TTC after a Miscarriage - A Fresh New Start

Cp- Happy belated birthday!!!!!
Humphreys- lol at taxi-puking!

Morning all.
Thanks for the support girlies!
Well technically gave up 9pm last night. Lol ran out. Not had one single physical craving just the mental ones (having fag with first coffee etc) but not too bad.....so far lol.
How's everyone?

Evening ladies

PMSL at all your exploits-out of my group of 11 friends there was only me and another girl who never went to UNI so feel I may have missed out. The worst thing I did was be sick in a taxi and get thrown out of it-I was so drunk I didn't even know I had been sick! The taxi driver wanted to charge £50 (back in 1990 ish) but my friend managed to persuade him otherwise-phew!

petunia-well done you if AF has shown her face-I am now 7+2 and still waiting. Just had a glimpse on Monday then nothing. So pleased you can move on finally. ((xx))

HellKat-bet you can't wait to give up the weed-never been tempted myself but can understand how difficult it could be if I substitute the word ciggies for Blossom Hill-NO CHANCE!!!!! ((xx))

Diddle-has AF not arrived yet??? ((xx))

CHOCOLATEPEANUT-Happy B'Day for yesterday (same day as my DD) 38 is OK-I am 36 in October

Love to all
x

Evening all, hope everyone's well.
Not posted for a few days, been doing some loooooong hours at work.
Well, 5 wks after mc I think my AF arrived this morning. I say think because it seems light to what I'm used to. Still, I suppose it's a sign the body's getting back to normal.
Been having a good laugh about all your drunken exploits! Mooning and gatecrashing parties. I've never done anything like that. What a sheltered life I've had!

Yes it was my Birthday yesterday Diddle.38.Aghhh

It is v frightening ttc after a loss. All the innocence of pg has been taken away. I always thought that once you get past the 12wk mark everything is ok. Now if I get to the 25 week I will be worried it will all happen again.I too had a temp when I went in to be scanned just before Philippa had died but I am sure that I felt ok before (hard to tell cos i usually feel pretty awful when pg) and I am sure the temp was due to the fact that she had died a few days earlier and that had an effect on my system.

I know that with dd I was ill most of the time,v sick,on drip in hosp,lost two stone and fell at 6 months shattering wrist bones and requiring surgery (whilst awake.......)so if dd could survive all that then I dont think a high temp can cause any damage.I think its a case of what will be will be and thats a huge gamble for us all to take.But it IS worth out just to hold that lovely little bundle for the first time and thank god we gave each other for support

Love someof drunken escapades girls!
My mooning episode was just the once. Decided (tanked up first obviously) that it would be bloody hilarious to moon cars. It was'nt at all, felt very self concious instead. Now streaking..... that's more fun . Did it once and by christ I never knew I could that fast!!! (was'nt starkers though, noooo way, undies and bra job). .
Really not looking foward to giving up tomorrow I do actually like it! But has to be done.

I had a temp when i lost mine it was the nurse that picked up on it not me. It was prob more to do with me being upset and loosing the baby though

with regard to maternal fever /miscarriage - I read somewhere of a close link between mother using aspirin/ibuprofen in early preganacy and subsequent m/c. This said i went to my doc ( folling m/c) and said I had a really bad sore throat what could i use ( when early pg this time) he said aspirin/ibuprofen. needless to say i read up on it and did not........

Lunarsea - I don't think the absolute temperature matters at all, as long as you are getting a clear and sustained rise after ov.

Very entertaining stories today ladies. I will share one from my university days, when I was far from being the saint that I am now.

A friend and I were at a friday night 'bop' run by the uni, and had partaken in a few beverages of the alcholic kind, when we decided that it was a dull night and we would go home. We had to pass a police station on our way, and as we went past we saw flashing lights (disco kind, not nee-naw kind!) and heard music playing, so figured they must have a party going on. Well it seemed a good idea to gatecrash, so up we stumbled to the door, just as 2 policemen were coming out. They told us who's party it was (was a retirement do), so in we marched, up to the bar and got free drinks because we mentioned the guy who was hosting the party!

We then met 2 rather nice policemen, who thought we were winding them up when we said that we had gatecrashed, and insisted that we must be the daughters of one of the other police officers! Anyway, when my friend and I nipped off to the loo, we discovered that I fancied the one that she was talking to, and she fancied the one that I was talking to, so we came out of the loo and promptly swapped!!

We ended up taking them home, and the rest of the story I will leave to your imaginiations, but sadly they didn't have any handcuffs on them .

i dont know if low temps are significant when TTC. But DH and DS have temps like this.

Next time I definetly wont be telling DS until I am at least 6 months. He still asks from time to time if the baby has come back

Sorry lunasea, I'm useless with temps. No idea what it all means!
Know what you mean about losing the innocence of pregnacy though Spub. I was so excited at the prospect of being pregnant again last night, then I woke up in the night and started remembering all the misery that happened last time, and it changed everything I think we'll be keeping it quiet if it happens again as well....apart from you lot of course. It's so good to have a place to be open about all this with out worrying about what to say if it goes wrong. Ahhhh gee love you guys

Diddle - I know what you mean about keeping it quiet. Thank God we can blab to each other.

And there's me panicing the other way because my normal temps seem too low. Have just been flicking through ff charts and can't find any where the base temperature seems to be as low as mine (consistent 35.2 +/- 0.1 pre OV). Anyone know if low temps are significant?

It's such a pisser this miscarriage malarkey.
I feel as if my "innocence" about being pregnant is gone and though I worried a bit when pregnany with my dd I really think I had no idea...
I'm desperate to get pregnant again but am also bricking it.
We'll all help each other through whatever the next few weeks bring.

Thanks Spub, I found that same article. It is a relief to know that fever DOESNT cause fetal death. One less thing to worry about.

Cori- did a quick search for you. Hope this helps. Hugs.

Maternal fever in early pregnancy not associated with fetal death
For immediate release - previously published online October 22 2002
Danish authors of a study in this week's issue of THE LANCET provide reassurance to pregnant women--maternal fever in the early stages of pregnancy is probably not a risk factor for miscarriage or stillbirth.
Increased maternal body temperature can cause fetal death in some animals, which has lead to the suspicion that maternal fever early in pregnancy (when embryonic development is at a critical stage) could have a similar effect in the human population.

Anne-Marie Nybo Andersen and colleagues from the Danish Epidemiology Science Centre, Statens Serum Institut, Copenhagen, and the University of Copenhagen, interviewed around 24,000 women who were recruited in the first half of pregnancy to the Danish National Birth Cohort Study. The investigators obtained information on the number of fever incidents during the first 16 weeks of pregnancy. For each fever episode, the highest measured body temperature, duration, and gestational age were recorded.

Around 5% of pregnancies resulted in miscarriage or stillbirth, and just under 20% of pregnant women had one or more fever episodes in the first 16 weeks of pregnancy. However, there was no association between maternal fever early in pregnancy and adverse fetal outcome--a finding that was consistent irrespective of measured maximum temperature, duration and number of fever incidents, or the gestational time of the fever incident, and was observed for fetal death in all three trimesters of pregnancy.

In an accompanying Commentary (p 1526), Kenneth Lyons Jones from the University of California San Diego, USA, concludes: "Because of the substantial barriers associated with the study of spontaneous abortion or fetal death, it is hard to imagine a feasible prospective study design that would be superior to that by Andersen and colleagues in addressing the risk associated with maternal fever. However, it is difficult to categorically conclude from this study, as do the investigators, that pregnant women need not fear a fetal death following an episode of fever."

am off to find out about fevers in early pregnancy, just to make myself even more paranoid. Humph..

ooooooh yes. (and not in a When Harry met Sally kind of a way, KWIM?)

I might not even be pregnant this month so could be worrying over nothing, but what do you think is a very high fever? My fever has got up 39 C. I dont feel to bad at the moment. Have been taking paracetemol so it is coming down.