Waiting to TTC part 2!

how exciting squirrel

get startd on you folic acid asap if you havent started already

i wonder if you will be one of the first to stop waiting and start TTC?

Xmas (when i can start TTC) seems so far away at the moment.

I agree that there is never a right time in life to TTC, so just get on with it when some areas in life are ok-ish

Hi whywait! I'm new around here too

bebe, what an amazing weightloss, you must be very pleased!

minipie - we're off to Botswana, how about you? I admire your patience waiting till April!

quodlilbet sorry about your grandma. My hb sounds like he's in a similar situation to yours professionally. We discussed it and he came to the conclusion that as the future was so uncertain there wasn't any point in waiting (i.e. he couldn't see that things might get less uncertain in the next few years). But this means that my career is going to be on hold for a few years - I'm slowly coming round to accepting this! Hope you and your OH can come to an agreement

So I talked to the nurse yesterday and had all my travel jabs. I have to wait a while after the anti-malarials, and with a business trip at the end of Sept gives us a date of 1st Oct for ttc I am going to go and have the coil out mid-sept and then take it from there.

Now I'm planning to start cutting down on the caffeine I drink (too much coffee!), drinking a bit more water, and resuming my gym routine which has been a bit neglected of late.

Hello all: Quodlibet here reporting for Waiting and not MIA!

Welcome to nannyl, Waiting and the new recruits. I have been following everyone's developments here, but RL has taken over recently. I've been crazily busy with work over the last few months, and family business - my grandmother died last week and we had her funeral today, which was very sad - but she's finally at rest after a long period of dementia, so it's a relief, really.

Been having a few long and protracted conversations re the whole TTC thing with my DP (my grandmother's death has definitely increased my broodiness, why does it work like that?) We're stuck at a bit of an impasse I think, and I feel quite down about it all - it seems impossible right now to be able to balance his (and my) career aspirations with starting a family, all the time scales seem wrong. He's kind of at the crest of a wave professionally speaking (something he's been working towards for a decade) and may end up being away a lot - fairly unpredictably - with work over the next couple of years. As a result, we ended up having a long discussion about, if it came to it, it being better for him to be away while I was pregnant than with a small child. Neither is my idea of fun. And it's all (work-wise) so up in the air it feels impossible to plan, which is very hard for me as I'm also trying to juggle my projects and hard-won professional role with taking the time out to start a family...and that's before we even start on the ludicrous financial implications.....At least he is very understanding about my concerns about wanting to do it sooner rather than later for biological reasons, I can't complain on that front.

Oh dear. I do apologise for wallowing but it is so helpful to get it all off my chest and share with others with similar quandaries. On a positive note - and following on from the 'health and fitness' discussions, I have finally taken it in hand to sort out my lingering back issues by properly starting a pilates class; August is 'core strength and pelvic floor' month for me, in preparation for TTCing at some point!

bebe - I love the idea of your nursery doodles! And nannyl, thanks for being such a font of wisdom on the vitamins front.

Over and out - as you were!

Afternoon all! Haven't been here for a while, hope you're all well.

JS sorry to hear it was just AF after all.

welcome WhyWait, sorry about the redundancy but possible silver lining... if you can get DH to agree. Why do you think DH will want to wait?

I've just done the BMI calculator thingy... I am exactly in the middle of the green at about 21.5 so I guess I can stay there... wouldn't mind being nearer to 20 mind you. I definitely fall into the trap of eating the same amount as DH (I think it's because I was brought up to share out things equally?!), even though he's a foot taller.

squirrel where are you going on safari? We are also waiting TC till post-safari (though ours is not till April next year ) - also hoping to dive which isn't a good idea when pg.

welcome whywait

I have just started taking folic acid and will be TTC from Jan 2011 (well actually after Xmas this year and that week is very significant to me)

have been properly planning to TTC in 2011 since about May, so am waiting on here

luckily for me OH is very supportive, is not at all phased that i have EVERY book on conception (courtesy of library / ebay), and is happy to take his zinc and man conception vitamins as and when instructed.

we cant stop talking about being a family, and despite still being on the pill (but just a few days left until i finish it though) i have been practising charting for about 3 weeks
he asks me EVERY day what my temp is and yesturday even wanted to view the chart!

Oh - and welcome WhyWait!!

Sorry to hear about your redundancy. I was made redundant last June and it's never a nice process but great that you have good savings and that they will give you a good payout (bit as I got nothing from my wanker of a boss!!!)

TTC in Sept - super exciting!! I am sure that when you explain it to DH he will understand why it needs to be now and not later, it would be hard to be made redundant and then get a job only to fall PG and not qualify for mat pay.

lots of water is always good. As is eating an apple before your meal - it makes you feel more fully and so you eat less at meals.

I was determined not to put on the weight I'd lost for the wedding and so when DH and I get the chance to eat supper together (when his arse of a boss isn't keeping him chained to his deak!!) I try and use a smaller place and have about half of what he has. It does sometimes mean I go back for 2nds but most of the time it works. It's so easy to fall into eating what your OH eats and if they're active too then it's even easier to put on weight without noticing!

I just need to learn to cut out my daily toffee crisp........ oops!

Hello, been busy with work and away a bit at the seaside. Just checked my BMI on that site bebe and I'm a stone overweight! I knew I'd been porking it on recently but I thought I'd only put on a couple of pounds and it's a stone I need to shift. Quite a wake up call Going to have to stop eating so much crap.

Yeah - I was a bit poorly for a while when I was younger and still have to make an effort to eat when I'm stressed. However I have also been at 25.2 (after a ski season!!!)

I'm incredibly lucky as all my family are slim but I do still have to watch what I eat as I am prone to putting it on (and loosing it) quite fast.

I really admire you making such an effort to get your BMI down and loosing 4 stone in less than 8 months is a bloody amazing achievement. Your DH ust be pretty damn proud of you! It sounds liek you are getting yourself in tip top condition for SWI at the end fo the year ;)

Perfect. Mine has been below 20 for a while but it's been a very long time since I was under 18.5!!!

bebe that's seriously impressive - well done you!!!

What are the NHS guidelines for BMI range when TTC? I know that there is a bottom end as well as a top end but I'm not sure that the bottom end of the range is. Mine is not super low but it is a bit lower than the norm (probably down to fat weighing a lot less than muscle!!!!!)

Thanks for replying bebejones, my BMI is 31 and i was just going to go for it as otherwise i'm healthy and eat loads of fruit and veg etc but was put off by that article! I'm doing ww and know i can shift the weight just don't have another year to do it so was thinking maybe just lose 10% and start trying then and continue to eat healthily during pg to make sure i didn't make things worse. I am annoyed at self for not takinbg losing weight seriously enough as i've already been waiting to ttc due to changing jobs!! Not sure if 10% will be enough .. hmmmm.

You have done really well shifting the lbs - how did you do it!? Any tips?

Hi everyone, i was wondering if anyone else on here was waitinbg until they lost a bit of weight?? I was going to start TTC this month but BMI is well into overweight so decided to wait in light of scary article posted on the front on mumsnet this week. Anyone else in the same boat? I'm tired of waiting cos i'm 34 and feel time is not on my side

I was wondering where everybody had gone too....... do you think they're on holiday or have dissappeared off to TTC???