Caring for elderly relatives? Pop in for support, a hand hold, advice, whatever you need.

Oh crikey yolo! Hope you are able to get stairlift sorted and carers sorted too. Hope your dm rallies being home. 🌺🌺🌺

gp said she could go home so took her there and then. now at home, very very frail and wobbly and confused. plus the fucking stairlift has run out of charge!! left DD1 there while I frantincaly try and find an engineer plus buy food etc for her house. got gp visit booked for tomorrow, carers hopefully but I will be sleeping in til we can get 24 hour care in place. all a bit tits up really.

So sorry.🌺🌺

but if she's at home her anxiety should reduce dramatically, she shouldnt be worried that all the staff hate her, and if her mental health improves then her physical health should? she is barely eating, and I think it is the anxiety... fuck I dont know. will see what GP has to say I guess. meanwhile, there is a labby shaped hole in my life, there should be a smiley face and a waggy tail. it's so weird.

Yolo, have to agree with pickle listen to the gp.

Thank you. I havent cried, I knew it was his time and I think he knew too, bless him.

On the DM side, good news and bad news: I am picking up her discharge letter tomorrow which means I can get a 24 hour live in carer, hopefully for a couple of weeks to settle her and she could be home by Friday.

The bad news is that she has been put back on diazepam for anxiety and is totally out of her head - and dizzy. DB and SIL went home today, he was shocked by her appearance this morning and says she has gone right downhill over the week they have been here. Am going to be there for GP visit tomorrow, see what he says etc. So, do I bring her home in a frail state and hope her mental health improves? I think that's all I can do, but god forbid the carers say she is too frail coz then we'll be really fucked. (sorry, it's all about me again xx)

I’m sorry too, yolo.

Oh yolo I am so very sorry. You did the kindest thing. There are no words but an enormous hug for you. 🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

Yolo sending such a huge hug. You have been so amazingly strong with everything that you are coping with. Although unbelievably hard this was the kindest thing to do. I'm so pleased you were supported and able to be there. Thinking of you xx

Ddog was pts at 11.30pm tonight. It was the best thing for him, and girls and I were there with him. It was heart failure in the end. Vet and nurse were absolutely lovely. I feel totally numb, possibly also due the large amount of cointreau I have had tonight. Going to get DB to tell DM for me tomorrow because I cant deal with her tears.

yolo can’t add to what whatever and pickle have said. Cherish dog who loves you.

thank you all we may have to go back to vet later as his pain seems very bad, gums absolutely white, can barely walk. spoke to vet, given him a tramadol, got to wait another 15 mins or so and see what's happening. complicated by fact that DD1 is at work and will need picking up at some stage, but we dont know what time.

Oh yolo I'm so sorry to hear this. I can totally understand how you are feeling, my poor dog has seen me so through so much, they are such a part of the family and a huge contribution to my sanity. Just want to offer a very big hug xx

Ddog is home again; spleen is clear hurrah! on the downside: still in pain and drugged to the eyeballs; colon full of gas which meant they couldnt see part of the liver or the syomach itself so back on tues for another xray/scan. meanwhile, DB and SIL go home tomorrow so I will be back to being at DM's beck and call. From an immediate rally when they arrived she has gone down hill ever since - severe anxiety, not eating, feeeling sick, being given loads of drugs for all of them. sigh.

Oh, yolo, I’m sorry about Ddog. Hope it goes as well as it can.

I'm so so sorry yolo. Its not fair. and a hug.

not a DM issue (although they are still there big time I am getting them 2nd hand from DB) but a Ddog issue: he is in the vet hospital overnight, prob splenic cancer in which case, given his age/physical conditiion there is no other option but pts. DM has fallen way down my list of priorities this afternoon... she might not be happy or comfortable, but she is not dying.

min all sympathies from me too. a good cry is prob what you need - and they will have seen it all before and know just what to do.

Oh mini that sounds awful. No words of wisdom but I bet the staff have dealt with this before.sending 🌺🌺🍷🍷☕️☕️🍰🍰🍫🍫.

Carers not cadets!

Popping in to have a cry. Dad not settling in in the home. He punched one of the cadets the other day and went for another. I went in to see him yesterday and he was spookily calm with me but I hardly said anything to him - I just didn't know what to say. My brother went in this morning and he dad threw punches at my brother and then got a fork out of his pocket and went for my brothers eyes 😢. My brother was not hurt but they had 6 staff to take him to his room. They are calling the crisis team out but god knows what is going to happen now.