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TTC after a Miscarriage - Keep Trying!!!!

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Diddle · 27/07/2005 15:15

Well ladies, its about time we had a new thread, the old one is getting very long. Plus I think we need another fresh start, with lots of positive babydust:

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Get a big handful girls, i think we all need it.
I was trying to think of something great and positive to put, but this TTC lark is getting us all down, i'm fed up of trying, but we will all succeed eventually, our times will come.

It will be much better for our little ones to have a good start when our bodies are truly ready to carry them.

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 09/08/2005 12:29

Thanks Maddyd

Sorry your suffering.Can you imagine if I could not eat chocolate?!!Has the hosp given you any indication of when they could fix it? My mum had gall stones removed years ago and she was ok afterwards.

maddyd · 09/08/2005 11:15

I do feel so much better. Yes three month is the wait plus they dont operate whilst you have a flare up. It has to be calm. Dont ask me why????? Other hospitals are alot longer wait, up to a year.

If i should mamage to get pregnant then i will have to wait till after delivery as i wont put the baby at any risk. Anyway this low fat no fat diet ahs got to be a good thing. We have bought a steamer and a mountain of rice cakes. I have a Twix sat in the fridge looking ever so tempting though. last night i was scared to eat so i just has some soup.

Do you know what i am so pleased for Shelly, i so hope it all goes well for her. Shes had a rough time as we all have but for her and Chocolate peanut it must have been a harrowing experinence. My heart really goes out to them

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Diddle · 09/08/2005 11:05

maddyd - can't believe you have to wait 3 months, that is terrible, can't you go private, is that the wait to have an op, or have they said you MUST wait that long?
I suppose you being on the toilet all night and losing what you are is a good thing, isn't it? even though you have lost sleep, doesn;t it mean that your body is righting itself?

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Diddle · 09/08/2005 11:04

maddyd - oh you poor thing, sounds horrible, and i would feel the same about it being a waste of a month. But you need to get your body in tip top condition. You might need a break, it might make all the difference.

Yes i am trying to be more laid back, and I honestly am checking what day i'm on, I don't know without looking. I'm on cd19. pretty sure i've OV in the last few days. We are bd, every other day until Af comes, and are limiting our alcohol intake to see what diff that makes. if we don't conceive this month, then there must either be something wrong or we need to alter our diets I think, to make sure our eggs and swimmers are strong and healthy.

Really want to be Pg this month. Had a lady come round last night with her little baby, who is lovely, but made me very jealous. I'm going to start looking after her older son in Sept, and then another of the kids parents came round, who is 14 wks pg, bless her she's very considerate of our feelings though and makes sure we're doing ok, and is one of the few people who is brave enough to ask if we are pg yet, and if we're still trying.

I am staying positive, and really trying to limit my stress levels. DH stresses me out all the time, when he comes home grumy and tired from work and gets ratty with me, it winds me up and i can feel myself getting tense. So now i',m ingoring him as much as poss and laughing at him to try and break him rattiness.
fingers crossed ths is our month.

sorry seem to have waffled a lot, oops.

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maddyd · 09/08/2005 10:54

Morning Diddle. Thanks for asking im not doing to bad. Pain has subsided after a night and i mean all night on the loo. It was horrible, wont go into detail but i had about two hours sleep. i should have wrapped a blanket round me and just sat on the loo all night.

Doc said this is normal and great. basically my stones have shifted allowing all the fat and bile to exit my body. i am now on a low fat and i mean low fat diet. No more than 5% fat per day to control the pain. I will take 3 months before they remove the gall bladder.

Im not ttcing this month but will be back trying again next month. Ive just done my ovulating test, im only day 9 and i have two great lines. Im a bit upset that its not a pregnancy test though . Anyway luckily im too ill to contemplate bding. Seems such a waste of a month though.

Listen to me blabbering on about me, how are you? Where are you in your ccle. I know your trying to be more laid back this month but i bet you know

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Diddle · 09/08/2005 10:00

morning all
maddyd - how are you doing?? very concerned about you and your "stones".

Hope you're all ok. Shelly have you a big grin on your face???

lets hope this is all our lucky months

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HumphreysCorner · 08/08/2005 21:58

Feel really tired so wishing you all good night and sweet dreams.

((xx))

maddyd · 08/08/2005 20:53

Fingers crossed Petunia xxxxxxxxxx

Hope evreyone is well, will be back on tomorrow, ive been taking it easy past few days but will catch up properly tomorrow

petunia · 08/08/2005 18:55

Humphreys- if I have to start testing, not til day AF is due (week on Wednesday). Found that testing early just doesn't work for me, it's always negative. One thing I've noticed is my boobs really ache. They're only like this when I'm.......? No! Don't want to go there until next week! Trying not to get my hopes up!

HellKat · 08/08/2005 17:47

Humphreys- lol!!! Think we should call ourselves Orlaigh1 and Orlaigh2 (obsessed with our boobs too ) but that would be an insult, so think we should now be known as "The Amazing Boobie Squeezers!" and yes mine are still oozing when squeezed . Well done on the freebies girl at Brands Hatch!
Diddle- good to see you! Still testing neg here but very tempted to try and get endo sorted before getting pg again. If i don't fall by Sept, think i will. It's starting to affect day to day things, making me miserable and painkillers don't work. Dp is being a babe though and apart from getting loads of fuss, has said he does'nt mind ttc whenever it feels right. Guess it'll happen when it's all good and ready.
Got a naked baby running around (who's just discovered the joy of running on tip-toes, hands in the air everytime we say "Hallelujah praise the peas!"), sounds extremely odd I know but ever since he managed to feed himself veg, I said hallelujah, praise the peas. Yep I do get some proper dodgy looks! Especially when I forget that we're in a packed shop . oh the joys of being a bonkers mum!

HumphreysCorner · 08/08/2005 17:32

Afternoon ladies

How are we all today? Lots of fun and frolics I hope

Ooh petunia and wishingchair-when are you two going to start testing? Decisions, decisions!

Soz, got to go as DH needs the computer-Grrrhhhh!

Love to all, will be back later.

((xx))

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Diddle · 08/08/2005 15:15

congrats Shelly - excellent news.

hope you all had a good weekend. i'm trying not to get hooked to you guys again. might do a bit of lurking for a bit. if i can manage it.

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LunarSea · 08/08/2005 13:57

wishingchair - spotting started on what would have been day 18 - still only day 22 now - so a bit early for that. And anyway opk's showed negative every day from day 8 through to starting to bleed. So unless I OV'd before AF had even left after her last visit there's not really any chance of that.d

wishingchair · 08/08/2005 13:19

Ooo Lunarsea - maybe pg?? Why not do a test? (or have you already done thousands ...)

LunarSea · 08/08/2005 13:04

congrats shelley - and good luck all those who are waiting to know.

Well I just wish AF would make her mind up. A bit of spotting on Thursday, looked like she'd turned up on Friday, then stopped again Friday evening, and back to spotting for the last 3 days. What on earth is going on?

spub · 08/08/2005 12:22

CP- ooh, you are awful!
Bonkfest ahoy!

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 08/08/2005 11:51

shelly24-thanks baby girl.tears in my eyes

spub- hope you get the birthday pressie you deserve luv

Lets hope shelly has started a run of good luck to us all.All ladies with af due v soon........

BEST OF LUCK.COME ON LETS DO IT!!!![WINK][WINK][SMILE]

spub · 08/08/2005 11:28

Petunia,
Go And Get An Axe!
If the dreaded AF does arrive then you can explain the damage away as "severe PMT"

petunia · 08/08/2005 11:10

Morning all,
Not a great nights sleep due to next doors car alarm. Don't know what time it stopped but it was still going strong at 4am! The battery must be totally flat by now!
So it looks like Humphreys, Wishing Chair and me are all due AFs next week. Oh it's going to be a fun week!

spub · 08/08/2005 09:59

Shelly,
Fabulous news. Absobloodylutely marvellous. Gives us all a big smile and some hope!
Understand that you will be delighted and terrified in equal measure but if holding your own baby is like doing the Grand National then you have now cleared the first hurdle! We'll be cheering you on as you go!
Have been off the boards for a few days so have lost the plot somewhat with where everyone's at. Apologies if I am not posting more tailored messages based on how you are all getting on. Hope to catch up better over the next couple of days (when I am at work and can access the pages more easily than at home ..._)

My next AF is due on my (ahem) 35th birthday on Aug 31st. Wouldn't it be a nice pressie if it didn't show up???

shelly24 · 08/08/2005 09:42

thanx wishingchair,it will be alittle difficult but i'm starting to be more positive about the whole thing!.x.x.

shelly24 · 08/08/2005 09:40

Maddy and c.p.....i offically name you my little beans virtual godmothers!!!
I couldn't have got through what i have without you,and look whats come out of it in the end
I think the world of you both!!!
speak to you soon.x.x.x.x.x.
(lots and lots and lots and lots of baby dust both your ways!!!.x.x.x.x.x..x)

wishingchair · 08/08/2005 09:38

Hi all - just popped in to check on you all. And shelly - big congratulations to you xxxx !!! I can imagine how hard this pregnancy will be (I'm longing for it and dreading it in equal measures!) but I'm sure you'll get so much support. Take it easy!

Not had chance to catch up one everyone else but got my fingers crossed that this month will bring more baby news. My af is due week on thurs but that's based on 28 day cycle and mine is more like 25/26 so that makes it week today/tomorrow. No symptoms of anything yet - although my left nip is soooooo sensitive, almost like a mozzy's bitten me on it. Weird eh? Could mean pg then again, could mean I got bitten by a mozzy!

HumphreysCorner · 07/08/2005 22:13

Meant to say

LOL petunia-fab image of you with an axe!

HumphreysCorner · 07/08/2005 22:11

Evening ladies

Back from Brands Hatch and had a lurvely time-managed to escape paying for the evening meal and drinks cos the waiter must have put the wrong room number down and who am I to argue?

Petunia-my AF is due a week on Thursday (18th) so we will be testing round about the same time. Like you I feel symptoms already.

HellKat-hope you have some good news soon. (Whispers-been having a little squeeze tonight to check the flow of milk )Yes, I know I am loopy.

Bit tired so I will wish you all a good night.

(((((xxxxx)))))