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Doctors have just moved my mum onto end of life pathway

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JontyDoggle37 · 04/08/2019 17:28

She’s been in hospital two weeks after a fall and pneumonia, suddenly deteriorated this afternoon, barely conscious and quite distresssed now. Doctors have said this it, waiting for my husband and could do with a handhold

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MereDintofPandiculation · 09/08/2019 09:38
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stucknoue · 08/08/2019 21:09

Thanks thinking of you

Mummyh2016 · 08/08/2019 21:08

Please take time to care for yourself. 5 years ago I spent a week watching my grandad pass away, I remember that final drive home from hospital vividly. It was a relief that things were now going to get back to normal, until I realised it meant he was no longer with us so things weren't going to be normal again. It's such a big thing being with someone as they pass on Flowers

Outsomnia · 08/08/2019 21:02

So very sorry for you all. You must be exhausted.

I had many a tear in my eye reading your story. It mirrors that of so many including myself. I sat with dear Mum every day all day and many a night too. Played her favourite songs on the ipad with earphones in her ears. She smiled a lot when she heard her favourite songs, but was not speaking much.

All I can say is that a peaceful passing with no distress is what everyone one of us would like for ourselves and our loved ones. And having seen the kindness and dignity with which Mum was treated was such a comfort. She passed away when I went out for a walk around the block. They often do that. But I have no regrets on that front at all.

And they often rally too for a day or so. I couldn't believe it. One day she was nearly gone, then bingo! back to sitting up, drinking her favourite pineapple juice off a spoon and having a bit of a laugh for an hour or two. One day later she was gone.

Bless you and bless them all.

thesandwich · 08/08/2019 20:47

So sorry for your loss 🌺🌺

ineedaholidaynow · 08/08/2019 19:39
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PonderingPanda · 08/08/2019 19:37
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Windygate · 08/08/2019 19:34

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm glad your mum passed peacefully Thanks

MrsMozartMkII · 08/08/2019 18:21

Have been thinking of you and your Mum.

May she rest in peace Flowers

greathat · 08/08/2019 17:50

Sorry for your loss. Remember to look after yourself now

maimeo · 08/08/2019 16:46

May your lovely mum Rest In Peace, Jonty, and may you have peace and strength over the coming days Thanks

Finfintytint · 08/08/2019 16:44
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rainbowruthie · 08/08/2019 16:31

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Drum2018 · 08/08/2019 16:22

So sorry for your loss. Get a good rest tonight. You've had such a tough few days. Don't be rushed into any arrangements. Take time to do things as you feel best.

VictoriaBun · 08/08/2019 15:53

I'm sorry for your loss.Flowers
You will look back on this and wonder how you managed and coped, but it is done with love. Take care of yourself.

InTheHeatofLisbon · 08/08/2019 15:48

Oh Jonty I'm glad this part is over, for you and for your Mum. Flowers

Whatever happens next, take it in your own time. As pp said, expecting it doesn't make it easier. Sending love.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 08/08/2019 15:46

Glad your vigil is over Jonty and so sorry you've joined the team of those who watched and waited.

Sending love and strength for the next bit. Knowing it was coming does not ease the heartache ❤️

Weenurse · 08/08/2019 14:45

Glad she passed peacefully after her sisters visit. 💐 and hugs

Linseedlill · 08/08/2019 14:45

I'm sorry for your loss op. It's still a huge shock even when it is expected, so go easy on yourself. It was so good that you could be with your mum in her last days and hours and I'm relieved for you both that the end was peaceful Flowers

ajandjjmum · 08/08/2019 14:40

Sending you love and thoughts. Glad your Mum passed peacefully - I know that will give you comfort over the coming days.

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JontyDoggle37 · 08/08/2019 13:47

Thank you everyone for all your support. Mum held on long enough for her sister (who’s also been unwell) to visit, and passed away peacefully this morning about ten minutes after her sister left.

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Lepetitpiggy · 07/08/2019 13:47

Echoing what others have said - mum was given a week after two devastating stokes that took her mind off to some alternative reality (luckily in a good way!) and she lasted 3 months

Lepetitpiggy · 07/08/2019 13:46

I was there six months ago - it's not easy, at times I was willing her to die, at others, hating myself for feeling that way
You will get through it though- I promise

ajandjjmum · 07/08/2019 13:28

Thinking of you Jonty - and sorry, but it could go on for longer. Such a hard time. You must take care of yourself. Flowers

Linseedlill · 07/08/2019 13:03

Just checking in again op - still thinking of you.

I remember this time (with my father and dparentinlaw) as being very surreal and strange. It's hard to reconcile life bustling along outside with everything you are confronting in the hospital. It's very draining so do take care of yourself. Lovely that your ds could offer comfort!

Wishing your mum peace and comfort.