Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

DOH - must remember to bring my pencil next time.

Bigmutha, glad and sorry to see you here, I really hope things get easier soon. We can help if you need virtual shoulders, and ime there's stuff you can talk about on here that stays very silent in rl. So take advantage of us, please. This thread has been fantastic for me, it's like having a proper gang of girlfriends who've all been through the same or similar crap. I hope it's the same for you - and anyone else who needs it.

Hi everyone,

Clareanna that sucks. Basically. I've just written and deleted four different suggestions of how to deal with him, but don't really think any would work. Perhaps basically if you're putting on a bit of a front for him, let it go so he can really see what's going on in your heart. But I don't know. Sending my best though.

Sakura it might help to try to take someone, if not neccessarily you dp. Mine was total crap when we went in for my erpc, I ended up having to fight the dictors (misspelling but I think I'll leave it as that!) to get the proceedure that day (after 7 hours waiting, all prepped etc.) My mother came to the scan the day before, and she was very helpful as she remembered all the questions to ask and stupid facts like 'how old are you' which I know sounds ridiculous not to know the answer to but when you're not thinking straight etc. Also, if you have to drive to the hospital, it would NOT be a good idea to drive home. You could always tell your dp that - that you need him to help transport-wise. That might allow him to be helpful but not to feel pressured. Also if he tells his work 'I have to take my wife for an operation' they might be more understanding too. Hope this helps.

Goodluckbear joining in the hug on the outskirts due to claustrophobia and indigestion (and Lotus position - calm still continues, 'tis MOST peculiar)

Pollyanna, best wishes; again can't think of anything, if it were me i'd be punching him out and then climbing aboard - two birds, one stone. Idea though - have you tried taking advantage of his, ahem, morning position? Too sleepy to argue, won't take too long, and a nice way to wake up (for him) (apparently) - plus you get the goods so to speak.

Viv - enjoi le boffing en France! Quelle lucky femme!

Spotty Thinking of you x

Anyone else, here is a slice of Zen and some hot buttered crumpets. Here's to Friday night!

xx

Sounds like we're all in need of the group hug today - joining in with transatlantic good vibrations (dudes)

sakura big hug- I know exactly what you mean. All i can suggest if it's any help is to think about what type of support you'll need and who in your life is the best person to give you that at this time- might be worth talking to dh explaining how this is likely to make you feel and how you'd like him to respond/ help? It can be good to have someone there who can ask questions and take notes too

barrenbrook hello!!
viv Bon chance!!!

So... Small rant time- dh and I went out last night for quality time away from his family who we're staying with. I found myself at slightly the wrong end of a pitcher of beer (classy) and made a comment like "still can't believe I'm not pregnant" (its 8 weeks since mmc at 12 weeks) to which he replied " I can't believe you're still thinking about that."
WTF?!
Erm yes, almost every hour of every day!!
In his defense he meant- I thought you were doing better and had got over it more (I've been trying to be positive with him )
dh was also made redundant a week after erpc so has got a lot on his plate. However this has meant a rather frosty end in sight for our hols with little or no likeihoos of swoi the way i'm feeling!! ( which depressingly is a bit pre menstrual....)

Hello everyone. I can't remember who asked, but I don't tell him I need to swi, but like Clareanna I am making rather more effort than previously so he has guessed! Also because I don't know when I am ovulating (if at all) the possible fertile period is quite long - so he is getting knackered!

It would just be nice to be able to share the pressure I feel to swi, but I can see that I will have to trick him.

spottysox hope everything is ok with you today.

Barrenbrook, Sakura - snuggle into the group hug. And that goes to everyone!! You too Bunny!! Friday group hug is now mandatory.

Barrenbrook - glad to hear the CBFM is showing peaks, a good sign, and good that it's only slightly later than in other cycles. Hopefully a good weekend ahead.... ?!

Sakura....hmmmm that's tricky. I was similar with my scans and appointments, I even went to the hospital for the ERPC without DH (and kept repeating the phrase "you're a big girl, you can do this on your own" throughout). He came with me to one scan, a couple of days before the ERPC, and I cried and he got upset and bought me sweets to try to stop the crying. Problem fixing male behaviour at its best. So....I guess it depends - you could take him for the support, but at the same time, you don't have to take anyone as sometimes it can be easier to manage things on your own (i.e. you don't have to worry about anyone else).

So....I was no use there at all. How do you think you would feel if someone else was there (i.e. DP or anyone?)? Would it be helpful or less so? Big hug in the group hug!!

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Happy friday all! I have come to join in the group hug - think I need it!

Need some advice ladies, I am having a mini panic/breakdown - I have my appointment at hospital a week on monday for recurrent mc, it has just dawned on me that my dp is not at work so can come too. what do I do?!?!

I havn't even asked him yet, but am so stuck as to what to do. He's lovely, but seems to have coped with the mc's better than me, for some reason don't want him to see me getting upset but also might be nice to have hime there if i do....

Also, like others experiences, I don't want my dp to feel he has to "perform" when I think he's starting to think I only want to have sex to get pg (ahem, maybe that is true sometimes )

Sorry for the rant. I have been for all of my hospital appts and scans on my own in the past, feel like I'm quite a strong person most of the time but also feel embarrassed if I start blubbing in front of people.

Thanks and big friday hugs to anyone else who needs it! ((()))

Hellloooo! Barrenbrook pokes head round door and guiltily waves for lack of attendance

So much has happened again, it's nye on impossible keeping up if you don't get on here every day. My job gets in the way, it's sooooo unfair!

How are we all?! Hello to everybody, have just scanned through the 10 (yes 10) pages I've missed out on Goddamit.

Bigmuther Sorry for your loss , and a belated welcome

Spottysox Hope you are doing OK and have avoided having to have ERPC. Thinking of you.

Muser Good news on the levels, here's to them carrying on dropping.

MrsG Welcome back, your posts have had me giggling, along with yours Slimyak, Unbuffy, Viv and GLB

So, CD14 according to my CBFM today and am peaking, later than usual but I guess post MC your cycles are never the same. I had two really clear strong lines on the CBFM sticks the past two mornings so everything's obviously working and back to normal (ish)

Have a good weekend girls

PS Can I join in with the group hug??!

spottysox hope you're ok, saw your messages yesterday.

No more spotting since the one event on day 12 so in 2ww now. Boobs are feeling fuller which may indicate progesteron increasing, we'll see.

I conceived DS this very month 3 years ago, so would love another December baby! Though don't want to gear myself up too much. As such have not jumped onto any buses. I think I may also stay away from grads threads as there was too much heartache for lots of us on mine and I don't think that's healthy. Together with watching too much news in the Haiti earthquake and crying about the dead children and orphans. This time I'm wrapping myself in cotton wool.

Have a good Friday everyone! Though it's pissin it down here!

That reminds me, I did crowd surf once at a Frank Black gig, oh a VERY long time ago!!!

Happy Friday all, lets hope the spring sun dusts itself off and gets back out there for the weekend.

Still chucking at Viv's beaucoup de bofferey weekend. Bon chance!!

MrsG - you're the boss.

Is that the correct answer? Jeez I hope so, I hope it doesn't turn out he's the boss. I presume he is IN HIS HEAD.

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Hey Spotty - hope things are going ok today, not sure if you are still having the ERPC, and if so, if that will go ahead today?

Lots of you guys need a big hug today I think, so I'm making a new traditional - the Friday GROUP HUG. Gather round ladies, yes, you too Liah, squish BigMuther in the middle a bit, Polly, Elmmum squeeze in by MrsG (no need to bring saucisson at this point) - and the rest of you ladies, don't be shy now. Viv, G1lda, Clareanna, Littlemiss - do a bit of crowd surfing on the top, hug from above and all that.

Now hug it out ladies, hug it out!!!

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Ooooo la la ! Viv

Sending you lots of love BigMuther - MrsG speaks a lot of sense when she says that MrBM (or can I call him BigFather? ) might be worried about you.

spotty - hope things haven't been too bad for you overnight and that you're doing okay.

Today's my last day in the office before our weekend en France avec beacoup de BAI (boffing avec l'intention)

I'll bring you all back some pain au chocolat and maybe some french saucisson...

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BigMuther I'm glad that you came back,after popping in a few weeks ago.
Take your time and don't worry about ranting here, we all do it when we need to.
Is MrBM just worried about you.
I went though something similar with MrG.
He said that it didn't mean that we were not on the same page, it's just that my health and sanity was his first priority.
Give yourselves a bit of time xx

I really need to shift myself or twunt will be making notes if I'm 5 seconds late.
Who's the boss again???

Laters xx

Bigmuther one step at a time, you have been through a terrible time. Your emotions are all over the place and sadly only time will help to heal your heartache.

I felt completely numb for weeks but had to come to terms with the fact that it just wasn't meant to be this time, DP was very supportive however I'm not sure he completely understands.

I can't begin to imagine how hard it is for you both right now, I'm sure you DH will come round eventually. Feel free to rant on here with us all, we have all been through it and share your sadness. big (hugs) x x x

Thanks everyone for your warm welcome sorry not really up to speed yet with everyone.Still feel very& that i have to be posting on this thread,really feel bad as you have all been through the same thing,and some of you seem so positive,and don,t want to come on all self absorbed.Had a bit of a argument with dh last night talking about trying again when we can,and he does not want to he can see that i am in a really bad place at the moment and does not think i could cope with any more heartache.Thinks we should be happy with our lot as we have 2 ds,s who are going through the mill with us.

mornin' luvlies
Oh Spotty huge hug and a large box of Thortons coming your way , hope today is brighter for you.
What sparkle said with the hottie bottie and be good to yourself.

Liah big squuuueeeezzzze cos you sound down.
How's it going?

ElmMum it's still like a punch in the guts even though you know the answer. Take your time and look after yourself.

Polly are you telling him when you need to SWI?
Don't.
It's a lot of pressure to "do it" when he has to.
I know it's us with the one track mind at the moment but unfortunatly the only way to get round this is to make lots of effort to SWoI too.
I know it's not always ideal but " it's for the greater good".

Gi1da I went 65 days (lost count)
Twunt off yesterday, HR will be calling me (hopefully) today.
Sausage present and correct.

Have a fab Fri xx

Morning all, ff it's Friday! Have a wonderful day all.

spottysox thinking of you hunni ((HUGS))

Fridays stats:

Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD59
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD50
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD46
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD46
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD44
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD40
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD35
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD34
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD34
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD30
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD29
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD29
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD26
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle 1 CD26
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD25
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD23
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD22
HappyGirl1 TTC#1 UCL 26-28 cycle1 CD22
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD19
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD19
Pollyanna TTC#6 UCL27 cycle1 CD17
BunnyBaby TTC #3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD15
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 12 CD15
slimyak TTC#2 UCL 26 cycle 3 CD14
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 12 CD13
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 4 CD13
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 4 CD13
Limelight TTC2 UCL35 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD12
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD10
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 2 CD10
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 10 CD10
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle 1 CD10
Liahgen ttc#6 UCL 26 cycle 1 (post erpc) CD8
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle 1 CD6

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle WTF
Mummy369 TTC#4 UCL 26-30 CD55 cycle WTF for sure
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Elmmu
cinnamonswirl TTC#? cycle? UCL 23-30 CD23
Spottysox waiting for MC scan 18/3

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on month 2 of 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10
MrsGazebo TTC#1 MMC6 Molar 8/1 on 3-6 month wait

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010

Elmmum- completely understand how you're feeling, I felt the same- wanting to get back to normal but desperately sad was no longer pg. Thinking of you - look after yourself

spotty how rubbish- hope you are coping ok- thinking of you

Pollyanna what us it with these men?! You'd think they'd be delighted with all the action wouldn't you?! When we started to swi for the pregnancy I mced- I made more effort that month than I have ever in a long time (suprise Brazilian etc!) and he said he felt like I was tricking him as I was never normally that keen and once I was pg I'd go off it for ages!! In my defense DS is 2.5 and I work full time so swinging from the chandeliers has hardly been at the top of my list... I think if poss try to keep the detail on when to a minimum and take control of the social calendar so you can ensure you have him in the right place at the right time iykwim!!! This is obviously easier said than done!!!

Ahem. Someone appears to have stolen my period. Now I'm going to close my eyes and count to ten and when I open them I expect it to have reappeared and we'll say no more about it. Have I made myself understood?

Just. Want. To. Get. Back. To. Normal. Dammit.

Rant over. Hope everyone else is ok. All sausages present and correct? All hussy cat kittens home? (update please). All knobhead colleagues behaving?

Wishing you all well. Chin chin.

Spottysox thinking of you and hoping you and your dh are ok. x

Thinking of you ((spottysox)). Hot water bottle may be good too? Is DH home yet? Take care of yourself.

Am also grumpy, but hoping RTD/ is about to get me then I might know where we stand. Then we'll have to find the energy to SWI 'properly'...well I say we, my DH2b seems to be keen, I am just exhausted .

Friday tomorrow, have a good one everyone. Thinking of all those who have just lost, and anyone who's finding it all a bit crap at the moment

x

Was just going to ask if it was ok to have a bath and saw your mssg Jollster, that's where i'm going till dh arrives. thanks all