To TTC or not to TTC, that is one of the many questions...

Interesting. Will have a read tomorrow. You should go for it, C, you really should.

Right, off to bed. Night all.

Lol @ confused

DH knows full well I post on here but has absolutely no interest in it whatsoever. I know for a fact he hasn't been through my posts. Must be part of his massive baby aversion!

This is Mr HP on Dadsnet...

'better go lads, Mrs HP is bothering me and the last thing I need her to know is that I'm on here discussing breast pumps and the best baby slings. She thinks I'm watching telly and on Facebook instead...'

All the f**king time. He is t'internet geek. But he doesn't know I post on here, longmayitcontinue, so I don't want to look too interested in staying online.

Yes, a looker afterer HP rather than a nursery nurse style get paid bugger all type. There appears to be plenty of work as long as you are 'qualified' (this can vary hugely to what it means) and I have been wondering about, firstly, doing a course perhaps along the lines of this but obviously I need to properly research it (and only just started to look today.)

FancyALittle it sounds horrendous! Thank god for the small mercies of it being the painful kind and also of him being a doc. I am glad to hear you managed to get some sperm banking in first. Am I right in thinking this is precautionary as you may be able to get pregnant naturally?

HP does your DH not go on the internet himself?

Fancyalittle that's a horrible thing to have had to go through. Your wedding must have been ever so poignant. Did everyone weep buckets? I'm glad to hear it's been more positive news for you both recently.

Well, DH is currently watching something on Discovery Engineering Of Massive Things (so much for talking!) so am back for a quickie before bed!

So do you mean being an at-home child lookerer afterer, then C? Sorry, my mind has gone blank for the right term. As opposed to a nursery nurse girl, cos I think they don't earn very much. Child minder, is that it?? What courses do you have to do

I do remind DH to check his testicles. I will check the last time he did it. If he can be arsed to turn the telly off.

confuseddoiordonti Goood!

It's difficult. He was diagnosed in January, and three days later had his testicle removed. He'd only had pain for 3 weeks and the biopsy showed there was no testicle left - it was all cancer. He was 'lucky' to have the fast-growing, painful type. Most are not painful. A lot of people don't realise until it's very progressed (e.g. coughing up blood so it's in the lungs). He himself is a doctor so was very very fast in getting it checked, God knows what would have happened if he'd delayed. As it is, we look back at the winter and him catching EVERY SINGLE cold and me not being affected at all. We feel like we should have noticed sooner. But it was his first winter working in a hospital, it seemed normal to catch all the bugs.

They think the surgery was curative in itself. But because it was the kind that grows from stem cells, there could be a microscopic cell somewhere and stem cells love to grow. He's having intensive and vigorous checks for the next two years. It's a fine line between checking with radiation that can cause further cancer, and checking to make sure nothing has spread and is growing.

Because we had no time to think before the tumour was removed (because that was priority) we banked sperm at the first chance. If it happened again, we'd have no chance at children. He has not had to have chemotherapy, but we're living monthly check up to check up in anticipation. He has an excellent prognosis - over 98% that he will be fine. But it changes your priorities, and our lives will never be the same.

Just asked him and he said he checks them every day!

Mine is quite good with checking his but thank you - a very good point well made!

Has your DH recovered then? It's relatively easy to treat if caught early isn't it?

OK I clearly don't have the hang of emphasis... or not double posting.

confuseddoiordonti and HoneyPetal thank you for the welcome!

I forgot to say in my last post...

GET YOUR MAN TO CHECK HIS BALLS!!!!!

public service annoucement over and out

confuseddoiordonti and HoneyPetal thank you for the welcome!

I forgot to say in my last post...

GET YOUR MAN TO CHECK HIS BALLS!!!!!

public service annoucement over and out

Oh. Just seen you've gone.

Yes, lucrative - look at what it costs for childcare?! Surely you, of all of us, know that! Add to that, if we had one of our own I could still generate some income looking after other people's as well as mine. I am sick off office work too and, sorry to show off again, but people have assumed I work with little people before (even though I haven't, offically at least.)

I did toy with the idea of a Montessori course but, after a brief look today, can also get some quick and easy courses under my belt and there seems to be plenty of demand too.

DH is making muttering noises about turning the internet off and 'talking', WTF?!? So I'd better go....might try to sneak on later before bed.

Shit, thats awful, what a thing to have gone through at such a young age. Terrifying, and puts a different perspective on many things, I would imagine, including having a baby.

To be honest, the scariness of the process aside, you sound like you have made your decision and really, really want a baby? Of course you want these things on your own terms (God knows I understand that) rather than on a schedule out of your control. Twenty-four is young, these days, but you are probably more mature than most at that age after going through what you have both been through. If you have a secure relationship, and the finances to support a family, thats half the battle.

(C - lucrative? Tell me more....)

Thanks for the update FancyALittle. Glad to hear your DH is okay too - phew! And congrats on your recent nuptials!

I can imagine recent events would make it feel very soon or even forced although, and unfortunately I speak from knowledge, I am not sure there ever is a time when it's the right time.

goes on a bit but HOW CUTE IS HE?! When the timer is on -1minute he really gets going!

LST good luck if you show your DH

Ha! Well, HP, I am seriously considering a childcare course when we move as it's pretty bloody lucrative (and sick of office jobs!) Also, DH keeps saying how good I'd be (and have had previous experience in a Montessori nursery) and, not meaning to sound arrogant, I think so too.

However, I very much doubt I'll be leaving you, don't worry!

Not entirely sure how to do this, so please forgive me for scattergunning you all. I had my implanon taken out on 11 May. We've used condoms since. We're both a bit nervous about having a baby. We're young, but we have reasons for wanting one now.

In January my husband (then fiance) was diagnosed with testicular cancer - since his op, we've had nothing but positive news. The day before our wedding (a couple of weeks ago) he banked sperm and there was plenty to bank. So the whole idea of him being infertile is out the window, but he's paranoid about leaving me a widow with a baby. Unlikely, but it's still a fear he has. At the same time we both know that a baby would make our world SO happy. We're utterly in love, and want a baby. Didn't realise these decisions would feel forced, or so soon (we're still only 24).

C if you get pregnant in the next month and leave me I will cry. Seriously. I will be on here adding up the prohibitive cost of childcare, alone, while you all go off to the ante-natal threads and talk about nipples and belly buttons and EVERYTHING.

Just kidding - tell me more, green huh? Confession - I walked around JL once and picked out a white crib. Just for private fun, you understand, DH was not there.

Oooh, breaking news! Just having a flash of pale green after reading about LQ's foray into John Lewis.

^^what she said!