Waiting to TTC part 2!

You make a good point! Under no illusions of DH helping out though, so twins would probably equal a nervous breakdown! Then again my Dad's a twin and his mother went on to have four more!

Wow what were the chances of X posting then?!

Hello ladies!

I'm back from my travels and horrified to find us on page 2! Page 2!!! We are properly slacking!

My friend's wedding was lovely, the Irish certainly know how to throw a good party, we had so much fun - too much really as we had to slope off to bed early doors both nights, while all the mums and aunts stayed up till 5am!

Good to hear from babylann and Bebe that TTC wasn't the massive marathon we are led to believe for you guys first time round. Not really with you on the twin thing though, I think I'll hope to be at least as fertile as you guys but not more so! Can you imagine???

DH is currently hugely anti, so .

Im still here lurking on this thread

7 weeks today i will be taking my last contraceptive pill ...

then being careful until january... while cycle regulates again, and i give up caffine / alchol / foods with vit A and dose up on folic acid / prenacare etc, and OH gets zinc supplements!!!...

Hi pip next test is mon or Tues (by which time it should be negative - hurrah) and then next step is sitting around tapping fingers waiting for three months to pass, and eating a super healthy diet!

minipie there is some useful information www.gettingpregnant.co.uk/howlongwillittake.htm here.

"those who don't have sex v often"

that ahem might include us. (both working long hours and all that). mind you DH is convinced that as soon as TTC time comes around we'll be at it like bunnies, so no need to factor in extra time because of that, then...

article about fertility after the pill

looks interesting.

I've heard 6 months as an av time to ttc before success, but as amanda says, that takes subfertile people into account or those who don't have sex v often etc.

I always assume it could happen the very first time we have sex without protection, however unlikely that is, because it could. There's no way of knowing. So no messing for me until I'm 100% sure I'd be happy to be pregnant IYSWIM?

Got pregnant on 2nd post pill cycle with DS.

6 to 12 months they say - but what's average? That includes hugely overweight people, people with serious illnesses, people who know nothing about TTC, people who aren't actually having much sex, and the results of what must be literally thousands of people who lie about how long they have been ttc in order to get fertility treatment easier - and so on.

Just about to board the plane to Ireland, so I'll be offline for the next couple of days xx

For us it definitely wasn't hard to conceive. We had been thinking about it and then eventually decided we'd just stop using condoms. By the end of the month we'd started using them again because we'd actually forgotten we were TTC, but never got my next period.

My DD is 1 month, and we're already thinking about next time. Strangely having her makes me broody for another. We always agreed we'd have them close together (max of a 2 year age gap), but I know everyone would think I was crazy if I got pregnant right now, despite how much I want to. So we decided assuming we are still as enthusiastic about another baby in September/October time we just stop using condoms again and see how it goes.

I know we're both going to struggle waiting though. He already had a heat-of-the-moment "Let's just start trying again" yesterday. I had to talk him out of it, which is hard when you kinda want it even though you know better.

Agree with Amanda by the way that it's easy to get the impression it will be very hard to conceive, because you only ever hear on here about those who are finding it hard.

Does anyone here know the average length of time it takes in the UK to get pregnant when TTC?

Part of my negotiations discussions with DH about when to start TTC revolves around how long it is likely to take.

I thought that it's likely to take 6 months or so on average - so if we were to start (say) next May, nothing likely to happen till September. DH on the other hand keeps pointing to people he knows who've got pg at the drop of a hat (or rather knickers) so says May is far too early...

The problem we've got is that we've absorbed this fertility myth from being on the MN conception thread that if we don't start very young, go on a diet, gulp down supplements, keep DH doped up on zinc and away from the laptop, go teetotal, have numerous courses of accupuncture, chart, temp, possibly use chlomid (which I had never even heard of until I came on MN) if not IVF, we won't conceive - and even if we do it will take at least a year.

Sorry bebe - cross posted.

Well that's the thing isn't it - it doesn't really make a great deal of sense logic-wise, not that I have any science know how whatsoever!

as in, apparently cycles revert straightaway to normal as the hormone's out of your system within days? Not saying I believe either of these things by the way...just that I've heard them. anyone know any more?

is there really a fertility surge after coming off the pill, or is it a myth?

Incidentally - and I should say she's not a fertility specialist as far as I know - my GP much favours option 1.

Yes I think so. There are pros and cons - there's supposed to be a fertility surge when you first come off the pill. However I think it makes sense to come off it early and start charting and checking you are ovulating to get on top of any niggles. That way you are using this time constructively.

However to caveat that, I am influenced by reading too many threads in the conception forum and may be speaking from a position of abject paranoia!

My first post on MN!
We're TTC around September time. (Argh! the first time i've written that in black and white!)
I've been on the pill for over a decade, what does anyone think - should I come off it early (I run out next month) in order to get my body back to normal before trying?
Wish we could try before then but I'm doing a half ironman race at the end of August so don't really want to risk it.