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Falling out over Bojo and general Tory incompetence

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Peterbear · 07/01/2021 19:32

I've always got on so well with my mum who is late 70's despite having very different political views - which we never discuss.
Today however, I found myself having a huge rant about the Tories,boris and Brexit and venting my frustration re missed opportunities re covid ( I.e. earlier, harder lock down , properly funded NHS etc etc).
My mum defended the gvmt every step (her life hasn't really changed much - ardent daily mail reader) - my life has changed massively and in my view unnecessarily partly due to government incompetence.
We had an awful and uncomfortable conversation/row and I wish I'd kept my views to myself (which I normally do to avoid arguments)I'm just so bloody angry though.
Feel sad and awful now but don't feel sorry for my long held views. Should I apologise? Do others have similar fall outs? How do you reconcile such huge differences? Am really upset about this.

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chocolatepowder · 07/01/2021 19:52

Why would you rant at your mum? She's entirely entitled to her own opinions. You don't have to try and change her viewpoint. What are you , a disciple?

FelicityFeathery · 07/01/2021 19:52

Just say sorry to your parents and go back to your previous policy of not discussing politics with them

It's honestly not worth the fall out as you've discovered

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Peterbear · 07/01/2021 19:51

Thankyou for slightly more balanced messages - glad it's not just me.will avoid in future/ agree to disagree. X

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applecatchers36 · 07/01/2021 19:50

Peter your Mum is entitled to her view and you also are entitled to yours. Similar to the Brexit vote this likely splits generations. Pensioners are not going to loose jobs, businesses or correspondingly being worked to the bone as a keyworker. Have you shared with her how your life has changed since Covid, does she have any idea? Maybe talking to her about this might help to broaden her narrow views and even allow her to feel some compassion for your situation? It's really hard when it's your mum though. Have you got a sibling you can debrief your frustration to?

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Peterbear · 07/01/2021 19:49

Through thick and thin - no disrespect but wasn't what you just said to me also a tad pointless and upsetting? Or was that the point?

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RunningFromInsanity · 07/01/2021 19:49

First rule is don’t discuss politics with anyone!
Just say you apologise for getting angry, you realise you have very different views and it’s probably best not to discuss them

RigaBalsam · 07/01/2021 19:47

Hugs OP I do this all if the time with my parents.I hate it when people can't critically think and it's even worse when you love them. I used to feel like I had to challenge everyone but now I let it go with colleagues. I wont change their mind. With parents don't feel bad.Is your Mother feeling bad? If not then don't either. You are right and she is wrong. Just let it blow over. Agree to disagree. ThanksThanksThanks

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Peterbear · 07/01/2021 19:42

If you can't say anything nice - go on social media as they say. ;)

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Peterbear · 07/01/2021 19:39

Well thanks ' sisters' for your support :(

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 07/01/2021 19:38

What did you expect to happen? You started a rant at her, what was the point. Just causing upset all round, and to someone you love. Pointless.

EagleFlight · 07/01/2021 19:36

Whilst I agree the government has made a lot of huge mistakes, I gather the Daily Mail is also quite scathing of them so I’m not really sure what your mum reading comes into it.

I would have kept (and do) keep views to myself. Especially right now. I don’t agree with apologising for the views I hold but I would apologise for starting the conversation and that in doing so upset has been caused.

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