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TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

738 replies

Diddle · 27/07/2005 15:15

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 31/07/2005 18:59

Sounds like we are all in the same boat!!{smile]

I too am checking every 5 mins in the toilet and going through lots loo roll!!

If ever there was a bunch of women more deserving then its you lot.I pray for each and every one of us that we get the BFP as soon as possible and this horrible,frustrating ordeal will be over very,very soon

Xena · 31/07/2005 18:54

Afternoon all, Still no AF (arghhhhhh) I keep thinking that its here, go to the toilet and its nothing VV frustrating.
Wishing the best for you MaddyD xxxx

carly82 · 31/07/2005 17:24

hi to everyone!!! af due tomorrow really scared bought fifteen pt(yes fifteen!!!!) if no af tomorrow gonna test being crampy tho so not holding out much hope
good luck to everyone else testing today or tomorrow xxx

shelly24 · 31/07/2005 16:40

Am seriously confused by my body at the mo!!Have cramps every now and then(pretty much had them for last week or so!?),AF hasn't arrived and i kinda want it to(or to get a bfp!),so i know where i stand right now,it makes me think i'm not in control of my own body!!and what if i've totally misjudged the whole months fertility(i'm pretty sure i haven't!?)
Getting obsessive i reckon and its not good!!!!

munz · 31/07/2005 15:35

mads - just quickly once u have the BFP - stop testing FF says to stop as it causes un neccesary worry. fingers still crossed for u, but please stop temping for now. will catch up properly tomorrow.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 31/07/2005 15:24

Not tested today and AF due today and no sign.Not going to test (promise)till mid week but AF will probably show by then.

TMI coming up.Got clear discharge and boobs swelled.Then on other hand had about 5 bfns last week so who knows.

Sort of resigned myself to AF arriving now and hoping for May baby.

xxxxxxxxxxx to all out there especially those testing this weekend
xxxxxxxx shelly24
xxxxxxxxxxx(((((((maddyd)))))))))have everything crossed for you

HumphreysCorner · 31/07/2005 15:10

Oh maddyd My heart goes out to you hun ((((((((((((((((xxxxxxxxxxxxxx))))))))))))))))))

shelly24 · 31/07/2005 14:58

Hiya girls,soz haven't been around to support you all...especially you mads,oh hunny..what can i say!? We'll see what tuesday brings,hopefully its not as bad as you think it is?Either way you know you can turn to us for support.x.x
I've been abit selfish the last couple of days in that i haven't wanted to see or speak to anyoneWas nervous about testing...did one this morning and was a bfn!Yet at the same time AF hasn't arrived and it was due today(or def tomorrow!?as AF was VERY light on the first day?)
I just want an answer either way,either a bfp of my bloody AF!!!!!
Don't know why I was so funny the last couple of days??Abit better today but just want an answer either way so i can get on with things!!
I was just reading through all the messages i missed...got EXTREMELY excited for you mads,and am now hoping and praying that i can STAY excited for you,someone needs a bfp,and you def deserve the happiness!
I also read what you wrote nicmum2boys,about getting lots of bfn's,then days after AF getting a bfp!(fingers crossed that that is the case for me!)
Hi to c.p,how you doing hunny,let me know!.x.
Hi to everyone else too,carly82,diddle and all the rest of the ladies!!(soz am bit dim,can't remember everyones names!)
Mads if your there,let me know how you are ok?I worry bout you hun,and am sending you lots of virtual (((((hugs)))).x.x
Is anyone around at the mo?.x

HellKat · 31/07/2005 09:41

Morning all.
Think a good few of you are in need in a Kat special.... here goes.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{MEGA-HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
for you all and for Maddy.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

strike1 · 31/07/2005 08:49

I've got everything crossed for you maddyd.X

maddyd · 31/07/2005 08:19

I have to keep trying, i know ill regret it if i dont. Ill look out for you Debsy, try not to give up. Take care xxxxxx

Debbsy · 31/07/2005 08:16

im on the other one april baby showers.com i gatecrashed yours im sorry you take care 2 no think im going to leave it now as im finding it too hard.

maddyd · 31/07/2005 08:14

Ive had those pains for over a week too Debsy. Im 37 so i know i have a good chance but its till so worrying isnt it. Take care Debsy and goodluck. Are you staying on this thread and trying again?

Morning Cp.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 31/07/2005 07:49

(((((((Maddyd))))))))))

If it helps,I had my first at 36 and a friend of ours had a boy at the same time aged 43.

HC - Yes using ebay strips and pretending they dont work.........

Still no af but feel yuk so guess she will show her face v soon.........11111111

Debbsy · 31/07/2005 07:43

we have been trying for 16mths had 2 early mc last one in may ive had 3 faint positives this time and mega stretchy pains for about a week bleeding this morninig, done test negative all other symptoms stopped had a hypesterosalpinogram done on the 14th july bd on the 15th and 16th as ovulating so why oh why didnt it stick i cant do this anymore either, its very hard emotionally and i cant cope with it any longer i really cant im 33 now and i just wish i would have had my baby earlier and not gone for my career first!

maddyd · 31/07/2005 07:36

I know how you feel then Im sort of resigning myself now that i just cant do anymore. Its too hard more emontionally than physically.

Have you been trying again long Debsy?

Debbsy · 31/07/2005 07:28

so sorry maddy d the same as happened to me too this morning ((hugs))

maddyd · 31/07/2005 07:16

And my temp is falling

maddyd · 31/07/2005 07:01

i think its over before the fat lady even sings. Was up most of night with these cramps and front and back and im spotting. Could hope its implantatin but im sure i had that 4 days ago, i had slight spotting for a day. Its not going to stick is it. God this is so unfair what have i done so bad in my life for this to happen. Im never ever going to get excited or my hopes up again. Maybe im just too old now, my mother warned me that women in our family have problems later on and i hate tp prove her right. Thankfully i havnt told the old witch yet. She almost did a i told you so last time.
Sorry that sounds really bitter doesnt it, but i dont feel like being nice really. Im off back to bed. I had to get up and speak yo you all as its been worrying me all night.

nicmum2boys · 31/07/2005 00:11

Just logged on quickly before going to bed (was meant to be shutting the 'puter down, but couldn't resist a quick peak at MN).
Chocolatepeanut (((hugs))) don't give up hope yet. With DS1 I tested day AF was due, bfn, 2 days later still nothing, tested again, bfp. You never know. It will happen, be kind to yourself. I know it's so hard when it seems it's not happening despite doing everything right. Thinking of you.

Well my 9 days of spotting has def turned into full on AF today. Kind of glad in a way, as it means I can stop wondering and worrying and get on with next month. Am concerned at such an extended period of unusual bleeding though, thinking of going to see the doctor next week, just incase infection/hormone imbalance/temporary madness/any other reason that might stop me conceiving. Only got til Christmas, don't want to waste any time if I've a problem that can be sorted easily. Oh why oh why did we set a deadline for Christmas??????

HumphreysCorner · 30/07/2005 22:04

Evening ladies

Hope you are all relaxing.

HellKat-congrats on your decision to get hitched-lots of planning ahead for you then

CHOCOLATEPEANUT-I'm sure it will happen soon-you were lucky last time to fall so soon. Are you using the Ebay strips to test? ((xx))

Have been to my SIL's house for a Bar B Q and she was really upset about the weather but we all had a lovely time so it really didn't matter that it sluiced it down the whole time!

Now AF has gone DH & I are attempting to BD every other day until the next AF cos I still have no idea how you know you are ovulating so am covering all options .

All you Ebay fans-did you hear about the DJ's wife who sold his £25000 sports car for a Buy It Now price of 50p as long as they could collect it before the 'cheating arsehole got home from work!' Made me titter-278000+ people have viewed the item-must be a record.

DH is asleep on the sofa so no BD tonight!

I have to say I have enjoyed watching Craig & Anthony in Big Bro but why is Orlaith still in?????

That's all for now. Migraine finally gone this morning (this one lasted 4 days-git!) but have horrible spot on chin so walking round smelling of TCP.

Lots of love and hugs to all of you.

((((xxxx))))

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 30/07/2005 19:56

Sorry to jump in and feel so glum.

Another BFN today.AF due tomorrow.

Cant understand why not pregnant.Concieved both times before with only one bd each time!Last month established cycle now longer than usual 28 days and used ov kit this time and bd like mad on positive result cd17.

Wondering if something has happened to my fertility since loosing Philippa? I am 38 I know but as I had always concived quickly before did not think I had a problem.....

Feeling v v low

strike1 · 30/07/2005 19:12

Evening all. Hellkat I think running off to Vegas sounds like the best option to me. I friend of mine did that and asked everyone to not buy wedding presents but to come with them (or help towards the cost )
Hang in there Maddyd I'm sure it's just worry that is making your stomach feel like that.
I didn't test this morning as dh suggested saving my last early response test till tomorrow. It'll be 4 days before 32 dpo so I hope I get a bfp or af comes soon. I also invested in some cb ditgtals but I don't want to blow them too early.

Hope your all having a fabby weekend.

Tabs · 30/07/2005 18:29

Hi Hellkat - sorry, missed that bit of news - congrats on that too!

HellKat · 30/07/2005 18:22

Not yet but you never know
Off to get this little grump bathed and in bed. Take care Maddy