My mother has dementia and is in a residential home. She's been happy there for nearly two years. In the past few weeks she's taken to calling me 20-30 times an evening demanding that she go home. She has no other home now, she is a widow and we sold the home she lived in prior to going into care.
I allow myself to only answer one or sometimes two of her calls each day to save my sanity, but last night she left a message to say she is being kept prisoner and was very agitated. Im terrified that the home may say they cannot handle her any longer and wondered if the gp could prescribe diaezepam or similar to calm her down. She is 84 and in mid stage dementia, I can't see that worrying about addiction at this stage is worth it, she may have to stay on them for ever but if it makes her less anxious each night and allows her to settle and not upset her friends and the staff I'd be less anxious.
It starts each night after supper, around 7pm and I think it's "sundowning".
Anyone know how else to help her?
Visiting is limited and I have to have a test each time and frankly we never got on so I'm struggling. I've no siblings to share the load with either.