Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome.

Go with whatever makes you feel most confident in. I'd do skirt myself if I had great legs. And that reasoning has nothing to do with ethics or morals

advice ladies

first chat about new job friday - not a formal interview but first meeting with new boss so need to wrap him round little finger so he will offer to pay me the earth make good impression

he is a south african and not the most pc bloke according to my old boss, which is fine with me because i am married to a not very pc southafrican so i know how to handle them and can put up with their somewhat neanderthal tendencies!!

i am wondering whether to go with a trouser suit and play it conservative or skirt suit to show off my great legs which is abit more vavavoom, am thinking a skirt will make the more lasting impression not necessarily for the right reasons but sod it i really want this job!!

Unethical? Imoral? or just using whatever I got that god gave me.

Hello Margie that's awful sad news. You must be reeling, hope you are coping alright.

GLB hope your pains have subsided and are due to tummy troubles. Can see why these types of things would send you in a blind panic. Although obsessing since December about being pregnant again I am also terrified at the same time about getting that BFP and dreading that it will go wrong agaiin. You're doing the right thing, keep calm and just take it easy. Easier said I know but I'm sure a positive frame of mind can only help you.

Bunny the milestones are never easy but that's good you've found someone at work you can talk with too.

Allthe8s and Alba I'll try and hold off egging you on for a bit. What are your symptoms? I need to hear about someone else's because I am totally symptomless. WHERE ARE MY SYMPTOMS, I'm not even fabricating any. What's wrong with me!! I demand some symptoms!

Waves to everyone else about - I might go and have a glass of wine on the basis that this looks like a futile TWW and I had a horrible day at work.

Margie - so sorry for your loss, I hope we can help you through the days an weeks ahead- take care of yourself and your DP.

Bunny - my 3 month anniversary was v sad too - had a little cry - big hug to you

Allthe8s like the lurking, very lurker like

mummy3610 - gah, how frustrating! hope you get your pay soon. RTD a good sign you're getting back to normal. I didn't have any EWCM for first 2 cycles either

alba not long to wait now - you've over half way?!

I am on the bloody early train tomorrow morning, (note this is considerably earlier than the early train) so better go and sort my life hair out...

Hello Ladies,

Why do I always come on here when work are being shite? Is it too much to ask to get paid all my salary for last month? Sorry about that, I don't mean to moan every time I post!

RTD arrived yesterday 28 day cycle so things must be getting back to normal, though don't recall any EWCM so not sure if ovulated this month. Not been SWI (or without!) and DH still in oblivious-land

Sorry to see new recruits but this is a good place to loiter.

Have updated my stats and relegated myself to the bottom of the list.

Wednesday's list

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD67
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD45
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD45 ~ MIA?
Margie32 TTC#1 UCL? cycle Wtf CD44
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD41
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD33
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD28
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD28
Redheadgal TTC#1 UCL 28-30 cycle WTF CD28
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD27
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD27
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD26
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD26
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD23
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD22
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD21
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD20
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD17
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD15
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD14
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 3 CD13
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD10
Gonnabe TTC#1 UCL28 Cycle 2 CD7
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 3 CD7
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD3
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 2 CD2

BUnderthebonnet TTC#2 UCL 28-36 CD??
lucy snowe TTC#2 UCL 40+?? cycle 2 CD ??

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 Month 3 of 3 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
Jollster TTC#2 MMC 26/2/10 couple of cycles wait on acupuncturist advice
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait
LadyBee TTC#2 ERPC 08/04/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Barrenbrook BFP 6th April 2010
Goodluckbear BFP 10th April 2010
Malteser1981 BFP 11th April 2010
Gilda BFP 19th April 2010

Margie welcome and so sorry to hear your news about your precious little one. It is all so recent for you too. We're a nice bunch!

Sorry I've not been on much, have been reading but have not has chance to post.

Despite new togs and getting fit, yesterday was 3 mths since scan when we found out we'd lost our precious DS2 hence a bit of weeping at lunch on phone to DH.

Today told the other girly in our boy dominated team. She lost hers too in Feb at 10 weeks. Though she hadn't told anyone. At least I'm not on my own.

Laughing at kitty litter gardens. Has anyone got solutions for wascally pet wabits who creep behind trellis and eat all your clematis and chilli plants (nutters).

Big wave and cupcakes with butter icing to all. Apologies for not name checking and thanks for some lovelyposts for me.

Mwah mwah xxx

Oh yes, I always think Guildford has good shopping. Will be lovely for you to be back in your childhood home.

Jollster your getting on with household taks is making me feel v slatternly

lurk lurk!! I am in that ignorance is bliss place and want to stay there for as long as possible - well at least until the weekend, just not ready yet.............Will be back later to catch up with you ladies hope you are having a lovely sunny day xx

Jolls ps am also going for acupuncture again tomorrow. Keep with it, it is definitely a Good Thing

Hi LuckyBear well done you on getting an early scan for reassurance. Am sure it's all just things moving about and giving you jip.

Jolls you are right to tell me off, I woz not wearing ze gloves. Cat poo = not bright idea.

Cheepz how lovely to keep the house. They just don't make 'em like they used to! Mind you, mine's Victorian, and its all pretty shonky

Alba step away from the sticks!

How's our Dark Horse Eights?

Hi Margie - welcome but sorry you're here...

Cheepzy am so . How absolutely lovely to keep the house in the family. Last year we had to sell our family home after my dad died; the family had moved in the year before I was born. It was MY home. It was a very difficult and emotional time. Am so happy for you that you will be making it YOUR family home. Am also ... LOVE Guildford. Used to visit it fairly regularly in my old life. Always make a point of standing at the top of the high st, and just ooooing at that view. Friends of ours who live in Ewshot (other side of Farnham) want us to move Guildford way. Also am v impressed at your health kick (however long it lasts!)... am more of a full English girl at heart, so shout when you're back there! And of course, DS fell asleep in his lunch today so is now snoring away upstairs, making a liar out of me that he's no longer napping ....

Have had strange almost pre-menstrual tummy pains today, but am CD18, and TMI am still getting some CM.... have another acu appt tomorrow, and also my day21blood test tomorrow (scheduled early as my typical cycle shorter, in case you think I've totally lost it....)

Right will crack on and get cleaning the wooden garden furniture (it sounds like I have a MAHooooooooSive garden). I so don't. Maybe too much stuff in it though...?

Tarra for now.
Slightly achy wave to all x

Margie so sorry for your loss. I've added you to the list. This is definitely a good place to be (under the circumstances of course)

UCL = Usual Cycle Length
First cycle post MC we call the WTF cycle (What the fuck) as things can be pretty weird.

Very sadly welcome Margie, so sorry you're here, you must be devastated. I was heartbroken at 11 weeks, you must have been through something just truly awful. Can't find any words to help, but feel free to rant and cry and tell us how you're feeling, anything that might help you.

Big waves to everyone else. iPhone typing so afraid no namechecking.

Will scuttle back to the office soon keeping well away from boots or any opportunities to buy early tests... So tempted, 10dpo tomorrow but I know it's a very very VERY bad idea.

I'm convinced my boss is pg... Empire line dresses for a week or so now, she probably fell pg on her honeymoon, lucky thing... and another colleague just back from 20 week scan (I should have been at the same stage) and I'm happy talking about it now, really, bit sad but not horribly so. It really does get easier. That or the sunshine is buoying me up??

Very best of luck with your scan GLB, cramps very likely your gut, hormones can play havoc, but I know it's so hard to stay calm when you're in pain.

Wednesday's list

Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD67
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD45
Limelight TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD45 ~ MIA?
Margie32 TTC#1 UCL? cycle Wtf CD44
Liahgen TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 CD41
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD33
Mummy3610 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 cycle 1 CD30
Moofold TTC#2 UCL~33 cycle2 CD28
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 2 CD28
Redheadgal TTC#1 UCL 28-30 cycle WTF CD28
BunnyBaby TTC#3 UCL31 cycle 2 CD27
Icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 cycle 12 UCL24-32 CD27
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD26
LucyT66 TTC#1 UCL33-34 cycle 4 CD26
JulesAbs TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 2 CD23
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle 2 CD22
slimyak TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 4 CD21
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle2 CD20
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD17
Curlylox TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 2 CD15
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD14
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 3 CD13
Scotchontherocks TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 5 CD10
Gonnabe TTC#1 UCL28 Cycle 2 CD7
westyorkshiregirl TTC#1 UCL37 cycle 3 CD7
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle 3 CD3

BUnderthebonnet TTC#2 UCL 28-36 CD??
lucy snowe TTC#2 UCL 40+?? cycle 2 CD ??

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 Month 3 of 3 month wait
Cheepz TTC#2 MMC 26/3/10 6 week wait post ERPC
Jollster TTC#2 MMC 26/2/10 couple of cycles wait on acupuncturist advice
ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
Freezing TTC#2 MC 28/3/10 on cycle 1 of 2 or 3 cycle wait
LadyBee TTC#2 ERPC 08/04/10

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Barrenbrook BFP 6th April 2010
Goodluckbear BFP 10th April 2010
Malteser1981 BFP 11th April 2010
Gilda BFP 19th April 2010

Hi Margie, so sorry for your loss. It took me ages seemingly to get my period after my ERPC. It came in the end.

RTD makes me think of Russell T Davies btw. :-)

Margie - so sorry for your loss, glad you found this thread, they are a lovely lot here!!

Malteaser - good to see you on the grads list! I am having a scan in a bit over a week, when I will be 7 weeks 3 days. I hope to see a bean the right size with a heartbeat and whatnot, but am now shitting myself as I was awake a lot in the night with awful cramps. They are pretty mild now, no bleeding, but this is what happened last time - i.e. being woken up cramping in the night! Gah!! I'm hoping it's to do with my guts rather than the bean - clinging to any hope now... Can't do anything until the scan now though, trying to be calm and not think about it, bit difficult with frickin cramps reminding me.

Dorcas - it's really confusing, I think it could take another couple of weeks before RTD again. It took me 5 weeks post ERPC to get my period (which is probably over 6 weeks since the bleeding had first started). Sorry that isn't much help

At least it's sunny on the outside though!!

xxxx

I did grow up in it from about 6! so initially might be abit wierd.

But theres a whole refurb and extension to do an its in such a lovely town, still commutable to london for dh and for me too, but with woods behind and just in a really nice road

and it will be a different home for DH and DS and I (and hopefully another little one at some point) so I am not too worried - have spoken to loads of people and actually quite alot of people have done it - either their parnts or partners parents houses.

Will be abit odd going back to old stomping ground but as I said, lovely town and close to Guildford so good shopping and transport and the like

Margie Sorry that you have to join but welcome also.

Viv and Clareanna were you biking in the Peaks? am very jealous if you were. Haven't managed to get out my bike in ages, and nowhere very hilly with ace singletrack when I do.

Totally understand the wisteria fears, it's taken me 4 years of trying to get the hang of the pruning to get flowers, even though its ancient and has been flowering for years before we moved here (or that's what neighbours say)

Cheepz I don't think I've congratulated you on the house yet - congrats! That's brave moving into your folks old house. Did you grow up in it too?

Hi to everyone else

Well it's another lovely day here, another day for me to stare out of the window whilst pretending concentrating on work

ohh margie thats shite, poor you, first baby too, thats so tough.

welcome, always a bummer to welcome new people, but good to find support and understanding all the same

Please can I join? Am very new to Mumsnet, but your group sounds like just the thing I need. Am currently to be found ranting, weeping, laughing and swigging wine all at the same time.

Have no ideas what letters I have to put after my name, but my stats are: lost my first baby at 18.5 weeks on March 8th, still got no period, day 44 without period.

Westyorkshiregirl, we're off to Northumberland too, on Saturday for a whole week. Can't wait, we are so looking forward to getting away and I love it up there. I'm from the area, although I live down south now, but spent many happy times on the freezing bracing beaches of the north east.
Also, can anyone tell me, whilst I was still getting BFPs from tests done after my mc, does that mean I would not have been ovulating? And will it delay my RTD arriving if it took a while for hcg to drop? I first started bleeding four weeks ago tomorrow ( ), so if it was a normal cycle I would be expecting my period at the end of this week, but I am a bit confused.
Oh and good morning everyone else!

Westyorkshire - yep in a nutshell, poas and you get two lines when you are ovulating. CM good indication for me too, but I obsess like the reassurance.
Northumberland eh? You'll be pleased to know it's clear blue skies, but pack some woolies because it's still freezing!

ooooh freezing our new house has a wisteria all up the front - i will look forward to moving in and having that flowering too - its beautiful!! I know because we are buying my folks house!!!! will have to totally revamp it but its a lovely house - and at least we won't get gazumped

jolls noone orders one of those - no nap before two, holy cow. We had a 'didn't sleep through at all until 18 months and consistently until 2 and 1/2' if we get another one of those I am buying in a night nanny - I don't care if we need to remortgage.

right to bed with book for me - up for treadmill at 615am - can you believe i came home at lunch for a run - talk about control freak - i can control what i eat and my excercise so boy am i controlling it, fad will be over next week and i will be lying in before a full english and doublefrothyfullfatextrashotdoublewhippedmocahafrappelatte

Freezing, jolls, cheepz- we have a huge wisteria that pretty much coves front of house. al petrified of it- never know how/ when to prune it- it even gets in under the sash windows into our bedroom!! Sometimes think it will go all little shop of horrors on us ... Also be careful of other plants near it you have to constantly feed the soil or else they die!!!

Gi1da- pmsl at cat crochet ! Best thing Is large dog...

Dorcas, scotch, Sorry things are so rough for you at the mo- it is a very real grieving process and there are unfortunately lots of little set backs along the way- bfns. Are just one of them

wyg - have a lovely time in northumberland - hope the sun shines for you

bunder- I had headaches too after erpc- gp said was general anaesthetic side effect. Drink lots of water and take a decent iron supplement- that helped me, but it has taken about 3 months for me to really feel I've got my old energy and concentration levels back- take care x

WYG yes I think so re tests, they tell you when you are going to ov. Never worked for me though, I usually use CM as a guideline..

I never had to take any tests after my mmc but I had an EPRC so maybe not needed? Bled for ages though and this cycle seems to have gone on for ever... with nothing to see for it. (BTW Am really pleased to be able to vent a bit here as I have no other recourse, but please do feel free to ignore nasty self-pity. )