The new shiny 2019 thread for anyone caring for elderly parents

thigh thanks for asking - I think mum is doing better, or trying to put a brave face on in front of me, which I appreciate.

Impressive resolutions here - I never make any...perhaps I should resolve to be more patient! Definitely not a quality I possess.

Settling myself in for what will be a long ride. For those who haven't read my thread dm(86) is soon to be discharged to us (dh & I) after cancer has spread. Already received so much support on here. Wishing everyone the best x

Happy New Year. Had my first call from the care line. DM fell over. Got her sorted, no damage done.

Danish that's a very effective way of getting me time! Going to look for a village hall type exercise class, something cheap and common like me. Nowt fancy.

Thigh
So many benefits from kale, the best one is that nobody wants to be around the smell afterwards 😏.

Same here thigh and because I am constantly miserable, I am the size of a house. Have even been thinking about going out for a run tonight under cover of darkness. Can't decide if that is the coffee speaking though.

Hospital parking costs are a national disgrace. My mum was in hospital for a lot of 2017, at one stage for 10 weeks. One of the things I used to do whilst sitting in traffic on the way to visit was to do the maths in my head about how much it costs vs profits made.

Good luck with everything monkey sounds like you have found your inner strength
I’m going back on diet tomorrow when I return to work
2019 is going to be the year I get to my target weight! I’m currently about 1.5 stone away (having lost nearly 7 stone from my fattest)
My next biggest challenge is work, I work in a senior role for a charity who provide support re sickness or disability including elderly with dementia
Our funding runs out in April and I have to write successful fundraising applications over the next few weeks and months to ensure that we can continue with our valuable work and that I and my colleagues have a job for the next few years
The pressure is immense and may well tip me over at points
Today I’m feeling positive let’s hope it lasts

Jace Grrreat! That's shit, i understand they want to encourage public transport use and prevent commuters and shoppers using the car park but caring and having long term ill relatives kicks the arse out of any earning power anyway. I'm so tired of this country not looking after the most vulnerable. We are lucky to have as much as we do, but it's still shit.

Good morning everyone
@thighofrelief101 at this hospital after someone has been in for 3 weeks (and paid £90) you can apply for reduced cost parking at £2.50 a day but only applies to one person per patient
If you pay per visit instead of weekly it’s £10 a day!!!
I also had to pay local delivery firm to get DF wheelchair to hospital as they have no contingency for things like that

This year I have to lose a lot of weight and stop smoking. Every time I am stressed or miserable i eat and / or smoke.

New year's resolution from me - to stop putting my own needs last. It has not helped that I have tried to be all things to the rest of the family, as pretty much all I get in return is criticism from them. Last night I was told it's my fault they are all fat, that we live in an area nobody else likes, that they don't have friends, that we don't go the France (that one is true btw, I don't like France). Which I reckon must mean I am God, really, to have that much power over grown adults.

Last night I was so low. Really low. (A word to the wise, if you feel that way, don't try and watch Funny Cow on Amazon like I did.) Thank you for reaching out to me.

So. I binned all the chocolate, biscuits, etc that were in the house.

I have been reseaching house moves.

I have taken off my wedding ring (first time in 25 years).

Monkey the doormat was sooo 2018.

2019 is the year Monkey seizes the cockroach.

Monkey it's a new year, new strength. I hope my PM to you re locations didn't get lost with my name change.

Grace glad to oblige

How are you feeling? How is your Mum?

Jace it's the shit cherry on the top struggling with the costs of caring. At the hospital Dad was in you could get some kind of parking pass for frequent flyers and claim back parking costs. Does your hospital have that? Is your Dad settled back in the nursing home?

Dint how is your Dad's pneumonia? He's back in hospital after just getting out, poor chap. Infections really are a bugger in the very elderly aren't they, plays havoc with the marbles. I say to myself these days: Gaga? Peepee!

Morning all reporting for duty. Please let 2019 be better for all of us

thigh that really made me laugh!

Just had a good sign that this year will be better. I just found a brownie and no one saw me find it, now that's serendipity.

Happy New Year all. Not sure what to say about 2018, it changed my life forever and I have learnt so much. Thinking of all who are finding it tough going at the moment, you are never alone. X

Grace that's not true, you lost your Dad this year and you are very supportive at every opportunity.

My youngest and I drove to the river and watched the fireworks from the car in our pyjamas! Next year we are getting dressed and getting out of the car, pair of lemons.