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The second new shiny 2019 thread ...

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MereDintofPandiculation · 14/03/2019 21:28

... for anyone caring for elderly parents. Come and join us to ask for, or to give, sympathy, ask for advice, or have a good rant.

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ApolloandDaphne · 15/03/2019 13:22

This is the big move day for FIL. DH is away getting him all packed up and bringing him to his care home this afternoon.

I feel a little bit of trepidation in all of this and would be glad of any words of wisdom from those who have been here.

My FIL was always a very cold, aloof and independent man who never asked for any help and never shared much. I have absolutely no relationship with him at all. I fear that once he is 5 minutes away rather than 100 miles he may become more demanding. I have already seen a massive change in him over the past year and he now just want so leave everything to us ('us' being me and DH mostly as the other siblings live much further away).

I worry that he will constantly be calling DH asking him about stuff when DH has an immensely stressful job and will not be able to handle this. I don't work and live near the care home but i don't want to be at his beck and call. I want to maintain boundaries.

Has anyone else had a parent move much nearer and how did it go? Am i worrying needlessly?

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MereDintofPandiculation · 15/03/2019 12:44

Hello, I'm back, i waited for the new thread as i got too behind with the old one. You should have told us! We'd have started the new one earlier. Can't have people falling behind!

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thesandwich · 15/03/2019 09:50

hello all! Great to see you thigh

pineapplebryanbrown · 15/03/2019 07:56

Hello, I'm back, i waited for the new thread as i got too behind with the old one.

notaflyingmonkey · 15/03/2019 07:52

May Day bank holiday coming up, so we should prepare for the Tether's End fete.

FinallyHere · 15/03/2019 07:46

Thank you for the new thread Dint

yolofish · 15/03/2019 07:26

Don't forget the Octogenarian Death Slide!

MoreCheerfulMonica · 14/03/2019 23:18

I certainly need a Teflon top-up. Gin and cockroach, one and all!

thesandwich · 14/03/2019 22:36

Great stuff dint
Hope we’ve brought the house band, Teflon and gin with us!

Grace212 · 14/03/2019 21:59

Good catch Dint

Remember our house band, Silent Gigolo? I can't remember much else about the nightclub....but it was one of the few things that made me laugh during Dad's hospital days.

Weirdly, there's loads of gin in my flat because I got it free!!

yolofish · 14/03/2019 21:43

smart move dint and so glad you did it!