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TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 15:15

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

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Diddle · 29/07/2005 08:21

maddyd - yep it is worth a try, I must make sure i use them as a guide only and just do it as much as we can. Last tiem i used them, we stopped bd a few days after the pos, until af came. Think we need to start getting at it every othe day now, all month and then every day around ov, just so we don't miss it.

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maddyd · 29/07/2005 08:19

Diddle you will have to really go for it this month. Are you using ov sticks. I will be as im sure im missing my ov date. Its worth a try for one month isnt it?

maddyd · 29/07/2005 08:18

Im going to wet myself in a min, how come the posty is always late when i need somethingg important. I bet hes hanging about at the end of the road with a ciggie

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Diddle · 29/07/2005 08:13

oh maddyd - I hate bad dreams, they stay with you don't they, they're always the ones you remember. Glad you're a bit happier today, let us know what happens with the test - fingers crossed for you.

Wish i was pg by the time my due date came, going to work out if its possible. ok done that. It is possible, but this month is my last chance.

I think it would be great if we met up, such an obsessed bunch like us.

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maddyd · 29/07/2005 08:09

Also had another bad dream last night I know dreams are not meant to mean anything but its still disturbing to dream that my children die

maddyd · 29/07/2005 08:07

Morning All. Feel a bit better today. had belly ache all night and cm is as dry as a bone (lovely) so af will be early this month i think. Still gonna do an early test in a minuete though, just incase but if it says negative then i must execpt it and wait for af like a good girl. Its a shame though as i really wanted a April baby, it would have been born on my other halfs birthday. The longer this ttcing goes on the nearer i get to my ex due date and i want to be healithily pregnant by then so i dont dwell.

Anyway i see you lot have been gossiping away all day yesterday like old fish wives can you imagine if we all met up what it would be like.

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Diddle · 29/07/2005 07:57

HELLKAT - Whats all this about DP soon to be DH??? are you getting married??? should i have alreayd known that? have you told me before?

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Diddle · 29/07/2005 07:47

Morning all,

Hope you're all a bit happier today, not we have much reason to be really.
I had the new Blooming Marvellous catalogue arrive yesterday, and juts looking at the women in maternity clothes made me really broody, i want to buy everything and need to wear it. Maybe if i eat lots of chcolate i will need some
Now watching the baby whisperer on dscovery health, first time i've tried to watch these baby programmes since the m/c. Not doing too well.

It is so hard to believe that I would be having my baby in 7 wks ITS NOT FAIR!!!! I want a baby.
i'm fed up of all everything going wrong, we all deserve to be happy.

Xena - nice to hear from you, no harm in loitering here. you stay with us, we'll keep you sane, maybe.

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carly82 · 28/07/2005 22:15

thanks for the message shelly, its nice to know that others know how i feel and not to feel like a neurotic woman (well at least not all the time lol!)my af due monday and im keeping everything crossed that goes for everyone on here too we must all be in sync with dates its a woman thing!!! x

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 28/07/2005 20:46

Evening ladies

AF stay away (for all those facing the weekend with me.....)

Been shopping (again)This time to Clarks for shoes and got £95.00 worth for £20.00

DD is the Imelda Marcos of nursery!

Weather horrible and not helping with gloomy mood.Been craft making with dd and neices.Just love to hear them play.DD is learning new words by the hour so neices sit and get her to repeat things like a performing monkey.No wonder shes shattered by bedtime
DH keeps ringing me from work "are you ok?"Bless but he has not a clue.He said last night "no point getting depressed about it,it might never happen" Cheers luv.Made sure he got extra hard prods for snoring in the night

Convinced self not pg and today went through 'should i give up' as HATE feeling like this.But know i have to continue as will regret if dont.

Bella23 I too have dark moments.I day dream about delivering a baby that is alive (dd was a c section)its like i justhave to go through the experience and have a positive outcome.Its v hard

Xena · 28/07/2005 20:25

Maybe thats why my AF hasn't arrived My cycle adjusting to you lot!!

spub · 28/07/2005 20:23

HK- Great news about the biopsy. Soo relieved for you!
Welcome to the newbies and hi to the usual suspects!
Just back from the hospital visitig my friend who had her twin boys on Tuesday and so got a lovely cuddle of them both. Wondered how I would feel but it was lovely seeing all of those babies and all of the happiness around them. It will happen for us, too!
My AF should be due on Aug 3rd so looks like I am clumping with a few of the rest of you cyclewise. Know it can happen when you see people but didn't realise it could also happen in a virtual environment
Hugs all round.

Xena · 28/07/2005 19:30

Diddle I'm fine wishing I could stay away from you lot and give up for good.
Hellkat I'm soooooo pleased the results were fine!! although you have taken away my reason to lurk on this thread. I had a Breast biopsy when I was pregnant with no2 and I remember asking the consultant if it was going to hurt and she said yes! Hump, I would have prefered it if she'd lied to me . I wish I could be as laid back as to 'just let it happen' but even this month I was obsessing and there was only 1% chance I could be.

shelly24 · 28/07/2005 18:47

Just read your stats carly,so sorry for your m/c's
Sounds like you've got two lovely little ones though(and hopefully more round the corner!).x

shelly24 · 28/07/2005 18:44

Hi girls am bk
Had a nice afternoon today,went out and about and it actually took my mind off ttc for awhile
Although i've convinced myself that this months not my month,but trying not to beat myself up about it too much as its only my first month ttc!.xAf due on sun,and so far no symtoms either way,so who knows!.x

carly82 · 28/07/2005 18:26

nice to know its not just me getting pg signs thoght i was the only one! am really interested in the early pts though how would i get them?

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 17:54

me too. AF is just leaving me, and last week i got pg symptoms, and even today I have bene having headaches and sick feelings. Think my body is playing tricks on me. Its easy to get carried away and hung up on every little feeling. Its got to happen one day though.

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carly82 · 28/07/2005 17:38

thanks diddle, just having one of my "i must be a little pregnant cos i feel sick" days although im not due till next monday, really gets me down

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 17:34

hooray Hellkat - thats great news, excellent, i was just thinking about you. very pleased to hear you have the all clear.

Carly - welcome, sorry to hear about your m/c, and very glad we have been a support already. We're all here when you need cheering up.

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HellKat · 28/07/2005 17:17

Hiya all.
Welcome back Diddle and Lottie and a huge welcome to our new girls!!
Great news all, biopsy results were clear! hoorah Talk about getting those through quickly.
How's everyone?
Xena- Don't leave us hun!! I'm at a financial point where we really can't afford another one but just waiting to see what fate brings (not actively ttc anymore just enjoying it ). Take care of yourself and hope to see you around xxx

carly82 · 28/07/2005 17:08

hi to everyone!
im fairly new to all this so bear with me, first of all i just want to say thanks to you all reading all your msg has made me feel as though im not alone anymore. i had my last mc in june this would be my fifth in five years and although i have two wonderful children it doesnt make it any less painful, nice to know that there are other people who like me could probably keep clearblue in business!!! sorry for waffling :.)

nicmum2boys · 28/07/2005 16:27

Diddle course I don't mind your advice, that's what we're all here for isn't it? . You're right, am beginning to feel under way too much pressure, think this may be why my cycle is up the creak. I actually used ov tests this month for the first time ever, which is how I know AF arrived 7dpo. Shan't be using them again I think, as it kind of made me even more obsessed, as was starting to get worried when I hadn't oved by day 15. They did confirm for me though that the pain I get mid month is ovulation pain, so shall just go by that from now on.
Trouble is, I don't know how to relax about it all. Don't really want to bring it up with DH as I feel if I tell him he will just say it's obviously too stressful, lets not bother.
Thank God I've got you lot to talk to .

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Diddle · 28/07/2005 16:21

humprheyscorner - you're feeling poorly dick??? lucky you!!!!!

serously though, hope you feel better soon

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HumphreysCorner · 28/07/2005 15:53

Hello ladies

Found you at last! Day 3 of migraine but it should be gone by the morning. AF packed her bags yesterday and has hopefully taken a year out in some place far, far away

Had no phone line all day yesterday and until now so took me a while to catch up. Would like to send all the newbies lots of love and hugs. You are all very welcome and everyone here is really lovely.

Well, I think that's all for now as still feally poorly dick .

Hopefully be back tomorrow to see how you are all doing.

(((xxx)))

Bella23 · 28/07/2005 14:44

Diddle - I hear ya!!!
Am so ready to be pregnant it is literally starting to turn me into a nutcase!!

Starting acupuncture next week which hopefully might calm me down!!