it was happening but dropped him off home, didn't tell me he had no belongings, was confused thought he was in someone else's house and would get into trouble. I had to have DH stay with him until my brother came home.
The next morning someone came and got him up, dressed medication and breakfast but the district nurse came at some point, found him confused and unable to stand and he was taken into hospital again.
That was last Monday. I went to visit him yesterday. He's now on the dementia ward but he was in bed, all uncovered in a pair of incontinence pants, more confused. I saw him the Friday before he was sent home and he was sat in the chair, dressed having a good conversation with me and smiling. But yesterday was awful. He kept saying when are you taking me home?
I don't know what is happening now. I've been talking to the admiral nurses and I've explained that my brother fucked up and hasn't put the poa in place, so I don't know how I can put any form of care in place. What are my options? She said the Dr would be doing a mental capacity assessment. If a social worker gets involved what do they actually do?