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To TTC or not to TTC, that is one of the many questions...

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 16/02/2010 10:56

Ok fellow ditherers, as we have filled up one thread (and still not made too many firm decisions) here's another one for us to continue to procrastinate and worry on.

Here's to more monitoring of relative green and redness, mutual support and occassional chivving, discussion of everything baby or not baby related, and perhaps even our first BFP...?

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SeaGreen · 31/03/2010 20:39

Come back HP SP !! don't let my booze fuelled greenness put you off our thread!
in fact at this moment, IMHO, i don't see TTC happening for me at least another 3-5 years- arguably not completely voluntarily.

confuseddoiordonti · 31/03/2010 20:37

HP - DON'T GO!!

Surely you don't think even I, of all people, have gone to The Other Side?

Hey, I am still very much a ditherer. I tend to get flashes of green and then lots more red and amber (can't believe we are talking about these colours as if it is quite serious, but it does make it easier to get the point across! Also, I wouldn't say Suerock was a greener either, more of a, erm, swings both ways kind of a gal.

Honey Petal? Hoooonnneeey Peeetaaaaaal....???

HoneyPetal · 31/03/2010 20:19

Hey all,

I'm going to take a little break for a while. It just feels a bit weird still being quite red, and perhaps posting negative thoughts about babies and working through all the reasons not to have a baby, when there has been a change of tone to the thread. It doesn't feel right, somehow.

My arm remains firmly raised in the Ditherers salute.

Take care. Maybe see you in a while.

SeaGreen · 31/03/2010 20:08

LQ that sounds really exciting!!!
YTD what about you- when are you telling your family/ friends?
must admit, have had some of the stuff that cheers, bit tipsy, and raging green today.
If it was not apparent.

SeaGreen · 31/03/2010 19:48

ooh and how amazing is this tent!
okay i have got to stop!

SeaGreen · 31/03/2010 19:47

ooh i want this for myself!
with the matchbox bed!

lizardqueenie · 31/03/2010 18:25

Hi lovely people, thanks for you support and good wishes. All seems to be ok now, nothing else happening (keeping those fingers crossed it was just one of those things). Helped to know how common it was etc but totalyl frightened the life out of me, kept waking up just to check, expecting the worse.

Glad to hear I am not alone about the GP - particularly that he used the fact I had a scan on Friday to make his diagnosis that everything was very likely to still be ok Still dont have MW appointment until 19th April & scan at Kings on 28th.

Resting up as ordered, popped to shops earlier but am totally knackered this afternoon/ evening.

Re work: called up my boss today to basically find out WTF was going on as they hadnt got back in touch with the union rep. Explained that I didnt want anymore involvement on the project anymore due to the stress and then told her about the pregnancy too which she automatically agreed that it would be in my interest not to continue but that she would need to clear it with her boss. V unhelpfully she actually leaves at the end of this week but have made it clear that I CANNOT go back until I know I will have no further involvement in that work.

YTD glad to hear your approach to work too! Couldnt agree with you more. I cant really get my head around thinking about the birth yet. Even though we've all seen quite a lot on OBEM I still can't believe that is whats actually going to happen. You never know, maybe will give a dignified push and cough and our work will be done?!

confused who is this person that cant use the printer or fill it with paper??

Hey suerock hope your holding up well - don't forget its probably totally different when its you going through it (childbirth) so don't think it would make you a harsh mother at all.

As a result of last night we have decided to tell my parents tonight. I just think if anything were to happen (given everything else recently) I know I would want their support. And because I am as soppy as a sack what better way to announce they are going to be grandparents for the first time than a thorntons easter egg with Nanny and Grandpa iced on! Not sure how impressed DH is but I thought well 'tis the season.

Right off to look at SeaGreens fab links - if you missed part of the convo last night please go back and read the bit where confused was trying her hardest (bless) to reassure me and actually posted a link on making your dog do tricks! It was the funniest timing ever! Thanks confused thats still making me laugh!

HoneyPetal · 31/03/2010 18:16

Good grief, I thought I had wandered onto a TTC thread for a moment....hang on...what the hell is this ... is that babydust on the table?? Explain yourselves, young ladies.

I'm glad all is well, LQ, rest up and look after yourself.

SeaGreen · 31/03/2010 18:01

TA-DA! You made the mistake of actually asking for some links!! take cover now!
stripes and spots!!
i love this one!!
This is as girly as it should/can get! And this!
pop of colour!!
turquoise and yellow!!
cheerful and sweet
I love this with all the alphabets!!
this is eclectic.
I love the window in this!

Suerock · 31/03/2010 17:41

Phew lq, I'm glad it doesn't sound as though it's anything to worry about, and glad there were people around yesterday evening to making reassuring posts.

I'm afraid to confess I watched all eight episodes of OBEM entirely dry eyed but cried when I lost my job - not sure this bodes well for me being a parent.... I learnt something new yesterday though - had no idea you could have a forceps delivery under a general anaesthetic. And I loved the moment when Becky's partner said "I love you" - and her reply was something like "That's the least of my worries at the moment"

confuseddoiordonti · 31/03/2010 16:54

send me some more fab nursery links immediately!

SeaGreen · 31/03/2010 16:41

confused i think we are terrorising our subconscious selves
not to mention our conscious selves!

confuseddoiordonti · 31/03/2010 16:12

For gods sake!

While trying to MN peacefully at work I keep getting harassed by some woman claiming various things don't work, such as the printer. It was hard not to be sarcastic when she asked me to fix it as she couldn't work out what was wrong - it was, in RED FLASHING LETTERS, saying 'Paper Empty', which I would have thought would have given her a clue. Not only did it say that but it also have specific detailed instructions on how to load said paper.

Grrr...

Muppet.

confuseddoiordonti · 31/03/2010 15:40

I had a, sort of, pregancy dream too! Involving sharks, being lost at sea, the worried that the sharks would realise I was pregnant and that would attract them more.

Make of that what you will...

Very glad to hear that it's all okay, LQ. Must have been scary all the same. Has it stopped now?

Weird that your GP was narky about you having been for a scan. It's not that dreadful, is it surely? I think, even without the history of MC and endometriosis, it would be sorely tempting to have an early one - those first 12 weeks must take forever!

SeaGreen · 31/03/2010 13:57

LQ - great to know you?re fine. hope you're having a nice relaxed day.

Ha! Talk of lurking around MN too long! Dreamt last night that I had a girl. Only,I didn?t know what to do- how to feed her, take care of her, etc! Must channel energies into other things! I think I?ll go check out the link that confused posted yesterday

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 31/03/2010 13:39

Great news LQ, although your GP has no bloody business being narked if you choose to go for an early scan. For what its worth, I think he's given you the best advice. You need to rest up, look after yourself and not stress too much. When's your appointment with the midwife?

I guess this puts your problems with work into a bit of perspective. I didn't comment earlier (events overtook us!) but I think moving off the project that was stressing you out is the best thing for you. Now is not the time to be engaged in work projects that you are passionate about - you have a much more important project on your hands now. And work is neccessarily going to have to take a back seat. For me at the moment work is a means to an end, I aim to be as diligent as I can until I go off on mat leave, but I am not at all bothered about what I actually do at work anymore.

I've just watched OBEM on 4OD (am off work this week using up annual leave) and have been left a sobbing emotional wreck. Still feel a bit in denial about birth - despite teh inevitability of this whole process, I still don't really think that I'm actually going to have to do that. I hope I'll be stocial and have plenty of stiff upper lip, but I can imagine that I'm going to be sobbing and swaering and screaming for drugs at the first opportunity!

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confuseddoiordonti · 31/03/2010 10:11

Great news LQ

Can't write more as on my way out but back later. Have a lovely day ladies! (and a lovely and lazy one LQ!)

lizardqueenie · 31/03/2010 08:19

Pleased to say that this morning there are no further signs of any spotting at all - just got off the phone to the GP who said that it was v common and that their advice would normally be to rest up etc.He said not to panic being as i had no other symptoms or pain. So - just going to take that advice. He initially seemed a bit narked that I had gone for the early scan but when I explained why (previous mc, endo) he calmed down a bit and that seemed to reassure him everything would be ok - no talk of sending anyone to an early scan unit. Hmmm.

Anyway panic hopefully averted for now, keeping everything crossed and thanks again all for your sensible & kind words during my panic.

YTD it was a relief to hear that you are having a few PMS symptoms too, not that i'm wishing them on you of course.

SeaGreen · 31/03/2010 00:10

i'm lurking too

confuseddoiordonti · 30/03/2010 23:29

YTD shouldn't you be in bed?!

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 30/03/2010 23:27

HP fertility friend guesses a lot. The last month of charting I had a temp hike 9dpo and I was up the duff then. In my experience high temps = pregnant, low temps = AF imminent.

If you were wearing gum boots, you'll be fine. However, if a super swimmer did slip through, just remember you mustn't dress a girl in pink!

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 30/03/2010 23:23

LQ hope you are managing to sleep and not panic too much. Spotting in first trimester is v common and usually not significant. Cramping around this time is also to be expected (currently got lots of PMT type aches myself at the moment).

In view of you recent scan, I thik you probably have less reason to fear the worst. However, do ring either the midwife unit or your GP tomorrow morning. It's worth having a quick trip to the Early Pregnancy Unit to check that all is ok and your GP should be able to refer you.

Hope all goes well tonight and you get confirmation tomorow that everything is going to be fine.

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confuseddoiordonti · 30/03/2010 22:56

Night and good luck x

lizardqueenie · 30/03/2010 22:53

Thanks for your support. Have got the no for the midwife unit so will give them a call in the morning, hopefully this is be it and nothing else will happen but even if there's nothing else I think still worth giving them a call.

I'm gonna try to get some sleep (knowing full well that will be easier said that done) but feeling more tired isnt going to help.

Night night and will keep you posted tomorrow. xx

confuseddoiordonti · 30/03/2010 22:50

I bet it has! Hopefully it's nothing at all, and, in your favour, it does seem reasonably common (and I am glad it has happened with a friend of mine as I don't feel as if I am solely going on Dr Google!)