To TTC or not to TTC, that is one of the many questions...

Just watched One Born Every Minute. Didn't enjoy it as much as last week (found both women infuriating but in different ways, at least at first) but it did make me wonder what i would be like in labour. 'Fucking nightmare' DH has just said.
Hmm...

Too tired to write now so signing off an back tomorrow. Night!

I was going to post last night but HP?s destruction of the MN server foiled me?.

Anyway, thanks for setting up a new thread YTD - I wonder where we?ll all be after another 1000 posts?

Anyway, HP - it sounds like you need to deal with stuff one thing at a time, so don?t beat yourself up about not coming off the Pill this month (LOL at PillGate though!), and when you get the all-clear from the hospital you just need to remember all that lovely green-ness you were thinking about after talking to your DH the other day! Though, just to put your mind at rest as much as anything, could you go back to your GP and tell him/her you?re TTC, and ask whether being pregnant might have an impact on any treatment you might need? It was interesting that you said your DH wanted a few more years of coupledom ? my thoughts on TTC exactly. I?d love to stay at my current age for, oh, maybe five more years, travel to some way out places I couldn?t take a kid, get a bit more financially secure, do the house up etc. But biology doesn?t work like that and I haven?t got five more years to wait. And I suspect your DH realizes this too, so maybe you need to capitalize on his current positive vibes!

Job-wise, I won?t hear anything for at least a couple of weeks, giving me plenty of time to mull over the options (some more ridiculous than others). But I can recommend potential redundancy as a sound method of contraception

Illicit post from work so won?t write more, but just wanted to say hi to all the regulars from the old thread and welcome to all the newcomers.

Hellooooo!
Blimey, a brand new thread!
I can't type much as I am going out for a run - I can't cope with this wobbly body anymore! - so will post later on when I've got back and got myself sorted.

HP - 15 years and he's still wanting more time with just the two of you? I hope my DP changes his mind long before then as we've only been together 3 years!

Posting in here seems to have brought me an abundance of luck. Had a phone call half an hour ago offering me a job and asking if I can start on Friday. Not sure I quite believe it yet. Financial stability here we come!

I'm so green it's unbelievable. Much like Tabby from the last incarnation of this thread, mad hormones have hit me much earlier than seems to happen to some people. (I'm 23). I have always said that I don't really mind what career I end up in, provided I get to be a mum. People that I've spoken to in the past have mistaken this for a lack of ambition. This is not the case. I'm sure being a half decent mum and not making too many mistakes along the way will be more difficult than managing a successful career.

I now have the perfect OH, we have a house with plenty of space for lots of DCs, I'm just waiting for him to be ready.

I thought The Book might educate me in what to look out for on a normal cycle, as I have no clue. I know it involves something to do with having a fever and an egg white omelette . Mainly I thought it would help knowing when to avoid the lovin', rather than time it to then! I chose to ignore the 'reproductive wealth' bit and just read 'wealth', so I'm excited to see how she can make me more fertility-knowledgeable AND rich rich rich.

Review will follow.

At the mo it doesn't matter if I was as green as an unripe banana dressed in a leprechaun outfit placed on a carpet of green shagpile (which I'm not!!), the job situation rules anything out for the next 18 months while I finish this project and get settled in a new job .

Delirious - welcome! We don't have a fully-green person on here as yet! Also, my DHs viewpoint of us spending more time together as a couple is a new one that he has come up with recently, and doesn't really hold up to much scrutiny given we have been together 15 years! But his other arguments are more compelling, so I let that one go.

OMG, my old thread!!

Bamboostalks' advice was awesome, bless her:

"You sound ready. Don't delay and go for it."

I've made a couple of posts on the first time frolickers, but I'm thinking that this might be the thread for me instead.

No dithering for me, but enough from DP for the both of us. As honeypetal said about her DP, mine also wants to spend time just the two of us before we TTC. (Which makes little sense to me - he seems to think that once you start TTC a baby appears immediately ).

DP's also worried about finances. At the moment we both have jobs, but mine isn't that high a wage. My job is very strange in that I wouldn't get maternity leave as such, but I would continue to get paid at the same level. I also work pretty sporadic hours (between 5 and 35 a week). He's probably right in saying that I need to get another job alongside my current one. It's just difficult to find a job that will let me work only Tuesdays and Fridays!

DP's grand plan is to get BFP in March/April next year. (I have tried to explain to him that things don't work like this, but it seems to be taking a while to get through). However, if I get another job before this then we'll hopefully be looking at TTC a fair bit sooner.

In the meantime I am going to continue to take the pill. Folic acid is sitting next to my bed, looking at me accusingly every night.

Oooh, I didn't realize we (or most of us) were already here! Hello all. I'm quite proud of us for being so prolific (verbose? ditherers extraordinaire?) as to have filled a whole thread. And before anything has actually happened in a sense (though of course lots has happened for all of us). The old thread stays around though, right? It would be a shame (perhaps?!) for all our previous conversations to disappear into the ether.

Anyway, here's to pastures new (but hopefully also a bit the same). x

I have to say I find this a fascinating thread actually as a lot of what you all talk about is the kind of thing I was turning over in my head before taking the plunge and now I'm beginning to think some of the same things thru about trying for number 2. How on earth will I cope with a toddler and the broken sleep of a newborn? Will I be a good parent to 2? Do I really want to or is it just that everyone else is having a second? Will I always regret it if I don't? Is now a good time?
I think the sleep thing will work itself out ok and they don't wake all thru the night forever. The other things I'm still turning over and over.

This time at least I DO have that urge so we'll probably go for it this summer, but I think it's natural to have all these thoughts swirling around...I think it means you'll be a thoughtful parent. that's what I tell myself...I'm probably just dithering

Hurrah! A shiny new thread! I cant believe we have filled a whole thread up. Thanks to YTD for setting up our new home .

Yes, I confess, twas I who took down the MN server ? the ?hardware problem? was all me, me I tells ya !!! I actually think that it was on its way down as I pressed go on that last post, it took ages to actually post the message then it wouldn?t let me log out, it just sat doing nothing for ages.

So, where was I. Oh yes, being told off and having a good think about what I had done. I just wanted to say that I really value what you ladies have to say, and I am grateful that you take the time to either comfort me or yell at me as required. I don?t take it in any other way than the spirit in which (I hope!) it is intended. The very fact that you take the time to give me a ticking off is much appreciated, as I said. So, thank you. I know it must be frustrating to see someone worrying about using barrier contraception and getting pregnant when it clearly isn?t anywhere near as easy as that for many couples. I thought Pipocas comment about seeing where life takes us was very interesting, it is something I find very difficult to do. But I have to confess I am getting more green as time goes by, its just those moments where you wake up at 3am to go to the loo and think, I physically cant contemplate being up at this time every night and still function as a human being.

So. There is a new plan. I will finish this pack of pills and see if I get a letter from the hospital regarding my appointment in the meantime. I will then decide what to do when I know the timescales involved. But, after my wobble I am feeling more confident about going cold turkey and also?.

Confession alert ? last night I wandered into Amazon (see what happens when MN is down?) and bought ?Taking Control of Your Fertility?. I figured that if I am going to launch into the hormonal unknown, I should go armed with Facts.

Right, enough about me.

LST, don?t feel like you cant talk about anything on here, this is warts and all I?m afraid (see above!). My fingers are totally crossed for you and no matter what happens, we are here and can type stuff to support you.

Suerock and SeaGreen, where are you? Hope all is well.

YTD thank goodness the job was eventually done! If you think there may be a problem of some sort then cracking on with the investigations can only help move things along. Its great that you are so proactive, it would be easy to keep plodding on, I think its very brave to go and demand ask for help.

With that, Id better go and do some work. Sigh.

(Just saw Pipocas last post, I was just kidding last night, I know what you were saying, and thank you loads for posting for me, it was very kind! Feel free to hang around, we are a very broad church here!)

Sorry HP, I didn't mean do it now. I know you have other stuff to sort out, I just meant that some people have this overwhelming broodiness and some don't. I didn't. I was pretty sure I didn't want to NEVER have children but had no real urges to have one there and then. I didn't want one but I didn't not want one, DYSWIM?
I was of an age and in a financial position for it to be ok so we decided to give it a go and see what happened and once I'd made that decision to let nature take its course I really did get excited, but first I had to jump out of the plane at 10,000ft IYSWIM (and it felt a little like that at first).
By all means, take your time, get your health checked, enjoy being free for now, but if you think it's something you might want to do, it may always feel like a bit of a jump into the unknown, you may never feel really broody, but that doesn't mean it's something you shouldn't give a go.

Hmm, I'm not sure I'm making any sense....I'll slope off again now and stop following you lot round MN.

i am in a dilemma at the moment as would like to TTC but am having probs with gastritis and need to have blood tests etc.