need to rant

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ffsitsshit · 08/05/2019 05:12

for years we have been dealing with ill health which is getting worse and worse
its been a roller coaster for ages up down up down
each day the phone call is expected to say they have passed but then they pick up again and balance precariously on the top of the roller coaster before it crashes down again
now its crashed down again and its a nightmare
nobody can help but its a mess
we don't know if this is the end or if its going to pick back up again and haul up the next hill ready to crash again
im cant sleep, i don't know what is happening
i think its time for this roller coaster to be pulled off the tracks

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TheNavigator · 08/05/2019 08:47

ffsitsshit so sorry, for the record I have lost a beloved parent but that does not stop me empathising hugely with the despair and desperation you are feeling. Some lives do go on too long due to endless medical intervention and it is terrible for the loves ones - as the last memories are filled with the endless horrors, it takes a long time for the happier times to re-emerge. You are entitled to all your feelings, including that enough is enough for everyone concerned. I hope that the rollercoaster is able to end with some dignity and you all find peace.

thesandwich · 08/05/2019 08:44

So sorry op for you all. What help are you gett8ng? Worth seeing gp?
It is so hard.🌺

MereDintofPandiculation · 08/05/2019 08:40

I think it’s hard for people who’ve lost parents to read this It may be hard to read but you don't have to answer when someone's clearly at the end of their tether.

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bellinisurge · 08/05/2019 06:16

It's exhausting for you and distressing and undignified for the sick parent. This isn't who they are and it isn't who you are. Ask them to help you make a list of little fun things they like to do. Even if it's something tiny like a favourite tv programme. Quality of life is really hard to maintain when it's all about the medical stuff. But that's where the successes - and comical "disasters " can be.

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ffsitsshit · 08/05/2019 05:30

i'm sorry to have caused upset
just the constant this medicine that medicine this surgery that surgery
none of it works

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Alicewond · 08/05/2019 05:25

I think it’s hard for people who’ve lost parents to read this “i think its time for this roller coaster to be pulled off the tracks”. It makes it sound like you wished they were gone. Sorry if it’s not what you meant but did t doesn’t come across well

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ffsitsshit · 08/05/2019 05:20

yeah i know. that really doesn't help.

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Birdie6 · 08/05/2019 05:17

If it's bad for you , imagine what it's like for them .

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