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Funeral or body disposal ideas please

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Filthycop · 05/10/2021 23:22

hello

help please

My dad is dying - it's cool, it happens he's 73 and at peace with it, breaking my heart but that is not what I need advice on.

The issue we have is that there is going to be no funeral - at my Dad and Mum's request (my brother and I would have preferred some kind of memorial but our Mum comes first and that is that)..... Our actual issue is that they want the cheapest, but greenest body disposal that they can get.

When my Grandfather died and wanted no fuss, they still had to pay for funeral cars and a cremation no one went to. My Dad doesn't want that.

In an ideal world he'd have left his body to medical science but they won't have him because he is to tall.

Can anyone help? what can we do? he'd rather not cremation because that isn't very green and is bad for the environment. My Mum found a woodland burial thing that was horrendously expensive.

Has anyone come across a cheap green body disposal thing?

Sounds harsh and un caring - but it really isn't we're trying to honour his wishes

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Ozanj · 06/10/2021 08:48

There are boats that do Hindu burials. They have permission to scatter ashes in specific parts of various rivers. You could just hire one without a priest and scatter the ashes. It is apparently really good for local ecosystems and so might offset the cremation aspect.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 06/10/2021 08:47

£2000 for a woodland burial actually seems quite reasonable to me when compared to how much a "normal" funeral with burial would cost (average in the UK is over £4000 I believe)

CMOTDibbler · 06/10/2021 08:42

My mum had wanted a green burial, but both my parents died at the height of lockdown and it wasn't possible. So they both had direct cremations, then I collected their ashes and scattered them in their favourite woodland, then had a number of trees planted (not officially in their memory, they charge a fortune for that) which they'd have liked and offset the carbon of the cremation

Williamshatnershorses · 06/10/2021 08:40

Could you do a direct cremation and then plant some trees/find some other way to offset the environmental concerns? That would seem to be the simplest way.

MereDintofPandiculation · 06/10/2021 08:37

I believe you are allowed to bury on land you own. Friend’s father was buried earlier this year on his farm, zero cost, he already had his own digger. I imagine it will impact on sale values and that there will be rules about telling the next owner.

Actually it appears you can bury anywhere with the landowner’s permission. So do you have a farmer or other landowner friend?

And you can bury at sea, but by the time you have hired a boat and got the necessary permissions it may well be pushing the £2000.

greenecofriend.co.uk/eco-friendly-funerals/

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Filthycop · 05/10/2021 23:49

@Greenmarmalade

I think you can find cheaper woodland burials if you look around (are you in the uk?)
yes - in UK woodland burials were upwards of £2000 - if you can find one cheaper - please let us know
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Greenmarmalade · 05/10/2021 23:36

I think you can find cheaper woodland burials if you look around (are you in the uk?)

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Filthycop · 05/10/2021 23:33

thanks but apparently cremations are very bad for the environment an they want to avoid cremation.

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Lockdownbear · 05/10/2021 23:29

You could do a very basic cremation without the cars and loads of people. And even have a couple of his favourite tunes / songs played from a Mp3 stick. If you don't want hymns and celebrant.

Speak with the crematorium directly see what they can come up with.