The 'I have been TTC forever' club- are you in it??

Hi Spongey I hope to start asap, but I am booked in for a hysteroscopy next week, so have to wait until after that. I am hoping that I will then go straight into IVF.

This will be the first of up to three funded IVFs for me.

Sorry to hear about your m/c, and hopefully this time treatment will work. What's your diagnosis, and do you know what the next step is?

Fingers crossed for duellingfanjo!

Excellent timing yellowflowers! Here's hoping for a textbook boring pregnancy for you.

When do you start on the IVF Chocho? Will it be funded on the NHS?

Had my dildocam today - no need of trigger shot as I had already ovulated and no need for stealth shagging while the in laws are down, phew.

Good Luck for the testing tomorrow DuellingFanjo! Can I ask why they could not freeze the two embryos you are not using this cycle? I should be starting ivf in the next month or so, and we are hoping to freeze unused embryos for the future.

I have just passed the four year ttc no.1 mark...including 6 months of Clomid, 7 cycles iui, 2 miscarriages.

I know quite a few people with babies who were not even in a relationship when we started ttc. The rictus smile is beginning to look like some freaky ventriloquist dummy now.

Hi,

You may have seen this on other threads but after over two years and literally th emonth before we were about to start clomid and iui I got a bfp earlier this week!

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I went local littletortie and was on the NHS. I think my clinic (IVF Wales) is quite good and it meant no traveling for me.

I think success rates are often influenced by what criteria the clinic set. If they see more older women then their success rates overall will be lower etc.

I am a bit confused about how the percentages are worked out as there are so many points along an IVF cycle which can fail. So for example the ultimate goal is to get one good egg fertilized and successfully transfered. Up to that point you have little hurdles to get through. First that you respond well to the drugs, then that he follicles produce eggs, then that the eggs fertilize and so on. Am not sure if by going through all those stages successfully your success rate then rises in the last stage? Presumably they include the stats for those who fail at an earlier point in the cycle in their overall stats? I'd be interested to know.

My test date is 10th April. Ages away. I found the whole process really quite easy to be honest, the 2ww is hard though. I only had 6 eggs and only 4 fertilized. I had 2 embryos implanted but they weren't able to freeze the other two.

Fingers crossed DuelingFanjo

littletortie I have just completed IVF. If you have any questions I'd be happy to info.
Not every ones experience is the same but I can talk about how it was for me.

I've been trying for my first for almost 2 and a half years and am on my 2ww after my first IVF.

yellowflowers I started about the same time as you and have been on a thread here for a long time as beanieb. Most of us left on that thread have been trying a long time.

my diagnosis was 'unexplained' but is most probably my age (Am 40 this weekend). I managed to fall pregnant once but miscarried soon after. have tried everything including Pre-seed, temping, fertility monitors etc When I think about how I was when I first joined Mumsnet, how little I knew, I feel embarrassed by the optimism I had back then.

I've lost count of the times I have been told 'relax' or 'I have a good feeling that it's going to happen for you' or about how 'someone I knew went to a chinese herbalist' ... well you've got to laugh eh?!

I am going to book in for acupuncture tomorrow figure its worth a try at least. i also seem to be surrounded by pregnant people complaining about feeling sick and tired. grrr

i feel like this already and im on cycle 8. beginning to wish i had never started trying, as i didnt feel half as broody then as i do now!

Littletortie, I actually banned myself from looking on this site for a while because I was starting to get real feelings of bitterness every time I read of someone else's good news. Like you, I already have a child and know that I am so lucky compared to some couples, but try telling that to my hormones when yet another friend anounces she is pregnant or another colleague comes into to work to show off her latest beautiful baby. I saw two ladies of a certain age (like myself) with babies in pushchairs and I was so jealous that it must have shown on my face because they stopped talking mid conversation! Hope I haven't scared anyone with this post, when the hormones aren't raging (clearly they are today!) I'm actually quite a sane person! x

Littletortie - I have thought about acupuncture too, so I await with interest how your sessions go. Is it quite pricey? I feel like if I started I wouldn't be able to stop.

It is nice to hear someone positive.

Little I've been referred for IVF

Know what you mean about people falling first try or 'accidently'!!!! Why can't I be that unlucky - unlucky in everything else!

It's my turn to be grumpy now {grumy emoticon]

Hello ladies

Unfortunately think I would fit in here

Been trying since August 2006 to conceive a 3rd for me (DD18 DS16)a first for DH, we've had every test going and nothing has found to be wrong, it's just not happening. Sometimes think it'd be easier to have a diagnosis as then we would be able to try and correct whatever it is.

We were advised to have IVF almost 2 yrs ago but we'd have had to fund it ourselves and we can't, plus other practical reasons such as location of the fertility centre, work etc.

So I am pulling on my heels and joining Indigotall at the cinema!

Hi we have been trying for three years (mc last year) and I am finding it quite soul destroying, have good days and bad days!

My dd is nearly 7 and all she wants is a baby sister or brother and it breaks my heart when she asks when they will arrive.

I am sick of all the pregnant people around me as well, I would do anything to be big and round, I would even love being sick and not being able to sleep if it meant I got a lovely podgy baby!

Hi Umbongo rtd gone so shagging will be starting later on, but would rather have a cup of tea and a muffin!

Hello, can I join? Be gentle this is my first ever MN post! Been trying for about two years now, no known problems, on fifth cycle of Clomid + Oestrogen + HCG trigger injection. I got pregnant last year but we found out at the 12 week scan the baby had died at 10 weeks.

I have to go out for a farewell lunch today as my friend is off on maternity leave. Obviously she got pregnant first try (again)!

Sorry am really grumpy today, ignore me.

I am on drugs to have periods and was back at the doctors yesterday. Was going to ask to come off them as am fed up, but apparently there is a chance (worst chance scenario) that I am going to have to be on them till menopause, whether I am TTC or not. Left feeling really pissed off.
So no I am not going to pursue any other avenues to get pregnant, I just can't take it. I would probably feel differently if I didn't already have one.
I am fed up of life on hold. Even silly things like not buying new clothes as I want to buy maternity - stupid I know but need to get out of this mind set and accept I am lucky to have one. (Sorry for those TTC #1).

Littletortie - if you think you can cope with IVF then I say go for it. I just don't think I could cope with doing it and not getting pregnant. I guess I must be a glass half empty person.

Ooh another club I have membership to!
We started TTC Nov 2007. I have PCOS but DH is all normal. I had Clomid for 6 months which got me ovulating but nothing stuck. I've had 1 month without clomid so far this year & nothing again this month. Just feel like it's never going to happen!

I'm feeling pretty down (which aint gonna help either).

Chipper I'm hearing you on the pregnant ones moaning!

I also had a mc in august so that really hasnt helped as I think that was my only chance for no.2

Hello everyone, well we have been trying for 2 years (sort of as medical condition I have has meant no periods til recently but I was only aware of that for last year). Our DD is nearly three and most of my friends are on their second, either pregnant or have had baby. I also had a mc in december and have gone from being really positive about it to being very depressed so I understand how some of you feel.
DH and I have decided to stop trying, act as if DD is an only child by choice to get everyone off our backs and also to stop us putting things on hold because we might get pregnant, if that makes sense.
DD's best friend's mum is pregnant and if I have to hear about how awful it is being pregnant or how she does want to go through the birth again I think I will cry.
It is crap and again, I also apologise I know I have one and am very lucky.