Waiting to TTC part 2!

ooh great news bebe!

I think he might be suffering a bit FOFF. He promtly took a wrong turning and drove us about half an hour out of our way. I guess telling him whilst driving wasn't the best idea! Other than that he's been very quite about it, so I'm not mentioning it (and keeping the pre-conception vitamin pills hidden a bit longer). I think he's just been waiting for me to get fed up with waiting for him and just go for it.

There are so many sensible reasons to wait, but then there are just so many good reasons not to as well! I think the new born clothe s being next to the toddlers clothes in the shops is what tipped me over the edge

AC Don't think it's fear of fatherhood DH suffers (as we already have a DS), just a fear of actually making such a big decision. DS was unplanned and therefore and easy decision to make.

It's okay though. Next week I'll no longer be in the waiting room, but in the bedroom doing what you do when TTC!

Really? That's great news! So provided it's left ovulation, that's it - no more waiting? I'm so pleased!

Lots of graduating going on from this thread at the moment. Maybe I'll be next!!

bebe sorry to hear about your troubles

AC sounds like a great D&M!

I got AF today which is a great relief because it ties in with when I ovulated. so I phoned to book a tube test and they fitted me in this lunchtime! (privately)

My ovaries look fine, my womb is fine, my cervix is fine, all normal no sign of early menopause, consultant says consistent with good egg reserve. Left tube is clear, but right tube is blocked.

So it was ectopic, the sperm got up, fertilized the egg, but then it couldn't get back down again! (corpus luteum was seen on right side at first scan so all clues point to this).

I am actually really pleased!!! I am seeing GP next Thurs to beg for a laporoscopy urgently - if I try again naturally I run the risk of another ectopic if it's right side ovulation (although I do get ov pain so if it's left ovulation we shall SWI like mad!)

Consultant also said that there is no evidence for not starting folic acid straight away, and no evidence for waiting three months.

Yippeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

Ha ha no he didn't initiate it, that would be mental! He was completely the opposite of how he normally is though, not trying to change the subject or being vague. He agreed that December is a good time to start trying and that it would be nice to have an Autumn baby.

We talked about the birth and what might be involved and what it might be like for him. I was really happy. Hope it stays this way, we've been here before and then he's got cold feet and done the "STOP!!! We're not having one! Panic! Panic!" thing.

Dellywyn welcome to the thread. We're getting a bit thin on the ground here - everyone's sloped off to TTC I am convinced! Good move getting the IUD removed, it's a bit too permanent for comfort when you are wanting to TTC, isn't it.

Does your OH suffer from Fear Of Fatherhood too then?

Hello all.
Wish I'd found this thread a year ago when a clucking hen moved into my head and and turned me into a giant baby wanting freak. A year on and I've finally given up waiting for DH to come round to the idea of b2 and booked an appt to have my IUD removed. I just need to figure out how to tell DH now!
Good luck to all of you that your dh's/health/situations will finally come onboard to let you start truly TTC!

DH and I had a lovely D&M (!) last night about TTC. DH seems to be warming to the idea, we were even talking about accommodation arrangements and taking the LO on holiday, and the birth! We are now in July, which I identified ages ago as the earliest we could possibly start trying. I was slightly over ambitious in terms of where I thought we'd be financially, so it's not actually viable for a couple more months but still, a milestone in its own way.

Bebe I hardly know what to say. You are bound to be thinking "what if?" at the moment, but you made what seemed to be the best decision for your family at the time, waiting till December and having this treatment.

I don't really know much about it, so I'm not sure what's changed in terms of the December TTC date - is that now out of the window, or is it still very much wait and see?

Hairy it is good that you're ticking off milestones. Not long to go now. Are you feeling positive? What is the test you're having all about?

I feel like another milestone is coming in my wait. I have period cramps woop!!! If af comes it's another positive move along my now two month wait and I'll know where I am cycle wise and can book my hsg test

Oh that doesn't sound too bad. Our poor DH must feel like they're getting swept away in a hormonal rip tide! One moment of weakness and we'll pull them under!

Oh sweetheart, I really feel for you. It's awful the way they blow hot and cold. I think the thing to do is not to immediately freak out; he's probably just panicking because he's worried about you being ill and worrying about his ability to cope with everything.

DH seems to have sudden flare ups where he's suddenly very blunt and insistent about us never having DC - but I think those moments are just crisis points where he feels overwhelmed and like he's losing control.

Bebe sending you healing vibes!

I don't think DH will be up for a kiddies party! (It is not my "best friend's friend's" baby's party btw that is yet another iPhone typo! It's my best friend's baby's party.)

DH is planning a camping trip that weekend with three dysfunctional bachelor friends, who are all very anti baby.

Oh no Bebe that's bad news. Has he said anything about it or is he being ok?