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TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 15:15

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 16/08/2005 21:01

yipeeeeeeeeeeee

fab news!!!!!!!

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 16/08/2005 21:00

YIPEEEEEEEEEE [GRIN][GRIN]

FAB NEWS!!!!!

strike1 · 16/08/2005 19:45

Wahooooo!!!!!

This is a lucky thread! That's excellent news Petunia. I'm sooooo happy for you. Have a fantastic night with DH! Enjoy.

baggybear · 16/08/2005 19:32

CONGRATULATIONS Petunia!!!! Thats fantastic news!!! Made me this evening. I'm SOOOOO pleased for you!!!!

baggybear · 16/08/2005 19:31

Diddle - my "poem" is on the "is anyone awake????" thread on MC/bereavment topic. Its not great but it says what I think...

Feeling really fed up tonight. Saw doctor today to ask about Anti-D as i'm Rh neg. Realised the other day that epu didn't mention it. My dr said I should have had it within 72 hours of having M/C. EPU had already upset me as they treated me really badly on day of M/C, now this. I didn't think to mention my RH neg at time I was there (not most obvious thing on my mind!). So, the EPU's failure to mention it may jeperdise (sp??) any future pregnancies. Just hope the baby was Rh neg too. Thinking of complaining, what would you do?

petunia · 16/08/2005 19:24

I've done a test (had to wait 'til DH got home, couldn't be on my own!)
The result is very faint but........well let's say my mood is WAAAA HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO YES!
I'm off to calm down and think relaxing thoughts!

strike1 · 16/08/2005 19:14

That excellent news PeePee! I've followed some of your story on another thread.I lurk occasionally, in a totally non creepy way of course Thankyou so much for popping over to let us all know that good things happen too Please let us know how it goes on your next scan. Have a happy 9 months.

peepee · 16/08/2005 18:13

Girlies,

Keep trying. It'll happen.

I found out that I was five weeks pregnant today. Have had a pre-booked hospital appointment today. Scan shows a black blob. It's too early to see much. Have been prescribed low dose heparin jabs, progesterone tabs to be inserted and 75mg aspirin.

I am feeling positive just because I have someone watching out for us. Have to go back to the hosptital at least every two weeks for scans and tests.

Those of you who know me from having been on the threads in the past will Know about my previous m/c's 4 in total. It sounds bizarre but you do get used to it. The first ones leave you in total shock. Was off work for nearly 6 mths after the first one. Please try and stay positive.

Hellkat, I keep checking in on you.(I am not a stalker) When you least expect it it'll happen. Have lodsa fun trying.

I really wish you all the best ladies.

I am sure that all the pain we have been through will one day be worth it.

PeePee.x

HumphreysCorner · 16/08/2005 18:02

Hello ladies

Hello again baggybear, you are most welcome ((xx))

wishingchair- about AF but don't worry as I will be joining you on Thursday ((xx))

Not feeling so good today as DH came off his BLOODY MOTORBIKE last night-thankfully only has a few cuts and bruises. Phoned up at 10-45pm last night which gave me palpitations as I always fear the worst on a Monday night. Anyway, I had to pick him up a)over the limit and b)leave DD in bed alone . We had to leave the bike in the ditch but I have got in tonight from work and it is back (what is left of it) and the garage stinks of petrol which is all over the floor. I just hope the wretched thing is written off! I won't go on it since we had our big accident in 1998 when I was hospitalised for 9 days.

Anyway, have just had a bath to try and relax. Never slept a wink last night so shattered and the Blossom Hill I am now having will hopefully knock me out as I can't bring myself to talk to DH about last night due to his comment of "these things happen". NOT IN OUR HOUSE!

Love to all
xx

petunia · 16/08/2005 17:56

Afternoon everyone and a "welcome" to baggybear,
I've managed to hold out on testing mainly because I've been out most of the day. Might do a test later on so will try and post the result. I'm really tired so if I don't, it's because I've fallen asleep in front of the TV!

strike1 · 16/08/2005 17:31

Diddle, it saves the neighbours thinking I'm mad (stops the sound travelling) That way I'm free to shout my head off with out anyone knowing.....oh apart from you lot now, dam!

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Diddle · 16/08/2005 16:47

nicmum2boys - Sounds like you're having a pretty rough day. Its horrible when you feel like that isn't it. I hope you can find some time to relax this evening and release some emotion.

baggybear - where can I see your poem, woudl love to read it.

Strike1 - have a lovely image of you screaming into the wardrobe, my DH would think i'd gone bananas if i did that , sorry not taking the piss, just made me grin.

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baggybear · 16/08/2005 16:39

I have added to stats...

baggybear · 16/08/2005 16:13

Thanks everyone for being so welcoming.

Cori - Don't worry I'm pretty mad and obsessed already!! I think I'll fir in just fine!!

Nicmum2boys - It does really help to put it on paper. I've never been very poetic and don't think I've ever written a poem (well, not since primary school anyway!) but those words really did just come to me in the early hours of the morning. I had real trouble sleeping that night and was up til 3.30am, then the words came into my head and I found myself a piece of paper and a pen and just wrote as the words came. After I wrote them, I fell asleep. It seemed to just lift something. I didn't intend the words to be in poem form, thats just how they came out, but just writing how you feel will help too, I'm sure. It brings things out into the open, even if you are the only one to read them. You must grieve, and facing it will help the process. I'm talking like I'm an expert, which I'm not, and we all face things differently, but I do think that these things shouldn't be bottled up. I hope things get better for you. lots of {{{{hugs}}}} nic xxx

strike1 · 16/08/2005 16:06

Sorry about the crappy day nic. I had a least 3 of those last month. Felt like I was my own worst enemy but couldn't get away from myself. Like Spub says, nice long bath/walk whatever and a big scream and cry (into the wardrobe or a pillow works for me) and I'm sure calm will be restored (a least for a while )

spub · 16/08/2005 15:46

Nic-
Sorry you are having such a crappy day.Maybe you could just go out for a wee walk by yourself once DH gets home or climb into the bath and have some time to yourself?
PMSL at the "what the f**k to cook/made it already/burned the replacement meal" scenario but only because it's so recognisable!!!

nicmum2boys · 16/08/2005 15:30

Meant to say but forgot amidst the madness, excellent news Lunarsea about changing GP, really for you.

nicmum2boys · 16/08/2005 15:28

Hi all, and welcome Baggybear, so sorry about your miscarriage, big (((hugs))) to you xx. I read the words you wrote for your baby, and they were beautiful. I cried my eyes out, they really spoke to me about how I felt about my lost little ones, but I have never actually sat down and written it on paper. Am seriously thinking I need to though, as I have nothing tangible (sp??) from my last mc, it's all kind of locked up inside still. I try to avoid thinking about it as it hurts so much, but I think maybe I need to address it, as it's dawning on me I haven't really greived properly. DH and I had alot of relationship problems that were all hinged on me getting pregnant last time and the miscarriage, and I cut him out emotionally for a long time. I cut myself off emotionally too, just functioned iykwim, and now I'm finding all these feelings coming back to the surface again . Wonder if maybe all this locked up greif could be causing the probs I'm having with my cycle.
I am feeling mega hormonal today, really bad pmt, shouting at the DSs, tryng to organise what we're having for tea and got all the ingredients out of the cupboard to do a chicken and green lentil casserole thingy, then remembered I did DH a lentil and bacon salad for his lunch, so he would essentially be having the same lunch and tea [really stupid emoticon]. Took me half an hour to decide what else to cook..... put it on to cook, and then left it to burn while I was out in the garden with DSs with myself. I really feel like I could pick a fight with myself at the moment so God help poor DH when he gets home. The worrying thing is I'm not due for a week and a half .

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Diddle · 16/08/2005 14:27

Cori - Yes still young and no it didn't take long to conceive last time, The longest it took was 3 months. It has now been 4 months since the last m/c, and i am so impatient, i just want it to happen again. But i know It could take much longer.

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strike1 · 16/08/2005 13:48

But seriously, I wish I looked into it last month, as I'm still getting to know what my different stages are like, so it might take a while to get the hang of it. Hopefully something will happen this month though!

strike1 · 16/08/2005 13:46

But then you just have to bd both times....just to be sure

cori · 16/08/2005 13:11

Temping is a pain I agree. I havent bothered withit this month. The problem relying solely on CM is that you can have more than one patch of it in a month. I often have it luteal period.

LunarSea · 16/08/2005 12:57

cori - am currently changing GP as existing one still thinks that there is nothing wrong and won't refer us, or do any tests, or anything! I've posted about it before, but basically he doesn't think there is any such thing as secondary infertility, and if you can conceive once, you can conceive again. Trouble is with an average of 2 and a half years ttc per conception, and 2 out of 3 m/c I'm running out of time to just wait and see.

strike1 · 16/08/2005 12:54

Welcome Baggybear! I'm so sorry for your m/c, but as the others have already said we're all in the same boat here regardless of our different circumstances. Hopefully with a little light relief and chat from all of us you'll be adding to your family in no time

I read somewhere that cm was the most reliable way of predicting ov (better than temping and easier to do!) So I'm trying that this month. But to sure, lot's of bding must be the key!I can't remeber the name of the site but it was a medical one from the us and the doctor said getting to know your cm cycle was a better way of telling when ov happened because (if you pardon the expression) it's something tangable that you can see.

cori · 16/08/2005 12:36

I have heard that its not uncommon to have an ovulation free month straight after a M/C but I have also heard that you are meant to be more fertile after a M?C. So who knows?

Lunarsea, I am sorry I know you have been trying for ages. Hvae you mentioned investigating for secondary infertility to GP.
My first miscarriage was after two months of trying. DS was concieved after another two months. My recent miscarriage was after 8 months. I started trying in June last year. I think my body is slowing down and not producing the viable eggs. Thats what worries me.