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Mum keeps saying I’m stealing from her

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SinisterBumFacedCat · 02/12/2020 11:10

I’m pretty sure DM has dementia, forgets thing, looses stuff, cannot do any admin or financial stuff etc. My stepdad took his life last year, probably due to stress. I’ve done loads for her and she keeps accusing me of coming to the house stealing stuff, stupid things like CDs. Of course it’s not true. I am really upset and struggling. I spoke to her GP who says I need to get her in for a routine blood test and urine test but realistically I can’t see her agreeing. What do I do? Posting here because dementia board is too quiet.

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rbe78 · 02/12/2020 11:17

You need support, and there is quite a lot offered - but you need to jump through a few hoops to get it. First things first is to get a diagnosis of dementia - everything else will flow from that. Get an appointment with her GP as soon as possible, that's the first step.

Check out the NHS Dementia Guide - the 'Care and Support' tab takes you through what is available.

Good luck, I know this must be hard.

1stDecember · 02/12/2020 11:14

Yes, that sounds like a classic symptom.

It must be hard for you Flowers but you need to not take what she says personally.

Don't know what to advise about the test. Maybe present it as a thing that has to happen yearly now, and it's time for her to go - ie don't give her any choice?