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The second new shiny 2019 thread ...

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MereDintofPandiculation · 14/03/2019 21:28

... for anyone caring for elderly parents. Come and join us to ask for, or to give, sympathy, ask for advice, or have a good rant.

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MereDintofPandiculation · 29/04/2019 21:05

I’ve not seen any posts from @Grace212 for quite a while Yep, I said that a week ago, so it has been a while - though searching her posts reveals she last posted 25th March. I wondered about a pm, but thought it might be a bit intrusive.

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Fortysix · 29/04/2019 20:44

I’ve not seen any posts from @Grace212 for quite a while. I do hope she’s busy with other projects which have her attention.

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MereDintofPandiculation · 29/04/2019 20:22

One of the wonderful things about this place is hearing about other people's problems make you appreciate your own elder a bit more. Mine might be stubborn and completely unaware of the havoc he causes, but he's got a lot of good points too.

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yolofish · 29/04/2019 17:46

no worries dint now back to charley and the patio option! that is a JOKE in case Daily Heil/MI5 etc are monitoring us lot wittering on about oldies...

rosa wise decision, I hope you feel better soon.

did some work this morning, been in the garden all afternoon - shattered and filthy (oo er missus) so heading for a bath now. totally sentimental, but love you lot on here xx

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MereDintofPandiculation · 29/04/2019 17:26

yolo I've asked for mine to be removed too as it 's a bit too specific about yours.

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RosaWaiting · 29/04/2019 13:51

I'm having a guilt attack because I was supposed to spend the afternoon helping mum with something

Just as I was leaving I realised that it wasn't in fact boiling hot and that I have a fever and a sore throat. I thought I felt a bit odd yesterday.

so I rang her and she said "well I'm not bothered if I catch a bug, don't worry, I won't catch a bug" and I said "hmm, but I don't want this turning into a full on lurgy". She was fine about it, I have asthma so it often is best to nip things in the bud, but I feel bad now as she probably wanted the company as well as the help.

yolofish · 29/04/2019 13:23

thank you all, I think I might have overshared so those kind people at MNHQ have removed it for me!

MoreCheerfulMonica · 29/04/2019 13:10

And which Dint in fact said this morning. Oops.

MoreCheerfulMonica · 29/04/2019 13:08

I’m sorry too, yolo. As a wise person said on this thread some time ago, we’re all doing our best with the resources available to us at the time.

RosaWaiting · 29/04/2019 10:48

yolo I'm sorry

if it makes you feel any better, I was at my parents' house years ago, chatting with mum in the kitchen. After a while, mum thought she hadn't seen dad for a long time - he was passed out in another room.

Charley the MN defence is probably used all the time for people with no alibi. "You can check my computer officer, I was arguing about weddings on AIBU for 4 hours solid".

MereDintofPandiculation · 29/04/2019 10:38

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FinallyHere · 29/04/2019 09:13

{{{{{yolo}}}}}

maddywest · 29/04/2019 09:02

yolo it's ok. Really, it's ok. Don't let the one thing you didn't do haunt you when you did so so much. xx

thesandwich · 29/04/2019 08:39

Oh yolo 🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺 the hugest of hugs to you.

Charley50 · 29/04/2019 07:02

Yolo Thanks big hugs to you.

MrsBertBibby · 28/04/2019 23:40

Oh yolo. Huge hugs.

yolofish · 28/04/2019 23:22

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Charley50 · 28/04/2019 23:10

Maybe we should do a mass smothering and be each other's alibis.
I didn't say that.

yolofish · 28/04/2019 22:35

oh jesus dint then your only hope is to make sure your number is not top of the list - I would suggest finding someone you really want to piss off? we have a local restaurant whose number is one digit different from ours, if I had had the foresight I might have changed the number on DM's phone to that one. OTH , it wouldnt have made much difference as she could neither hear herself talking nor the person (me) answering, so I always ended up calling back whichever facility she was in anyway - not that it made much difference.

MrsBertBibby · 28/04/2019 22:34

Tell them to give the cash to you, dint.

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MereDintofPandiculation · 28/04/2019 22:31

yolo unfortunately they're buying him a new one. They've hung on to it to make sure they get the same model

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MrsBertBibby · 28/04/2019 22:30

Heh, me too, and it does!

yolofish · 28/04/2019 22:19

mrsbert - kill them both and bury them under the patio of the chosen nursing home. (I may have had Wine but sounds like a plan??)

MrsBertBibby · 28/04/2019 22:14

Top marks to that home!

Cockroaches to all. I am in a state of gibbering knackeredness and frustration after a long Easter with very old US friends visiting the parents, and being duly distressed by mum's decline, and my annoying sister prancing around performing the caring daughter when she is in fact rarely present. But of course invaded the house whilst they had guests.

Meanwhile the other, overseas sister has been in the country for nearly a month, (including engineering herself a nice private, old crock free escapade with the friends,) and will bestow 36 whole hours on our parents. Whilst insisting she check out the nursing home Dad and I have found. Because obviously....what? She'll find another superior one on her flying visit? Of 36 poxy hours?

Fuck. I feel like a bloody jealous bratty ungracious kid but I want people to see that they are fucking tourists here.

thesandwich · 28/04/2019 22:02

Oh dint 😮😮😮