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Am I too old to start again and still have children?

32 replies

BunnyLover92 · 17/05/2026 08:19

I'm 33, almost 34 and my husband has been stringing me along for years about having kids. We've been together 14 years and married for almost 4. Ultimately he keeps pushing it back, and whilst I've tried to be understanding of his reasons it's making my life unliveable - if I ask him for reassurance he gets angry and gave me an ultimatum that if I don't stop asking for reassurance he wants a divorce. That for me was the nail in the coffin.

Am I too old to meet someone and have a baby? I know things move quicker in your 30's but I obviously don't have years and years. I'd love to hear some positive outcomes of anyone who's gone through similar.

OP posts:
Seelybee · 17/05/2026 08:39

@BunnyLover92 after 14 years with you he doesn't want children. If you stayed with him you won't have them so you don't really have anything to lose by leaving if that's your priority.
And you then you at least have the chance with someone else.

momager22 · 17/05/2026 08:35

Regardless of whether you’ll have kids with someone else, I couldn’t stay with a man who had treated me like that

Tryagain26 · 17/05/2026 08:33

You are not too old but don't dwell too much about that because no one can predict what might happen in the future. Instead think about how life would be if you stayed with him and from what you have said it doesn't sound good. If there are no positives to your relationship then you have your answer.

Harriet36 · 17/05/2026 08:31

Definitely not too old but get out of your marriage now.

MegMortimer · 17/05/2026 08:28

You're not too old, OP but as PP said, get rid of the manipulative liar now and find someone who wants the same things you do.

Robin223 · 17/05/2026 08:26

I was slightly younger, but I left my ex at 29, met someone new at 30 and had our first baby exactly 2 years later. I had known fertility issues that meant I had very little time left to start a family and DH was on board despite that.

If I were you I’d struggle to be happy and continue a life with someone who had strung me along about having kids.

millymollymoomoo · 17/05/2026 08:26

Well ultimately no
but you need to take positive steps right now. That means divorce

its positive you recognise it and don’t waste any more years with empty promises. Start today - take him up on his word of divorce

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