How To Respond?

In my experience, it IS most!

Well then the poster should have said the people she mixes with, not most as that is factually untrue

Exactly. I just am not encountering all these pro-Palestine people who want a two state solution. I haven't met anyone like that at all, it tends to be far more militant Israel bashing. I am not 'smearing' anyone, just calling it how I find it.

I would say - after the 7th October attacks I firmly stand with Israel and the people of Israel.

So maybe (almost certainly) you mix with different people to that poster. People will have a different experience to you. It is a fact though, that Justice for Palestine marches and demos pretty much always do include calls for the obliteration of Israel and there is not much evidence that the nice people who are sympathetic to Israel on those marches do anything about it. Contrast demos for the hostages which always in my experience call for peace for all civilians and freedom for the palestinians from hamas & terrorism. She's not 'smearing' people here, though there are a lot of discussions on this board, about Israel being an illegitimate colonial settler state and other variations. To those people, if the cap fits.

This is just not true "most"? The majority of people I interact with that want justice for Palestine are in favour of two state solution and understand the importance of the Israeli state and its existence. You are just smearing people here and see in your further post you are now jumping to they are Hamas apologists.

The difference is that people who are pro Palestine are very quick to paint the other 'side' as evil and monstrous, they tend to refuse to ascribe any blame to Hamas, and they behave as if October '23 didn't happen or wasn't the reason for the current war. I am not saying that I agree with everything that Israel is doing, but the fact is that war was inevitable as soon as the October 7th massacre happened. I agree that it is a very fraught issue.

I personally don't feel like that despite wanting justice for the Palestinians. It's a strange one IMO, I can't imagine how the responses would be if someone started a thread on this forum saying they were uncomfortable attending a group that said 'justice for the hostages' because they were strongly pro-Palestinian.

Theoretically, yes. However, most people who say that they want justice for Palestinians actually see the way to achieve that being the obliteration of Israel.

Can someone not be a zionist and want justice for Palestinians at the same time?

I think its fine to say 'no thanks, I rather meet for a coffee' but probably worth explaining a little bit why its not for you. If you do stay friends its bound to come up so better to resolve it now. Some people's hatred of Israel is so rabid, in my experience that she might not want to be friends with you, problem solved. Others are more open minded and you can agree to disagree or even have an opportunity to discuss it constructively. Thats unlikely to happen in a justice for palestine gathering. I have friends with views across a wide spectrum on this and I've only fallen out with a small handful because their views are so extreme.

I'm like you, a zionist who dislikes Netanyahu. I feel for you, it's a difficult one as people on the 'Justice for Palestine' side of things seem to be very judgemental of anyone who has a different view. I would just say that I am not terribly keen on protest/pressure groups and maybe just ghost her. It's a pity, but there it is.

Her justice for Palestine group does sounds fab though, what a lovely initiative.

Just say you can't attend? If she asks why then you could tell her as you said above that you are strongly pro-Israel, in which case I doubt she will ask you again.

I'd say something like "I don't think the group is for me but I'm free on X day for a coffee?"
If she takes issue with that, rather than just accepting a differing view, then I don't think you'd have a good friendship anyway.

But I imagine she's used to being turned down for all sorts of reasons. You and I wouldn't agree on Israel but I don't want to go to a justice for Palestine meeting either (and would probably use the wording above) because it seems a bit pointless to sit in someone's living room discussing it, and I also have no desire to get involved with protests or anything like that.

How do you usually turn down invitations to things you don't want to do? I say "No thanks, I'm busy." Try that.

I'd feel the same as you...I'd probably say something like thanks for the offer but that doesn't sound like something I'd be interested in.