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Just had a phone call - it's covid

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SomelikeitHoth · 18/11/2020 15:09

Nursing home just called. MIL has Covid. DH cannot go for 14 days.
The residents are tested regularly. My husband was due to visit standing outside, while MIL would be within hearing distance in a heated conservatory with the door open.
He's has had to do a fair few visits trying to talk through a window, which was impossible as MIL has a weak voice from a stroke.
I am so upset for him. It's another step back. My MIL has not seen her only grandchild or me since March. This feels so inhumane

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WeAllHaveWings · 28/11/2020 10:47

Sorry for your loss @SomelikeitHoth 💐.

Of course you can talk about it on here. I lost my mum to covid last month and it is such a difficult time, prepare yourself that the funeral will feel very different as covid rules and restrictions will intrude in the normal proceedings.

MereDintofPandiculation · 28/11/2020 09:36

@SomelikeitHoth

I'm sorry. I should have started a separate post with a warning . Admin please remove if needed

Thank you for posting. It's good to know about it.

Anyone reading this board has already had to learn to cope with some pretty rubbish things. We're tougher than average.

Rinsefirst · 27/11/2020 21:51

I also think it may be helpful to know in advance, but it is very sad.

BefuddledPerson · 27/11/2020 20:29

sorry for your loss.

I think it is fine to have shared this information, it may help someone else prepare.

userxx · 27/11/2020 20:25

That's sad news.

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SomelikeitHoth · 27/11/2020 20:21

I'm sorry. I should have started a separate post with a warning . Admin please remove if needed

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Rinsefirst · 27/11/2020 18:38

Thank you @SomelikeitHoth for sharing the details of what happens afterwards.

I am so sorry to hear your news. It is incredibly sad.

Bluepolkadots42 · 27/11/2020 18:09

So sorry- this is such a distressing situation for all involved

TheHobbitMum · 27/11/2020 17:44

So very sorry @SomelikeitHoth my thoughts are with you all

Svelteinmydreams · 27/11/2020 17:41

So very sorry @SomelikeitHoth. Such a hard time for you all. 💐

missrks · 27/11/2020 17:39

peboh · 27/11/2020 17:37

I'm so sorry @SomelikeitHoth sending all my love and strength to your family

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SomelikeitHoth · 27/11/2020 17:35

If it's ok to talk about bereavement ?
Be aware that with Covid, we were not allowed to ask for MIL's hair to be brushed or her nails done, once she had passed away.
Also, cannot have her dressed in some nice clothes. They will only place them in the coffin. I hope this might help anyone else prepare arrangements, at what is an overwhelming time.

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Tinselette · 25/11/2020 23:51

I'm so sorry somelikeithoth. It's awful.

littlealexhorne · 25/11/2020 23:26

I'm so sorry. Glad your DH could be with her, sending love and strength to you all.

Honeywort · 25/11/2020 23:05

for you, your dh, your MIL and for everyone affected by this disease. Thinking of you

cataline · 25/11/2020 22:55

I'm so sorry. This is such a hard thing to deal with anyway and COVID just makes it even more so.

Givemeabreakpls · 25/11/2020 22:55

I am so so sorry.

DelphiniumBlue · 25/11/2020 22:52

This is so sad. Hoping DH can take comfort from the fact that he can with her.

LemonadeFromLemons · 25/11/2020 22:49

Sending you hugs. This has just happened to my family. If it helps at all the family member who visited the now deceased did not get covid despite being in the room with them for two hours (they were cautious though).

Miip · 25/11/2020 22:33

I'm so sorry for this utterly shitty situation. I'm glad your DH can be with her.

Frazzled2207 · 25/11/2020 22:30

I’m so sorry. This situation is so awful.

I’m really pleased however that your dh is able to see her.

newnamenancy · 25/11/2020 22:20

I'm so sorry. Words won't do anything, but I just wanted you to know that we're thinking of you and your family tonight 💐

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SomelikeitHoth · 25/11/2020 22:17

Thankyou for talking to me everyone. Much appreciated

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Mumdiva99 · 25/11/2020 21:06

I am so sorry about your MiL. Thank goodness they are letting your husband see her.

Even if he does get the illness most people will be OK. Please try not to worry about him. He's younger and fitter.

(I've had a couple of my kids sent home at different times to SI - they and their classes have been fine....the virus hasn't spread through them and their classmates beyond the original person.)

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