Is this taking too long?

How are you managing for money? Do you have access to any? Are your DC quite young? It's really a shame that he's not pushing for some regular contact, it would be good for them and you, eventually.

oh dear! Has he not seen the children much? You could ask to have something outlined in writing for the interim period until you are both divorced. In the very early days of seperating we had a very firm arrangement, that went 5pm saturday- 5pm sunday every week. Our children were very young and I felt that waiting 2 weeks to see their dad was too long and he would miss too much. When the divorce was finalised we both became more flexible. Try and see if you can come up with some firm dates so you get soem time to yourself and get him to agree in writing. If he doesn't respond to letters then get his solicitor to summon him to mediation.

Hello, I got divorced 7 years ago and can't remember exactly how it all went through timescale wise. I think I made the petition in january and we were divorced by the autumn. If he hasn't petioned you on any grounds then you are free to petition him. The petitioner always foots the bill though for filing the grounds. I don't know your situation but if the grounds are adultery or unreasonable behaviour then the whole divorce can go through very quickly. Letters always take ages going backwards and forwards. If he doesn't work it may be that he can't afford to petition you? I have no idea of the costs currently though. Sorry if not much help just didn't want you to think you were on your own. Divorce is so very difficult. You might be asked to do mediation where you discuss contact issues. I think it's where you both outline an agreement called arrangements for children. Solicitors recommend you do this as it costs far less than them.