Waiting to TTC part 2!

I've read about shettles but I think I'm a bit too much of a control freak and if I actively tried something like that and then it didn't work I might be more disappointed than if I'd just let nature take its course. Also have heard that it v often doesn't work, too many variables.
The control freakery is why i can't just say "oh well it'll take ages to conceive" and stop using contraception, cos once I've made the decision to stop using it I'll get all excited and before you know it be in full blown TTC mode. it's all or nothing I've learnt. i either ttc or I don't, halfway house won't work for me.
We will only have 2 as well, so I suppose a girl would be nice, but I really really truly wouldn't be at all bothered either way.

I don't think gabriel's obscure. Lol at luke cos of star wars! I quite like luke. Would be lucas here, which I don't like.

I think if we had a girl it would be Isabel almost certainly. For a boy I have no idea really. I feel Alejandro was the 2nd choice for DS and I'd feel bad about a DS2 having a "2nd choice" name IYSWIM? silly probably.

Would you like a boy or a girl? I'm not fussed in the slightest 8which is funny cos before having DS it hought I'd be gutted to never have a girl, but now I'm not bothered). Think MIL would be disappointed though. Sometimes i think she thinks you put in an order and tick girl or boy or something. She's always saying " so when are you going to try for a girl?" Like as if you choose...

ah, misread your post. I like Oliver too, is getting popular here but DH says no cos was a famous cartoon called Oliver and Benjy years ago.
What are your DH's preferred names?

so, for example tabitha first name then 2 middle names? I like your names, particularly emily.
Like robert too.

for me they have to work in English and Spanish. Top names:

boy- really hard as struggled to find an Eng/Sp name we could agree on. DS is Nicolás. I don't mind Alejandro (al-eh-HAN-dro) or Tomás (2nd syllable stress) but DH doesn't like Tomás and many Alejandros in his family. Love James but would sound like Hammer here.

girl- much much easier. In no partic order I like
Amaya (but sounds like Am I a..?)
Elena
Isabel
Amelia
Alicia but not pron'd Aleesha, pron'd Alisia

can't think of the others now, there were loads for a girl. Actually Isabel is my favourite.

So, come on the rest of you...we are waiting to TTC the least we can do is have fun and indulge baby name fantasies and admit to buying things before we're even pregnant.

We've moved house recently so I had to ge the pram out of the shed and wash the covers again (smelt musty) that's poss part of the reason for the broodiness kicking back in. Will be using the same travel system as before. Jané. which one do you want to get in the future bebe, you saidf you'd chucked the old one?

oh, and twins was my total nightmare scenario. Was sooooo relieved at 12 week scan that there was only one in there. the idea of 2 makes me feel quite ill with stress!
So, lets indulge some of this broodiness today, bebe you mentioned a list of names...what are your dream names for DC2?

I didn't buy anything pre ttc DS, but then I didn't really feel broody before TTC.I knew I wanted DC and thought it was a good time to do it (kind of, why wait?) but was actually a bit scared of it all. so this brrodiness now is really the first time I've felt it.
I'll have periods in MAy June and July and then will prob stop using contraception after the july one so maybe conceive any time from Aug. Assuming nothing else goes hugely wrong before then. It's probably not a brilliant time (mum waiting for an operation, DH unemployed, my business is newish) but I think sometimes you have to take a leap....might take ages to conceive anyway.

It's funny you should say that about the broodiness coming and going. My terrible broodiness has recently taken a dip. I still want a baby but my preoccupation with it has faded a bit. I think it's partly attributable to the fact that DH seems to be coming round to the idea. Or maybe it's the change in the weather has cheered me up and stopped me obsessing over what I can't have.

Good job your broodiness is on the ascent, Pipoca, seeing as you only have, what, two cycles to go? How exciting. It would be brilliant to have another graduate on the thread - reassure the rest of us that even though it may not seem like it, time is passing and one day it will be our turn.

I know it's supposed to be bad luck, but I bought future DC a cute little sleepsuit at the weekend. Naughty I know, but think of it this way: if I should turn out to be one of those women who suddenly goes into labour having had no idea that I was even pregnant, I'll have a well dressed little surprise!

Nice xmas present! It'll fly by . can't believe it's April (halfway through April) already!

im still here waiting for sept only 5 months left im getting very board of waiting a cant wait to start got a bit down at the weekend i went to see my sis whos 6 mons pg she was showing me all the baby boys clothes she got so wish iyt was me on a good note had a lovley day on mopn as it was my dd1 7th birthday

Hello bebe I can see you're not that keen on starting the meds, but try to think of it in AC'S terms that the sooner it starts, the sooner it stops and ou can TTC. How long is the treatment? Do you have to wait for a while after stopping?

I look back longingly on lie ins and the freedom to do whatever I want but I wouldn't swap it for what I have. And I'll get those things back in time as DS grows up and needs me less. It must be hard though, thinking about ttc so long before ou can start.
I sort of knew I wanted to give it a go once we'd got married but there wasn't that long long time when i wanted it but couldn't.

I'm having a more keen phase again just recently, ahving felt very off TTC just recently.feeling quite broody again. Still all the same things in the way, so at least july for me still. it creeps closer though!

Found out DS will start nursery 1st sept if he gets a place so that fits v nicely with ttc in about aug.

Been a bit worried about money this month as had a CRAP month earnings wise (self employed) and got an enormous tax bill, but feeling a bit more gung ho about it all as I should be getting my grant soon. So, going to crack on with the same old plan for ttc/NPP in the summer and deal with other shit when we get to it.

Maybe nobody else wants to dwell on it, after all it's pretty grim. Don't get me wrong, life is fine - good even. The freedom to do whatever we want, the long lazy weekends and the peaceful nights are all wonderful things that I'm sure we'll look back on longingly. But this thing hangs over me all the time. It's not even waiting for an actual something; it's first of all waiting to see how DH and I feel about actually having a baby when all the planets finally line up - and then trying to conceive.

It is helpful to know that I'm not the only one and that other women out there are biding their time in just the same way.

Bebe at last it's finally here. I know you're not looking forward to these months of treatment and that it's not much comfort to hear this but the sooner it gets underway the sooner it will finish and you can get on with your lives.

I know for a fact we're not the only ones waiting, I guess we're the only ones who want to talk about it at the moment. Personally, I often find I'm so busy at work I don't have time to post anything meaningful in here. I'm sure others are in the same boat. I also prefer to use my laptop and won't post if DH is reading over my shoulder and rolling his eyes!

is it just us waiting?

It is a lot of saving - and definitely more than DH will countenance - but how else can we get on the housing ladder? Once DC1 arrives everything will go on childcare, so saving for the house deposit would go out the window. I've just paid off my overdraft and my current account is in the black for the first time ever, but it's been a frustrating few months! Now DH is planning summer holidays, which won't be cheap.

Babysitting my friend's 8 month old this morning. He's just amazing. So envious!

ooh, and back to the other people with children thing. I had a couple of slightly older friends (5 yrs or so older) with kids but I was one of the first in my age group. Now, suddenly everyone I know is having kids.

Wow Amanda that's a lot of saving! I suppose financial is also part of our reasons for waiting as DH is currently unemployed and I've recently become self employed (working from home) so I'd have to take a v short mat leave (the stat 16 wks in Spain, or poss even less) so as not to lose clients while I'm gone. I will get 2500 euros from the governemebt for having a baby and got a start up grant of 4600 euros for the business, so we have some money lurking. If I wait til DH is employed again we might never have another as the job situation is so shite here he'll probably have to retrain.
We have EVERYTHING. I'll be reusing my jané ttravel system, so will just be a few more clothes (but people give you stuff anyway...MIL will be thrilled to have another chance to buy little outfits, especially if we had a girl, I'd think she'd be in 7th heaven buying little girl clothes ). If BF went tits up like before I'd need some more bottles as mine are all cracked, but other than that...maybe a ringsling?
We're thinking of about July/August still to stop using contraception.

If we both did nothing but save we could raise the deposit for a house within three years. And then if we saved for another six months we could afford to try for a baby then, and assuming no fertility problems I'd be 36 when it was born. And 38/39 when/if we tried for DC2. And that's just not the age gap I want between me and my children. I don't want to be having sleepless nights when I'm 40. I'm already operating on half the energy I had in my twenties.

But with debts, no house and no savings, is it mad to plan a family? I've recently watched DH supporting his mother through the difficult task of sorting out her brother's affairs and care following a stroke and I keep thinking "where would she be without her DS to help her?" - and that's another thing to factor in. I don't want to leave it too long and find that I can't have children.