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What to do after a death/ what did you need to know that you didn't?

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Theas18 · 17/01/2015 11:23

Mum still hanging on in there but I'm sitting in their house overwhelmed even by the thought of clearing this. I don't think I'll be very good at the rest!

I have power of attorney etc for both jointly with my sister and her accountant husband - he I hope is aware of the financial stuff but I guess I need to know more about this ?

Funerals are paid. I know where the paperwork is.

I am executor so I guess I need to look into this. There are wills in place

A list of helpful links / personal suggestions for before / after would be really helpful from those who've been here.

Many thanks and hoping this isn't being too morbid.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/01/2015 13:18

Dh is going through this at the moment - his mum died of cancer at the beginning of December.

The thing we didn't know, and now do, is that you don't need a lawyer to do probate. He and his brother are doing it all, and it seems to be a fairly straight-forward process, despite some complications due to MIL's marital circumstances.

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Theas18 · 17/01/2015 13:10

Thanks for replying. It's tough. I sway from practical to head in the sand!

The hardest thing will be my dad who will have to go into a home .there really isn't any alternative - he can't be left for long so I can't have him with me and go to work.

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Fatalatomo · 17/01/2015 12:05

First I'm really sorry your going through this.

www.bereavementadvice.org/index.php

This website might have useful information for you.

You will need to know the finances so you know that everything is being handled right.

A lot of your work is in place for you if wills are done and funeral is paid for.

You'll need to register the death so have a look where the nearest office is.

You might need to think about things like music for the service if it's not been thought of.

Have a look for all the bills and bank accounts etc as you'll need to cancel them all.

Hopefully the website will have other information Iv not thought of.

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