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Talk me through what I need to do - dad died, mum going into care

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CMOTDibbler · 24/03/2020 11:48

After stubbornly clinging onto life by the fingernails for years, my dad died last night/this morning. He was found by the district nurse this morning - mum (who has severe dementia) hadn't realised.

So, mum needs to go into care today which the emergency social worker is organising. But she'll need to move nearer me. And I need to invoke my power of attorney over all the finances to pay for her care etc etc, then sell dads car, the house, so on.
Dad will be going to the coroner, so I can't do the funeral stuff yet, but have spoken to the funeral directors that he wanted to use, and obv there are restrictions at the moment - he wanted a small funeral anyway.

What do I need to do? And how do I do it under lockdown?

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granadagirl · 24/03/2020 12:16

I’d imagine the funeral director should lead to in what to do in the current circumstances

I’m sure I read funerals are still going ahead but only small gatherings in the church
And obviously no event after for family

There’s no good time for a death, but at the moment it seems even more of a stress as nobody knows what they can can’t do in some situations
So sorry x

blardyfeck · 24/03/2020 11:56

Sorry for your loss 💐

ChipsyChopsy · 24/03/2020 11:55

I'm so sorry.

I have no specific advice, but I imagine you will be guided by all the bodies that are involved (all of which will know how the new measures impact their job).

Look after yourself.

CMOTDibbler · 24/03/2020 11:55

Thank you SoupDragon, the death certificate copies tip is a good one

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SoupDragon · 24/03/2020 11:53

So sorry for your loss Flowers

I can't offer any practical advice and the current circumstances certainly complicate matters with things like registering the death (get a good number of copies of the death certificate as we needed lots to sort out finances etc).