The Cockroach Cafe (the successor to the Shiny Thread)

Random thought

Being placed in the position I’m in has led to me making some bad choices

The sense of panic, the sense of “do anything that will help mum, be friends with anyone who will help mum”.

I think I have recovered my sanity somewhat. The Winter Solstice seems a good day to acknowledge those mistakes and move on.

This is the thing
The person suggested it because thinks mum and I both will really benefit from a cat, I live in a small flat so not an option for me.

So she literally said, oh your mum will be stuck with it if you actually just get one, turn up with it and all the stuff, she won’t be able to say no.

I am not someone who behaves like that, so, er, no!

*herself!!

That's a beautiful ring!

My mum has a cat (s) she is slowly collecting more!! It causes alot of issues - she (before carers) fed the cats like kings and didn't eat her half. The food stinks the house out. She will NOT close her backdoor. Even in midwinter. Bloody cats use the place as a hotel not interested in human interaction. So not even company.

She had a dog that i got her when my dad passed away. Tiny little puppy that was abandoned at my work over Xmas. The tiny puppy grew into a 60kg yeti!!! That i ended up walking and he had lots of health issues . Never again.

I love dogs and cats ( more than i like people) but as a carer- just no!

I hope everyone is managing. I actually got my mum to Tesco yesterday. Miracle! There's still a few days for potential drama yet!

Autumn somebody suggested to my mother she get a cat, and she pondered it for a long time before mercifully forgetting. All the while I was sweating on it thinking 'one more thing for me to look after...'.

DB took DM out shopping yesterday so I nipped round while they were out and blitzed all the paperwork she's been shoving to one side as she doesn't comprehend it. And the tree and decs I put up in the dark looked even worse in the cold light of day!

Aww kitty.
I want one.

Someone actually suggested just gifting my mother a cat 😂

I’m thinking to buy an opal ring too but only a little one.

Gin n takeaway tonight
Bought huge opal and diamond ring with insurance claim!
I always ‘do’ spending when I’m depressed to cheer me up or to commemorate or Mark a specific and special event
Dad was so special it had to be big and memorable
I have a thing about Opals too

Cat love for anyone who needs it
I’ve been managing my grief by throwing money at the problem

I’m 5ft 1’. I think this has a major effect on my life experiences!

And the conversations and deals done in the gents.......

I'm definitely a country mouse now, I do still love London but even when we go and stay with friends there for just a night I just get desperate for space and to be able to see the sky. (And they live in a very leafy, exclusive part, but it's still not the same!)

Mere don’t say that you’re becoming limited, you’re not at all

I have a fear of everywhere turning into London because when I finally move, I don’t want it to be like this!

Yes dint the crowds are quite overwhelming..... I try and avoid peak times.
yolo that’s our local hospital........ and I have to say, in the recent years when times I’ve been there with dm on many occasions the care been great, caring and compassionate. But their services have been reduced like no night a and e and moved 20 miles away....

Did anyone watch The Cure on C4? Chilling, but so true to our experiences.

I enjoy getting into London, going to a gallery, or show- and getting on a train home!

London is amazing, i have a real sense of belonging which is weird because I've never lived there. My DP is from Lewisham though and used to courier in London so we always manage to find parking. I'm always glad to leave though.

I dunno... I like going to London for a show or a meal or something, but am always so glad to get out again. Lived there for almost 30 years, cannot imagine living there now. So many people! And you cant see the sky for all the buildings and the lights! (old gimmer) BUT the people watching is amazing, and so much choice of places to go...

Mere 2008?

I think you might find it pretty horrendous tbh. There's no glamour - despite the tall buildings, which do look grand from Primrose Hill or something - and the overcrowding is much worse, even though I thought 2008 would be a tipping point. How foolish I was!

The cactus, whose face you can't see because he is old and frail, sings and dances Feliz Navidad. The bearded one next to him looks exactly like our next door neighbour and used to sing and dance, but appears to have died this year - must try new batts.

Oooh lovely!!!

ooh and here's another view!

LC is one of my favourite albums, along with Pulp Different Class and so many Bowie I cant choose...

We have some of mum's decs in our porch at the moment - always do the porch up fan-tack-stily!