My Dad is in his 90's and lives at home with my (much younger) Mother.
He's got bad back pains (two vertebrae crumbled a few years ago) which are making it excruciating for him to sit up in bed once he wakes.
He's also clearly got some dementia - very slow decline over the last 5-10 years. Very gradual.
I don't know how to help them! Their gp doesn't seem great and my Mum doesn't like to make a "fuss" but is exhausted from caring for my Dad.
My Dad is very reluctant to see medical professionals etc. Stiff upper lip etc.
It's just so incredibly sad and depressing and I'm lost. My Mum would be happy for me to call social services etc on her behalf, but who do I call? Where do I start?
My Dad is ok in himself most of the time. But so doddery, shuffles about and is very prone to falling. Goes up and down the stairs many times a day. He'd HATE to see himself like this and I know it's a dreadful thing to think, but I almost want him to did peacefully rather than get any worse or have to have a lot of outside help that he'll find distressing.
I'd be so grateful for any help or advice. Am an only child with small children of my own and I'm overwhelmed with sadness and frustration.