The Cockroach Cafe Mark 2 (general coping with oldies)

Good point

Ironing the newspaper? Genius. Maybe I'll do that to my post when it arrives. You'd have to avoid the little plastic windows in the envelopes - they'd make a right mess of your sole plate.

Ironing newspapers- hmmm must tell dm.......

Ironing the newspaper? Genius. Maybe I'll do that to my post when it arrives.

PIL are taking lockdown very seriously. They have been out exactly once, to the cashpoint, armed with masks, gloves, hand san etc.

MIL has taken to ironing the newspaper every morning before PIL reads it. I said "how very Downton Abbey" which I thought was funny, but it didnt go down well...

I mean, I do get it, he is 90 in July and she is 82. And they are very fortunate where they live and to have a good support network. But ironing the newspaper made me laugh!

cockroach to all

Having to answer the same questions and explain no you haven’t been anywhere and no I won’t cut your hair( unless she wants one like dh on number 2...) and yes it is quiet everywhere..... get v hard.
Hope you are doing ok nota and country
cockroach everyone.

And when on earth are my boys going to have children

That's a fun one. DS1 is in a similar situation, a couple of months longer. At least mum doesn't think they are getting married but does keep asking why they aren't yet.

My DD has a boyfriend, they are about 6 months into their relationship. DM thinks that they are about to get married (they aren't) and that she hasn't been invited. So I get the enquiries about a wedding that doesn't even exist!

nota it grinds you down trying to explain the same thing every day doesn't it. When mum goes on about the wedding I just say we'll have to see what happens and pretend June is long way off now. MIL now has a chest infection but apparently it's a normal one so she's on antibiotics.

My DM also doesn't understand, and keeps on at me to take her to get her hair cut. I keep having to dodge the issue.

Glad you got some sleep and you are making time for you.

The download worked. I managed to get to sleep even if it was only 45 mins before the alarm went off. I do go for a walk first thing every morning, we are lucky to live where we do and I go to the yard and see my horse in the evening. A couple of the other owners are vulnerable so I'm looking after 7 each evening so they don't have to come out. I love the bit about different boats in the same storm.

country download away. You are dealing with so much s£&* and uncertainty. 🌺🌺🌺
I read a wonderful quote which said were not in the same boat- we are in the same storm but different boats. Some people like you have so much more uncertainty and worry on every imaginable front.
How are you looking after yourself? Can you get out for a walk/ into a garden? Please try and find ways to recharge- but rant away here. 🌺🌺

Do you mind if I have an early morning, can't sleep download? Just struggling with flooding the being strong for everyone bit tonight. Dad, 93 and frail had a fall the other night and mum called the ambulance. Paramedics got him up and checked him over and decided he was just badly bruised so he didn't go in but it I'm scared I won't see him again. Mum clearly has some form of dementia and can't understand that DS2s June wedding won't be going ahead. Hopefully they can still get married and hopefully DH and I will be there but every day she tells me how much she is looking forward to it and I've given up explaining. DS2 is due to start university in Finland in August and can't postpone to next year because of Brexit and I'm scared that it will be years until I can see him again if there is no vaccine. I haven't seen him since Christmas, he was due to come down at the end of March.
MIL isn't coping well and is refusing to get up 2 or 3 days a week so FIL is getting very distressed.
DH is self employed and has no work. I'm still working but all my projects are on indefinite hold and I'm working entirely on Covid impacts so I can't get away from the bloody virues. God only knows whether I will have a job afterwards if projects get cut to save costs.
I know there are people in worse situations but tonight I'm just done.

Havent been here for a while, I feel so much for those of you coping with oldies, especially if in a care home with no visiting and all of the associated anxiety.

I hope everyone is doing as well as they can cockroach to all

It’s shocking, nota . 🌺🌺for your sil.
What’s happening in care homes is shocking.

Awful to read the stories about the spread of the virus in care homes. My SIL works in one and said that the staff ran out of PPE last week, but she is carrying on going in to work because the people wouldn't have anyone to look after them otherwise.

Hello all. How are you all doing? Calm here although dm getting cabin fever and missing her cleaner/ hairdresser etc.....
Scary headlines about over 70s being locked down until a vaccine..😮😮.hope they are fake news.

picklemewanuts you don't even need to inform DVLA if you lose sight in one eye as long as you can pass the statutory tests. Whether he should be driving anyway is another subject but his licence has recently been renewed. At least the current situation will give his brain time to adapt.
MIL isn't coping well with not having visitors or little trips out, they are the things that bring her pleasure and give her something to live for. Some days she is refusing to get up so he is having a rough time of it all round.

Did you say he usually drives, Country? That will be a blow. Though slightly softened by being unable to go anywhere anyway, right now!

So sorry country that must be tough in normal times but so hard now. 🌺🌺

oh I'm so sorry to hear that. Awkward bugger or not, that is hard. And of course will probs make him more awkward for you

DH is finding it tough not going over but FIL is scared of anyone getting sick. He can be an awkward bugger but I really feel for him tonight

That sounds tough Countygirl. Poor thing to have to come to terms with that, on top of everything else that is going on.