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LPA - can I refuse to be attorney?

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 17/12/2019 14:04

My parents drew up their LPAs nearly 10 years ago. I'm an only child so they made me attorney. Didn't really ask me .... I was pretty low contact with them - and really don't get along with my father. My circumstances were very different then - I was (unhappily, although they didn't know that) married to a high earner, didn't work as had a disabled DC. Parents lived an hour and a half away. I had a long, acrimonious divorce, was made homeless. All very traumatic. I'm coming out of it now. I work full time, long hours and an hour long commute.

My mother died about 5 months ago and my father is increasingly frail, and has fallen a lot - just been discharged from hospital with a care package. I don't visit - I'm low contact for good reasons (won't go into them here). The social worker asked if I had POA. I have realised that I don't want to be his attorney. I'm already running my disabled DCs life, including care and health decisions and finances, so I don't have time for a start. And I don't want to.

Do I have to do anything to 'resign' from this?

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Parahebe · 29/12/2019 18:46

@AutumnRose1 the OP must have signed the forms originally, but I think she means it wasn't really discussed and she wasn't asked, it was just expected.

Glad you have found the form on the OPG website to disclaim, OP. I'm LPA for my mother and I did subsequently regret agreeing, so I can understand how you feel.

AutumnRose1 · 28/12/2019 10:54

How did they do that without you signing? That’s shocking.

You also need to inform social services that you won’t deal with anything, otherwise they’ll keep chasing you.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 17/12/2019 17:30

Thank you Grumpy I've found the form I have to fill in on their website.

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GrumpySausage · 17/12/2019 14:12

Yes you can disclaim. You need to contact the Office of the Public Guardian for guidance on how to do it. Also check out their website which is very helpful.