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TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 15:15

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

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shelly24 · 04/08/2005 19:31

ok,well talk to you all soon.x

HellKat · 04/08/2005 19:27

Hiya all!
Have'nt been around as much because trying, hard as it is, not to obsess as much with this ttc lark. Sad as I am, been testing on/off every other day for a week lol.
How's everyone??
Welcome Aunty!
Off to watch BB live. Take care girls xxxxxxxxxxxx

shelly24 · 04/08/2005 19:26

Anyone around!?

HumphreysCorner · 04/08/2005 17:51

Here, here !

maddyd · 04/08/2005 17:41

Ahh Shelly i do understand really. im infamous for bloody false posotives. But do me a favour will you DO A BLODDY DIGITAL TEST, WILL YOU

maddyd · 04/08/2005 17:38

here is Shelly's essay, and it is a essay too

Hry girlsHope your all doing ok today.x
As for me,well i don't know how i feel really,have got butterflies and feel abit sick,but thats cos of everything thats happening right now,did another test today(yeah,i know,am seriously wasting money,and should just wait abit!)It was a thicker line than yesterday,and slightly darker too,i think i am but that its just really early still.Please don't think i'm crazy,but i'm really scared and keep thinking 'i'll wait another day',and sure enough the test gets darker each time.
I don't want to go to the doctors yet because i want to wait until i'm def that my period would have been and gone,and i want a really strong result,instead of the ones i've got.
I didn't help matters really this morning when i was on a site where loads have people had written that they had loads of positives then went to doc,did a blood test and it was neg!?there was loads of women all saying similar things,and it done my head in!and made me give in and do another bloody test!!!
I'm so scared to even get my hopes up even alittle bit!!!what if its all for nothing?,i couldn't handle getting all excited and then finding out i'm not!
I've already done my DH's head in and hes gone down the pub,cos i keep asking him questions and repeating myself!! Hes 98% sure that i am,but like me doesn't want to get our hopes up just yet.
I must sound really annoying,and i'm sorry,and your prob all shouting at me'GET A BLOODY DIGITAL TEST!!',but i'm too scared to do that just yet,i just wanted to let you all know whats going on,as its really important for me to write on mn,and let all my(mixed)emotions out,...sorry.x.x.
I've just been through so much lately that i won't let myself even get alittle bit excited,i've been too used to disappointment already this year.

maddyd · 04/08/2005 17:37

Shelly i will copy and paste it on here for you

shelly24 · 04/08/2005 17:33

Hey girls
I've just written a bloody essay on the aprilbabyshowers.com thread,giving all the latest.
I'm really soz,would write it on this page but am just off out till about 7,and am in a real rush!!
Hope everyones ok....if you read my message please don't think i'm mad!!,just want to be def....(sorry!!)will be back later.x.x.

maddyd · 04/08/2005 17:33

Diddle you sound like my mum, bless

I know what you mean about avoiding ov time, i prob been doing it wrong times anyway. Pain been a bit better today thankfully as it is very tiresome.

Im not buying any new clothes incase i need maternity clothes, at this rate ill look like a right old tramp if i keep waiting

Shelly any more news for us yet, im getting butterflies for you.

Chocop i got you and Shelly mixed up the other day talking about work and sickness. i work from home so pretty flexible when i do it. Its why im on the comp so much, im meant to be data inputting but the lure of mn is too great.

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 17:22

not sure what a very day is, think i mean busy oops

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 17:21

sounds like you've had a very day CP, bummer about no new clothes, I keep looking at the maternity clothes in the sales, feeling very temped to stock up just in case, but then i don't want to tempt fate. its a toughy.

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 04/08/2005 17:03

yes slight exaggeration but thats what I meant.

Just got back from activity afternoon at library.Great fun for kids and us!! Bloke that run it looked like the bloke from Play School!Come back with loads paintings and kids knackered!

My calender is marked up from this months marathon bd sesh.DH told NO BOOZE the whole time (about 10 days)so hopefully have a better chance.

Going away in Oct and was holding on to buy hol clothes in case pg but now know that even if I get pg before then I will fit in normal clothes now.Bummer.

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 16:52

phew, you know when you just feel like all the energy has been drained from you, well i feel like that today. Ths kids have been great and i find that when i've got more fo them they need me less, but i'm exhausted just the same.
Having a massage in an hour, can't wait, need relaxing.
hope you're all ok

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 15:46

xena - i think she mean tshe bought 3,001 opks off ebay? thats how i ready it anyway. could be totally wrong.
xxx

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Xena · 04/08/2005 15:36

Chocp whats 2,001?

Xena · 04/08/2005 15:33

Maddy I don't normally look but Beksmum had posted so I went on and at the end read 25+4 and felt soooo sick almost.
Diddle I was thinking of not going back on the pill till christmas but I think I will still obsess every month.

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 13:36

auntynon - what sort of business do you run?

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 12:23

maddyd - you have to eat! i bet as you're avoiding ov time you get pg anyway, purely because you're not thinking about it as much, or perhaps concentrating on it is a better word.
Won't be good if you have to cancel your weekend. are you taking it easy, or working?

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maddyd · 04/08/2005 12:11

Its painfull isnt it Diddle. it will be our turn soon im sure, although im not annoucing mine till a get a digi posotive. No more ebay tests for me but i think i will use ov sticks. Dont know if trying this month because of my belly ache which is a bummer, so i will actually be trying to avoid ov time. What a nightmare!!!! May have to cancel our special weekend away to till a later date as the night times are the worst. Its not so bad if i dont eat though. so i may loose a little wieght

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 12:07

maddyd - i must be very brave then. but when i do read it i try to block out the fact that i should be like them, and just think of it as talking or reading about friends.
If my first pg had been succesfil i would be 34 wks this week. can't imagine that now, feels like a lifetime ago. quite sad actually wish i hadn't worked that out.
oh god i want a baby soooooo much.

please let us all be successful really soon.

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 12:03

XENA - YEP SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE TALKING YOURSELF INTO IT. oops didn't mean to have caps on, not shouting at you.
Perhaps you could stay off the contraception and not actively try, no bd every day, but just give yourself till xmas and if nothing has happened by then, perhaps give up then? worth considering. you do sound like you really want another. How long did it take you to conceive the one you lost?

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maddyd · 04/08/2005 12:03

Xena im not stong enough to read the Nov post although i wish them all the best of luck and healthy pregnancies, but it just makes me too sad.

Toothache · 04/08/2005 11:50

Shelley24's post on Wednesday 3rd - 4.30pm ish:

"Hey girls,hope all of you are ok
Tested yesterday afternoon,and got another pale line,did same today around the same time today and got another pale line!!...so i don't know!"

Congratulations??

Xena · 04/08/2005 11:48

Diddle honestly I'm desperate for another, I always wanted 4. But I can't bear to go through it all every month 1&2 happened without trying but 3 took ages. If we carry on and I'm not pg before the end of the year there will be to big an age gap between 1&4 and also abit of me just wants to get past the baby stage.

Can you tell I'm still trying to convince myself

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Diddle · 04/08/2005 11:27

xena - i know its horrible reading it isn't it, and wondering what we would be like at 25 wks or however long it is. but we'll get there when our bodies are ready. Sounds like you're not sure about not ttc after all.

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