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I just can't.

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PermanentTemporary · 23/09/2021 19:04

Mum has moved back into the retirement flat she sold. We pulled out of the move when she decided she actually wanted to go back and there was no better option. She sold and moved originally after THREE YEARS talking about it. It nearly killed me pulling out of the sale, there was so much distress from the buyer.

She has been in the flat for literally 5 hours and has started talking about moving again. I was fairly brisk and said we'd do our best to make life good where she is.

I CANT DO THIS. and there is no way out. I can't do any of this.

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Topseyt · 23/09/2021 19:26

Just make it clear that you won't be providing any help to move. If she wants to move then she will have to manage it all on herself.

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PermanentTemporary · 23/09/2021 19:18

She wants to move back to where she was before - not the house but the town. OK but it is at least 2.5 hours from any of us. She's on her own, increasingly forgetful, physically not too bad but with some issues. We really do have to have one of us within reach, not for emergencies but for general backup. Where she is now is 30 minutes from me.

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Wolfiefan · 23/09/2021 19:14

It’s her place. If she wants to sell it then she will have to do it. Explain you don’t have the time and energy to go through all that again. Then refuse to engage.

steppemum · 23/09/2021 19:08

where was she going to move to?

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