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Helping elderly relative move home - progress and thanks!

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deathbyprocrastination · 21/04/2021 21:31

I've recently been helping an elderly relative sort out their housing situation and had some terrific support from posters on here but had to have my last thread deleted because of difficult situation that arose with a third party. Anyway, I just wanted to follow up and let everyone know that I'm ok and so is my relative. I was absolutely dreading today and couldn't sleep last night but we went to her home and packed the most important bits of her stuff today and then left it with professional cleaners / clearers to sort out the rest (at eye-watering cost). It's been a rough and super stressful few days but I feel we've jumped a big hurdle today and that things are on the up. The other person/people who were being so unpleasant haven't been in touch again and I'm hoping I won't have any more dealings with them, though my relative will probably still choose to. Mainly this is just a thank you to the likes of @Candleabra
@MereDintofPandiculation
@growinggreyer
@janeexotic
@gazelda
and many more who I haven't mentioned. You're all lovely Flowers

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deathbyprocrastination · 22/04/2021 12:46

Thank you both. I don't know if it's kindness exactly, I just somehow end up always being the default relative for getting stuff sorted for elderly relatives and I live in a permanent state of being both frustrated and irritated with them also very protective of them. I guess a lot of people are experiencing the same thing!

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constantsnaxking · 22/04/2021 12:16

I read this and thought you were amazingly kind to be so patient and helpful.

MereDintofPandiculation · 22/04/2021 08:11

You have no reason to assume guilt! You've gone above and beyond in dealing with this.

Please do come back in the future and let us know how things panned out. We won't forget you in a hurry and we'll all be hoping that everything turns out well for you.

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deathbyprocrastination · 22/04/2021 07:57

Thank you for your thoughtful message - I still feel pretty guilty about the whole thing and stressed about what’s still to be resolved but time with my immediate family (and on my own!) is exactly what I’m hoping for a a bit more of going forwards! Getting DM moved in will be stressful and she’ll need a fair amount of support but I’m holding onto the fact that she won’t actually be living with us so we will get our space back at least and there will be boundaries in place. Thank you again

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Mum5net · 21/04/2021 23:38

OP, you have shown so much patience and kindness. It sounds as if the balance of power in your household has rightly been restored and soon you will be able to prioritise your own needs. Wishing you lots of time out and about with your immediate family in the coming months and that the two elderlies find an equilibrium that involves you less.

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deathbyprocrastination · 21/04/2021 23:19

Thanks both. We're ok - a bit wiped but ok.

DM situation still dragging on but hoping to have her new accommodation sorted soon as well.

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JaneExotic · 21/04/2021 22:22

Oh that’s so good. I hope your mum’s situation gets sorted too.

CattingTime · 21/04/2021 22:00

I remember this one, hope you and your aunt are ok!