Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome.

Woot woot Gilda !! So happy for you and brill news for you Malteaser. May things go swimmingly well for both of you.

Fingers are tightly crossed for you 8s Long may this winning streak continue

Congrats on the offer Cheepz. We're on the other end of it and it's a nerve wracking time.

Sorry to see you here Lucy, but it's not a bad place to be.

Hope you begin to feel a little better soo WYG and I agree with the rest, a sympathetic doctor (or at least one who you feel gets it) is essential.

muser light at the end of the tunnel! Yes!

allthe8s glad the service went well, our is in May. Also fingers crossed that you are pg and that was a breakthrough bleed!

Dorcas the ignorance of people can be unbelievable. I honestly wanted to knock some of them out. However chose to bite my lip and down the line can see well intentioned not malicious. However at the time they hurt, hurt, hurt. Take all the time you need and keep talking xxx

malteser and gilda well done you super fertile mums to be!

lucysnowe glad you've found us, we're a lovely bunch!

As for me, have decided to get on with life and not be as obssesive with ttc. So have shed a monster 5lbs this week, joined ladies only gym.

I also spent a small fortune on clothes as DH and DS1 took the car transporter up north to collect a car. My first weekend day to myself since DS1 was born. Got lots of lovely things to wear to get me out of the 'should be in mat clothes now' mentality.

Even managed a smile when the lady next to me at DS1 swimming lesson was stroking her bump and proudly telling me she is due the 1st week of August (my original week too).

Now working from home!

Went to reflexology and my lady mentioned a warm spot in my uterus so we will see, still too early to test.

Have a lovely Monday all and some healthy fruit!

and good news Malteser I knew I had missed you!

Way to go GI1DA !!!!!!

ok now on serious knicker watch girls as RTD amounted to sweet FA this morn and has now vanished.........started wondering if it was breakthrough bleeding.........too scared to test will leave it a day or 2.........

Welcome to the madness Lucysnowe You are in the right place x

Good news on the move Cheepz

Hi unbuffy glad you are well

WYG I agree with the others x

Wonderful, wonderful news Gi1da, I am so happy for you.

Hope things continue to look good malteser.

Hi all!

Just popping by to say hello. Miscarriaged a few months ago and my cycles are really long so am just at the end of my first 'proper' one (I think). Have got sore nips so was thinking hmmm so did a test and a BFN. Bah!

Both DH and I wanted to back in the saddle (as it were) straight after mmc, but it looks as though we will be here for the long haul... I didn't chart my last cycle as I wanted to be kind of relaxed about it but I think for the next one I am going to be v. scientific about it.

Meantime, my boobs are pg at least :-)

Flipping heck, that's fab news Glida and Malteser

I AM working, honest

Barfy and Cheepz thanks - and for the comedy badaboom... my due date is apparently.... yup, 25th December! Is there NOTHING I won't do to get out of spending the festive season at the teetotal inlaws?

Cheepz - crossed posts - clearly on the same wavelength here with the dancing and wooting...

hello hello, just poppin' by (have been lurking keeping an eye on you all, naturally)! All still well as far as I can tell, although no mw contact yet so cannot ask for early scan . Jumpin' up and down for Malteaser and Gilda - congrats ladies, woot woot!
(very brief mad cheerleader dance interupted by feeling sick, sits down in a hurry)

Hellos to everybody else!

holy mallowly Gils talk about dropping the bomb at the end, nice cliffhanger for the next installment

big cheerleader woots to you

very nice news

ps I am a domestic slattern
pps we have counter offered - I hope we don't scare them away!

saunters off for cuppa to celebrate gildas upduffness

Malteser Get In! Now sit back, relax and have a very uneventful dufferdom.

Cheepz a hoorah for you too on the house. Just think, now you won't have to keep the place viewer-ready any more! (not that I'm calling you a domestic slattern or nuffink)

Westy I'd try to change is I were you. I have vowed never to see the bloke I last saw last at my GP surgery. I was in tears and he said "well its no big deal, one in every three pregnancies fails at your age, one in two". I swear I nearly leapt up and slapped him. This is NOT the doctor I said 'fanjo' to btw. Though I did say a few choice words under my breath as I left.

Eights felt quite choked for your ceremony, what a good thing to do though. I hope this allows you and DH to move peacefully onwards.

MrsPretty at subterranean planting.

Dorcas be very kind to yourself and DH. It will get easier.

And in Gilda-world, gusset watch was still on status Clear, and I just happened to pass a Boots on my way back from lunch. I still don't quite believe it, but I appear to be upduffed. Bloody ell!

Crossed posts WestYorkshire - I think you should change your GP, I'm a good example of asking for help in all the right places.
The scan today told me not alot, but the words of encouragement where invaluable. We all deserve that much.

wyg sounds like you might have had early mc as your symptoms sound alot like mine were in jan, good news is you get pregnant prety quickly so no fertility issue!! and early mc like this is very common, more so than you would think because most people are not symptom checking like mad and wouldn't necessarily know they were having an mc. I think you should carry on with the trying but maybe put a little less emphasis on it if you can. big supportive hugs going out to you (by train though what with all the air travel problems!}

dorcas retesting is horrid, i had to do one last week, 2 weeks after erpc so i knew i was not pg and there was still a line so hcg still going down, it was one of the more upsetting things to deal with - i wish it had been BFN then it would have been over and I could move on completely. I know a BFN feels pretty raw now but it does mean you are in good shape to go on and try now as all is normal with your hormones and the like. tough times xxxx

so we got an offer on our house this morning, going to negotiate a little but its a good offer so fingers crossed!!!

Thank you all for the good wishes. Well I've well and truly knackered my streetcred at work. Snot and tears and hiccups and a red blotchy face - in response to the simple question 'how are you?'.
Scan today - small gestational sac equal to my dates, no pole or anything, but at 5+2 not unexpected. Good news that it's in the right place, just off the midline and the pain appears to be from the corpus luteum cyst. Plan to rescan me in 2 weeks with open access in the interim. Positive happy thoughts for the next two weeks unless proven otherwise.
The LOVELY consultant was sooooo sympathetic and supportive and says she will see me every 2 weeks for piece of mind if I want!
Cheepz - she echoed what you said, the more antenatal support the better, and as obstetricians they are only too aware that women with multiple losses are a group who find it difficult to access the best care early enough.

Viv you go girl!, I'm sure the CBFM won't implode if you use it tonight instead, too be on the safe side just SWI like you never had before. Can't go wrong then!

*Allthe8's - well done for being so brave, sounds like it was a really lovely thoughtful service.

Gilda veg? You know how to make a girl feel inadequate don't you?! Houseplants last about 3 months despite my 'TLC'!

Dorcas - I know it goes against the grain to be pleased to get a BFN, but at least you know your body is recovering.

Muser - the end is nigh, hope you are limbering up!!

And to everyone else you offered words of support, thank you so much.

Go on then put me on the BFP list- this is the new positive me!!

Hi All

I haven't posted for a few days as been feeling really low. Still off work with this sore throat business and just so bloody tired. Felt sick Fri and Sat and now only occasionally. Don't know if it's part of the bug or pg symptoms that are taking a while to go (if was was pg). Don't get results from bloods until Weds at earliest.

Am wondering whether to change Drs and ask for a female as haven't been finding the male one much cop. That said, it could just be because he is saying things I don't want to hear. I think it's the thought that getting pg again might take a while that's so depressing. When I mc'd in Jan, I envisaged myself being pg by now. Still wondering about taking the break, but easier said than done. Had big argument with DH last night and a lot of baby stuff tied up in there so got to get a handle on it all somehow.

Dorcas Sorry to hear your news, but welcome to our thread. You need to give yourself time to grieve - it's OK to do that, but you are right that your friends won't get it. No one does until they've been through it.

Malteaser Hope your appt went well

Ahh Dorcas I am sorry, its a hard thing to hear isnt it. I had to go back to the hospital for my preg test after the mc and when she said, you are not pregnant I nearly said no sh*t sherlock.. I just didnt need to hear it. It gets better thou.

Hello to everyone!

Good luck to teaser

What a lovely weekend - sadly I did spend a lot of time yesterday sorting through my clobber and having to accept that I wasnt going to fit into some of my trews any longer so off to the charity shop they went.. SOB!! No more mid week wine, or crunchie bars for me!

I'm sorry Dorcas
There's not much I can say.
It will ease.
It's a shitty journey but you will make it out of the other side.

Enjoy the wine, have some pate and brie on the side too

Sorry PV, I didn't read your original post properly. 6ft under - good thinking.

Dorcas, sorry for the BFN,, look after yourself and take each day at a time.

Well I just did the test and it was a BFN. I know that this is probably the best result right now as it means I know my hcg levels are back to normal but I still feel blue . I think in some ways I've been a bit in denial about not being pregnant since having the mc. Not that I've thought I was still pregnant, the scan was pretty conclusive about that, but I just haven't really wanted to accept it as true. So it is probably a healthy thing really to have it spelt out for me by a pink and white superdrug pregnancy test. And at least I can go out tonight with my friends and have a guilt free glass of wine. Wish it had been positive though...

Viv no idea on CBFM malarky sorry.

Go for it!

And Hello from the Pool!

It's really not my fault Freezing Noddy lied, So Mr.G and I have both been watering him
He's taking lessons from the cat, we both feed him till we realise that the other one just did.

Result = smug fat cat and poorly Noddy.

I feel bad, Mr.G's Dad has had him for 30 odd years and we've managed to kill him in 5.
I think it's time to re-pot him 6ft under.
Oooops.

Morning all

Welcome Dorcas, of couse sorry that you're here at all, but I'm glad you've posted and get lots of support from all the lovely ladies here. Can quite understand your turmoil with regards the pregnancy test. My only (not very helpful) advice is to try not to do internet research. Easier said than done I know.

Cheepz your weekend sounds lovely, am very

Good luck today malteaser

PrettyVacant I'm very chuffed that you think I've got green fingers, please keep that illusion in your head. My advice on the cactus is, urm, eh, yes I think you over watered it