The Cockroach Cafe Mark 2 (general coping with oldies)

yolo that’s brilliant brilliant news. Your gang so deserve it.
autumn how are you keeping busy?
nota thinking of you.
And cockroach all

Yolo “ we say to each other every day 'thank god grandma is not here”

That makes me feel better.

Such good news re your DH!

sandwich we are actually really good as DH deemed cancer FREE !!! following phone consult with oncologist. Some more scans and colonoscopy still to come (god knows when) but bloods showing zero.
All 4 of us home now, pretty calm, but we are lucky - big house and big garden so can all get away from each other.

I know for those of you still coping with oldies how bloody hard it must be, we say to each other every day 'thank god grandma is not here'. cockroach to all.

Thank you sandwich

That’s good that your mum was able to go in the garden.

rose I hear you. Sending a hug too. Can you watch something on your tv to cheer yourself up?
You must feel really trapped. I couldn’t live with dm.
yolo how are you all doing?
Such strange times. Had to insist dm did NOT go outside in the garden on her own-she did with me yesterday- first time in 6 months... but v wobbly.....

Thank you Trumpton

I don’t know really

It will help if mum isn’t crying all day but that’s so unfair of me to say isn’t it?

Meanwhile, I’m watching closely for possible further lockdown measures. I figured if I was with mum, I would be allowed to return home....I don’t want that window to close. India’s crackdown has stunned me - they have 10 deaths!

We all need somewhere to argh sometimes.
What can you do to makes yourself feel brighter , do you think ?
Or is it just a case of ploughing through .
It’s so hard , I am in quarantine following chemo and a mastectomy and I know mil is missing me dreadfully but I have another 10 days of quarantine to go .
Our rules are slightly different here and I usually do her shopping and change her bed .
Do you have something to treat yourself tomorrow ?
Be kind to yourself .

Thank you yolo

aargh indeed autumn, big safe hugs across the ether.

Vortex of despair alert

I’m missing my home terribly and tomorrow would have been my parents 52nd wedding anniversary so mum will be upset.

Just wanted to “argh” somewhere.

Trumpton I'm sure my Dad would recognise them (I certainly do, and must have learnt them from somewhere) - similar age to yours, also an engineer. Also spent much of his life working closely with military personnel, which has given him a rich vocabulary, normally not used, but which I had a taste of once when he rang me having failed to switch the burglar alarm off. I didn't recognise him, put on my snootyest voice, said I wasn't going to listen to language like that and put the phone down .

Funny how things turn out. No way could I laugh at a lift breaking down at a care home during a time that’s already extra bad.

SNAFU. Situation normal , all fouled up

FUBAR Fouled up beyond all recognition

dint see if your dad recognises the above words , used with great glee my my engineer dad who would have been 98 by now .

He took great delight in “ the innate hostility of inanimate objects “

dint I am laughing at your Dad's delight in the system failure! Mine would have been exactly the same.

Happy mothers day one and all, whether you still have a mother, or you dont, or you are a mother or you arent. and of course, cockroach all round.

Yes, carers do so much for such low pay.
Dm is v lucky with hers.
yolo today can’t have been easy for you..
nota sending hugs

Carers deserve so much more than they get - money, respect, kindness, time....

mere oh those poor staff!

I’m just speaking to a friend who is not seeing his mum but she still has carers going in. Seems mad to me.

nota

sandwich Df phoned me yesterday. Seems to have forgotten his plan for Cornavirus, but was in cheerful mood - the lift has broken down at the home, and they're all in chaos carrying dinners up and downstairs because they can't get residents on the top floor down to the dining room. There's nothing that cheers my father up more than watching a technical failure cause chaos. (provided it doesn't hurt people).

nota as we all know we lash out at our nearest and dearest... you did what was best. big hugs xx

So sorry nota that’s awful. You are doing the best you can for him.
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Thank you all. Ironic that on mother's day I should feel like a total betrayer of my son. He has sent me a text message this morning telling me to fuck off and that he will never forgive me for putting him through this.

nota we’ve been through so much on this board together- please feel welcome to post if it could help you at all.
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nota I’m so sorry.

If you want to post about it here, I definitely don’t mind.

Hugs from a safe distance.

nota we can listen. So sorry to hear this xx

Thanks sandwich but I really don't want to derail this thread into being about something completely different than what it should be for. x