Just MC...Long haul, short haul, ranting, weeping, laughing all encouraged. Oldies and newbies very welcome

Hi everyone-am new to this thread-have been reading all your posts. I think its fantastic that MN is here and there is all this support out there. Especially since it means not having to offload ALL the time to DH. Anyway-how do I post my stats?-Just do it??! Have been TTC for so long so I suppose WTF!? Currently CD 12. All tests have proved so far inconclusive so have gone privately. Sometimes think I may go Mental MAD!! Help would be appreciated-you all sound soooo nice! xxx

Well said bear it's not over until that cow arrives..if ever. now pass me the cake woman

Bring out the elevenses - particularly for newbies and for slimyak and Viv. Big slices of chocolate cake from the trolley. Save the scones for afternoon tea.

Sorry guys, but still fingers crossed anyway - it's not over until you get your AF after all. I really hope!!

xxxxxxxxx

getting pregnant seemed to be the more easy part.. might head off to boots shortly, god knows why! lol

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Hello, should be today and I'm normally regular as clockwork however wondering if that's not the case after MMC.

Only started TTC in October, pg in early December.

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Hi Girls,

I'm with you on the test or not to test!

Day 28 in the littlemiss house (my stats seem to be a day out) what to do..don't feel anything either way but tempted to head for boots, god this is horrid.

There is a side of me that says 'not this month' so soon after erpc. I'll try and hang it out a few more days.

How you all doing today?
I'm going a little stir crazy, been up all night working and have an event at 6pm so need some sleep at some point

viv slimyak sending lots of dust your way. And fingrs crossed too early to test / late ovulations.

I normally bleed each cycle for 4 days and spot for 3. Following mc is spotted until day 14 when I thin I ovulated. This cycle I'm still spotting on day 10. It's not blood really, just a little brown when I wipe after using toilet. Has anyone else experienced this.

Also run down as just got Ds tummy bug and was ill at work yesterday. Just made it to loo! Working from home today.

In the test zone and contradicting myself at every turn.

I promised I wouldn't spend a fortune on testing and would wait until day AF due and if it didn't appear by lunch time I would test. So here I am four days before with wee stick in bin and a BFN.

Now I'm in the self debate of, well it's a no so enjoy the weekend and try again next month and, it was very early to test so the result isn't reliable.

Previous pgs have always shown early, so I feel it is a no this time but I need to step away from the wee sticks. This is harder than when I gave up smoking 6 years ago.

Arse.

Thursday's list
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD44
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD37
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD35
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD31
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD31
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD30
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD29
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD29
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD27
redandyellowandpinkandgreen TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 1 CD27
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD26
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD25
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD25
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD23
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 11 CD23
Slimyak TTC #2 UCL 26 cycle 2 CD22
floweringcurrant TTC#1 UCL28 CD22
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 9 CD20
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD20
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD19
Allthe8s TTC#3 UCL28 cycle1 CD19
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 6 CD17
dirtgirl TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD15
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD14
sakura TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD14
LucyT66 TTC 1 UCL 33-34 cycle 3 CD11
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle 1 CD11
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? cycle 1 CD10
BunnyBaby TTC #3 UCL28 cycle 1 CD9
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD8
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle11 CD7
albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle1 CD4
CCBloom TTC#1 UCL28 cycle1 CD4

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
slimyak TTC#2 UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF
Urd TTC#3 UCL28 cycle WTF
Mummy369
meatntattypie
GinaFB
Newcastle16

WTTC
Muser TTC#1 EP 18/02/10 on 3 month wait
Jollster TTC#2 MMC2 26/02/10 waiting for ERPC

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010
Barrenbrook BFP 2nd March 2010

Hi to all. Just off to bed but wanted to ask if anyone rates this flippin' book - Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control
by Toni Weschler. It seems to be mentioned on so many threads.

I do know the basics but if it will help get the ball rolling again, I am prepared to splash out on a second hand copy from amazon - "oh get you Hippy - last of the big spenders" .

Any good???

Newcastle16 sorry that you've found yourself here but you are in good company. I had my MC at 6 weeks too. Mine was a bleed and I saw my GP who referred me to the Early Pregnancy Unit at my local hospital and they performed a scan and a urine test both of which confirmed I had miscarried. I had to do another pregnancy test 2 weeks later to confirm that I had lost everything and that test was negative so then just had a general follow up conversation with my GP about how to deal with things emotionally and dealing with what had happened. Don't know if that helps you understand what will come next for you but hopefully gives you some idea?

Another way of knowing if everything has gone is to do a preg test. I got a faint second line after the EPRC but eventually after a week or so i got a negative preg test. Which is heartbreaking but necessary to know.

I wanted to see the negative so that if/when I get preg again and I get a positive I will know it is real and not old hormones hanging around.

A word of warning though - it is so hard to see a negative - like a slap in the face .

Thanks. It was awful cos we thought we were nearly 12 weeks so were telling everyone (including our 2 DS's!) and then we discovered that our little one had stopped at 8 weeks. You feel like you've ben living a lie for 4 weeks, but of course I know I wasn't really. I still had preg hormones pumping through me and I felt very pregnant. Awful moment when they tell you no heartbeat .

But it did mean that I didn't have to go through the actual physical loss cos they said it could take another 2 weeks to come away by itself (I couldn't wait that long once I knew.) So I went for the EPRC (similar to D&C).

I feel awful for you, being away from home etc. I think to lose a pregnancy is just totally devastating no matter what stage you are at or how it physicaly happens - at the end of the day as soon as you get that BFP you start projecting forward and working out dates and making plans (even if you try not to) and to have that taken away in an instant is so crual. Take care.

thanks hippychick - a friend of mine had an MMC so I really really feel for you lots. We have only told family so far and my best friend, think we might keep it quiet as i think i'll get stressed if people know we were trying - all so complicated xx

Hi Newcastle, so sorry. Am sure you will get lots of good advice here. I had my mc at 9 weeks and didn't have any further treatment, so maybe you won't need to. Hope you have lots of support at home too.

Sorry newcastle I was typing my message for ages (kept stopping to drink wine) so hadn't read yours when i posted mine. Didn't mean to sound flippant after your news.

Sorry you've found yourself here, how awful to MC abroad. I'm not sure how you know if you need a procedure, I had an MMC so a bit different. I think it depends if you keep bleeding heavily etc. They might send you for a scan to check all gone. Your GP will tell you. Someone else might come on and explain it better. Mine was such a diferent experience - but both are devastating losses.

Take care of yourself and I hope you get the support you need from this thread. xx

shinysideup loved the image of you and DH trudling up and down the aisle in the plane with various implements of conception in hand .

I have lashings of egg white but still no positive on the cheepie opk sticks. Come to think of it I never got a positive on one of those sticks even when I got pregnant - has anyone ever got a positive on them??

I think i will use the egg white as guide and assume its happening about now. I'm not trying this month but am recording it all for my records - gosh I sound like a scientist.

have a real glass of wine in hand and enjoyed my reflexology sess.

Hi,

Could I join this thread please? I was recently 6 weeks pregnant and while abroad I miscarried. Was just horrible and totally devastated. Really want to try again and don't know whether I'll ovulate now this month, whether I'll need a D&C (how do you know if you need one? i'm seeing my GP nxt wk) and just desperately want to try again soon. it's just so hard.

Hello, I put TTC # 3 as although DS2 only made it to 11+2 we got to see him and he was a little boy. Even if I'd lost him earlier I would still acknowledge him as I have now been pregnant twice. DS1 asleep in bed. Really sorry experienced posters if I've mucked things up. Happy to receive guidance.

More blood tests results. HCG levels have dropped to 750, they're very happy with that. I would just like them to be 0 so I can start my countdown to TTC.

My sparky new oven (I know, let's get the house all ready before the baby arrives! What, no baby? Let's do the house anyway!) has just this minute arrived (delivery between 1pm and 4.30 of course)... except that it's bent and has to be loaded straight back into the numptywagon and returned to sender. First decent appliance ever, didn't even last 10 minutes .

Hello everybody (in silly squeaky children's TV voice). How are you today, girls and girls (no boys allowed)?

Hello,

Sorry for not popping back in last night. DH came home and we both crashed out, early shifts are killers sometimes.

I think I'm almost caught up, well, with this thread at least, have just spent the last hour reading all the posts and making notes of things I wanted to say otherwise I would never remember.

Liah I never knew how much you had been through and I am in total awe of you. You are clearly made of something good being able to keep the strength up to keep going!

GinaFB I don't know what to say, you are incredibly strong to have made that decision . Sometimes I am completely dumbstruck by the strength of a woman. (God I'm going all feminist!)

Goodluckbear What a shitty run of luck you have had, hope things have straightened themselves out now (with the help of your chequebook of course!) I laughed so much at you with the tighty whiteys thing. When i'm interviewing naughty people at work we try and get phrases into the interview, it's bad really as they are tape recorded and then typed up for all to see. It just helps pass the time!

MrsGazebo any news re your bloods etc? My first mc I was told was partial molar, I don't know if I have told you this already, but after a having blood taken and sending it off to Charing Cross for a couple of months they rang to say my levels had reduced to what they should be and re examined the tissue and found it wasn't molar after all, FX it's the same for you. Don't scare yourself with all the stuff on the internet about it though, I made that mistake and the worry was for nothing in the end. Thinking of you.

Jollster mate, I'm so sorry to hear your news and the fact that you are having to wait so long for an ERPC, that can't help the way you are feeling at all. Big hugs to you and yours

Viv Tested yet?????

So, I haven't tested again, my SIL is due any day so I am 'ignoring' it until her baby is here, hoping that will keep me from being a knicker checker (not worked so far!)

I got home yesterday to a message from the Dr's asking me to ring them as I'd been to the hospital to have blood taken to check all was in working order and DH had taken a swimmers sample in. Then the Dr called me to check I'd got the message (which I was very surprised about) bless her, I now have a booking in appointment on Friday!

I have no idea how this has happened and I'm still in complete shock. One thing I did do differently is have acupuncture. I had two sessions. After the first I had REALLY strong ov pains and had the proper horn DH didn't know what had hit him! I went back for another acupuncture session a week later and she concentrated on my energy levels or something, I had needles everywhere! Going back again on Sat, hopefully it might help this bean stick. (Even though it still doesn't feel in the least bit real!)

Right, I think I have rambled on quite enough, sorry for mahusive post. I'll stay quiet again now!