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TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 15:15

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

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shelly24 · 03/08/2005 17:23

It was pale after about 5 mins,then obviously got darker after awhile.
I don't think i am,but have to leave my options open huh?I just don't understand why AF hasn't arrived if i'm not?.x

maddyd · 03/08/2005 17:21

Oh Shelly im getting excited for you. Did it come up pale straight away or after a while?

shelly24 · 03/08/2005 16:54

Hey girls,hope all of you are ok
Tested yesterday afternoon,and got another pale line,did same today around the same time today and got another pale line!!...so i don't know!
Am def gonna leave it now till wkend(yeah right,your prob thinking!)and see if AF turns up between now and then.
In conclusion have had three pale lines and each one looks stronger than the one before,still no AF,slight cramps every now and then in lower tummy,abit tired,but hanging on in there!!
DH thinks i may be preg,but doesn't want to say too much and get my hopes up(naturally),he reckons it prob still too early to get a clear result and reckons i should def wait longer before testing again.
I don't feel very preg,but then again i didn't last time round until about week 7/8 into the preg,as thats when i started to feel sick etc.And we didn't test then till about 2/3 weeks after missed AF,so who knows!
will def keep you informed though either way....hope everyones ok!?

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Diddle · 03/08/2005 15:30

auntynon - welcome to our excellent thread. So sorry to hear of your loss, we have all been there, and its tough. We know that you're feeling shocked and empty and tired and sick and horrible.
I had a loss at around the same time as you.
did you have a d&c or are you losing naturally?

How are you feeling? We didn't wait after my frist m/c and caught again straight away, then lost that one too in April. So we waited the next time and we are still trying now.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't try straight away, plenty of people are succssful after a m/c. Just sharing my experience.
We have a stats page too, so you can tell us all a bit about yourself. heres the link.

ttc after m/c stats

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auntynon · 03/08/2005 15:06

hello, feel the need to join the thread. Have just said my goodbyes on the due in march thread. Had a m/c on sun night at 8 weeks. Very sad but also have dd, 2 next month so I have gone all the way before! This was first and hopefully only m/c. GP has said that there is no reason why I need to wait before trying again. He suggested maybe waiting a couple of cycles which I think dh husband will want to do but I want to get on with it. I'm almost 35 and this m/c is making me not take anything for granted. Can feel myself becomming obsessed about concieving.

maddyd · 03/08/2005 14:06

Well i have read through it and it sounds about right. I dont need or want this, what a apin, literallyu!!!!!!!!

maddyd · 03/08/2005 14:01

Ahh thanks Diddle ive put up a thread too to see if anyone on here has had them. Hope to god its not as i cant delay ttcing can i. Ill go mad

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Diddle · 03/08/2005 13:58

maddyd - found a website all about them. It says Oestrogen can cause them through having an excess of it during pregnancy, or something like that, heres the link

gallstones info

hope this helps

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spub · 03/08/2005 13:55

Cheers, Diddle.
Don't think this is the month though!

Maddy, Sorry to hear about the possible gallstones. Know v. little but think they can be zapped. Am sure there must be threads on here where you could find out more!

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Diddle · 03/08/2005 13:54

sorry no never had them. Hope you'll be ok, there not serious are they? just painful i think.
take it easy.

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maddyd · 03/08/2005 13:53

I have to have a scan but for the wrong reasons. Thinks its Gallstones Anyone experience this?

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Diddle · 03/08/2005 13:43

hi spub - fingers crossed af stays away.

hope everyone else is ok.

Maddyd - have you been to the docs yet? what did they say?

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spub · 03/08/2005 09:36

Hi Gang,
Haven't posted for a few days. AF due today and no symptoms of pg whatsoever so I'm expecting the full torrent any time soon.
Pants.
Not having the best month as a group, are we??
Hope you're all hanging in there and doing as well as can be expected under the circumstances!

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Diddle · 03/08/2005 09:30

Hi Humphreys - sounds like you have a lovely day planned. enjoy it.

I'm taking the kids to the soft play centre, six of them today. let them wear themselves out.

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HumphreysCorner · 03/08/2005 09:06

Morning Ladies

maddyd-hope you get to see the Doctor today.

I rang my Drs at 8-15am this morning and there were no morning appointments left All they could offer was an 11-50am at another surgery with the Dr I hate so will have to try tomorrow.

Having a trim and edge (hair cut) later this morning and off shopping and lunch out with mum (usual Wednesday routine-ablsolutely love it).

Big Bro-Craig jealous of Eugene-what a laugh!

Hugs to all

Catch yas later
x

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Diddle · 03/08/2005 08:57

maddyd - hope all is well at the doctors, sorry you're feeling so rough.
We were thinking of going to Florida next year, we went last year for our honeymoon and DH loved it. i've been loads when i was younger with my parents, but it was his first time. We have discussed the possibilty of being pregnant, or hopefully having a baby by then, and we're pretty certain that we wouldn't mind not going on the rides, we love the shows, and it would be nice to do the parks at a slower rate.
Let us kow how you get on Maddyd - hope all is ok and they sort you out.

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maddyd · 03/08/2005 08:31

Morning Diddle, hope you enjoy your massage. I really got my hopes after my hot stone massage, thought it may have rebalanced my insides but i think it made it worse . Have fun at Disney land Paris, i would love to got to Paris but Dp's needs a new passpoet as just ran out or we would have had a weekend there. We went to Florida when i was Pg with Toby and it was so restricting as i couldnt go on anything and the heat and the amount of walking we did really shattererd me.

Shelly have you used that last tests yet?

Am off to Docs today as this pain is really bad front and back but has moved higher up now. Its a really tight pain now not cramping. I wouldnt normally go but ive had it over a week now so dp is pushing me to go. Think he will say its a kidney infection as that effects you back doesnt it?

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Diddle · 03/08/2005 08:07

morning everyone!!!

tabs - thank you, i was wondering if stress had delayed AF, will try extra hard this month to stay calm and relaxed. got a massage booked for Thursday night, so that will help a lot towards it. Plus i shold be OV in the next few days after, so i have just realised what great timing that is. Right no more wine this month. I'm on a mission.

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petunia · 02/08/2005 20:57

CP- thought this was really going to be your month.
Maddyd- hair is good! Even better is the curry we pick up on the way home! But so full now I could burst!
Night everyone.

Tabs · 02/08/2005 20:53

I've stayed at the Mandarin - pretty nice.

Diddle - effect of stress is that ov can be delayed, so if you are stressed then I'd suggest that you carry on BDing every 2 or 3 days until AF arrives, as if ov is delayed and you're not testing then you won't know for sure that you have ov'ed. Quite possibly why AF was late for you this last month too.

Sorry about AFs arriving ladies, and good luck Shelly for Friday (if you manage to wait that long!)

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 02/08/2005 20:18

Disneyland paris is great

Went last year,fab rides!

signing off now ordered blade 3 on sky - luv it

chill shellybabe.if its not this month it will be soon

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Diddle · 02/08/2005 20:11

shelly24 - calm down honey, there are plenty of us left on here. you'll be fine

Just booked 4 days at Disneyland paris for 5 wks time, can't wait. I bet knowing our bloody luck, i'll be pg by then and not be able to go on the rides. Can't believe i'm wishing pg away now.
We had a holiday there booked when i was pg first and had to cancel it, then had a m/c, wish we'd kept the first booking now, would have saved us some pennies.

Nice to have something to look forward to.

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shelly24 · 02/08/2005 19:32

Oh god!!!I'm the only one left!!!
What if get a bfn and still no AF on fri!!!??
Am really scared girls! Am worried that something is wrong with me if AF doesn't arrive!....have panic attacks that i can't have anymore babies(really MUST chill out abit!)
Maybe AF will turn up tomorrow?
I'm SOOO pleased you chose the manderin mads,its a fantastic hotel...you won't regret it .x.x.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 02/08/2005 19:14

ok so its here but expected it after 1,000,000,000 bfns

already marked up calender and told husband NO ALCOHOL during this time as he does have a few cans every night (this is since we lost philippa) and he used to have a few nights off before.

So experts am i on right track here ? -

started today day 33 (last month ov on cd17 on 31 day cycle) so gonna bd every other from 14 to 21 and dh will abstain from beer same period
hoping to stay away from ov kits but cant promise.......

shelly its upto you girlie!fingers crossedxxxxxxx

maddyd · 02/08/2005 18:47

Not going till the 13th od August so i have plenty of time to get excited. My first ever weekend away without kids.